member's only??  

neotrio 41M/38F
1469 posts
7/23/2006 11:54 pm

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10/7/2006 5:44 pm

member's only??

i found guam_MILF's blog YOU"RE Gonna PAY interesting and wanted to share it and my comment.

please go back and read her entry but here's a taste of it-

Men don't mind paying to be on this site. There are considerable more men paying than women. There are considerably more couples paying than women. But considerable less couples than men. And it seem to me that alot of the couples I have received emails from were written by the man? Now I wonder why women even Pay on this site. I counted only 14 paying women in Guam for all categories. I considered the possibility, what if we just didn't pay or play unless we were given unrestricted access? A revolution of swinging women changing the structure of corporate America. What would this site be without us? WE are the essence of AdultFriendFinder. Then I thought why not just make it accessible to all. We women don't want to be exclusive.

Well, there we are. I can't be wrong when so many of my peers agree with me. AdultFriendFinder has got to give me more reasons to crack open the credit card. I can deal with the restrictions placed on me. I can even forgo sending any email or viewing any profiles here. What is the purpose of this site? "Bringing like minded people together with common interest and goals?" I don't know about that. I do get what I came her for. I get a lot more attention and feel revived with purpose. Yet I still haven'theard what it was like from those who email me. What it was like to be a swinger. What it was like meeting someone. That's what I really need out of this site before I jump into the deep end.

The Bottom Line. I'm not gonna pay until there is more for me. I mean more substance and selection than what I have seen.

here's what i thought-

we've been silver members for a while. we forgot to renew membership since we've been on vacation but we fully intend to. i did the whole "to upgrade or not to upgrade??" number. in the end it just seemed like it was worth it. we could read all the profiles we wanted to, contact as many people as we cared to, see larger pictures, video. another thing about buying membership, it sort of gives a profile a bit more validity. you know, someone willing to put their money where their mouth is?

reading your blog, all of a sudden i'm reminded of the concept of ladies night at any ol' nightclub. "no cover charge" attracts the ladies which in turn attracts the men...ladies happy, men happy, bar happy...everyone's happy. i don't think you can really apply this to a.f.f.

you are correct about "women" as a commodity on the site, just about everyone is looking for women-couples, men, other women. i've, in previous blogs, referred to women on this site as mythical creatures, the ungettable get. most of the women on this site are either all talk or....fake. yeah i said it and we all know it. there's already a problem with fake profiles. giving "women" free membership? there'd probably be a surge of free, fake profiles with snickering pervs sitting behind the screen thinking they've just saved a buck. and who needs more of that?

and you?????

GuamBoyToy 40M
217 posts
7/25/2006 6:30 am

You know where I stand on the issue. As A gold member, I paid and dearly. But it was all worth it when a certain standard member caught my eye and my imagination. She certainly gave us all our money's worth. I would like to think that it was me and my profile that convenced her to antie up for that exclusive peek at larger photos.

There are alot of benifits to being a paid member. I even listed them in my post BabyMagic under upgrade or not upgrade.

Oh, Welcome back from vaction. We all missed you! Does that hand feel a little different now? (Inside Info)

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
7/28/2006 1:39 pm

~taking out my wallet~

GuamBoyToy 40M
217 posts
7/29/2006 10:59 pm

I had to say something to break the dreaded 666. Smile Sweet Neo!

GuamBoyToy 40M
217 posts
7/29/2006 11:15 pm

Did I not post to move the counter past 666?

sexedcravednemph 35M/30F
260 posts
7/31/2006 3:59 am

Well sweety, I agree with you. I must say her attitude in this blog makes her unattractive. In a round a bout way she is saying because she is a female and wanted by most, She deserves a free membership to satisfy others. I will keep my comments to myself on that because its a little rude. As for me and my husband, We would not mind a female but we dont need one. She makes it sound like the world would end without her. Your blog is well put and I enjoyed your opinion on this. hugs and kisses

sexedcravednemph 35M/30F
260 posts
8/1/2006 7:34 pm

I lest a comment on her blog. I feel that she is just a little frustrated with the site. Maybe her wording was wrong but I doubt her intentions were to offend anyone. Here is my comment:
Hi sweety. I hope you dont mind me dropping in to leave a comment. I must say I firmly disagree with your Blog. I know as a couple I (the female) make all of the contacts and I know alot of others as well that do that. If you are truly here for the same reason as us (swinging) Then why not pay. In life things are not handed to you. You pay for what you get in my opinion. I also feel that you are putting yourself and other women on a pedistal by stating that the site should be openly free to you. Sweety couples may want you but they dont need you. Same goes for men. I resent that you would state some of the things you have. We pay to be here sweety and I see no reason why it should be different for anyone else. Although you might be writing from frustration I am not sure. We have had no problems in finding like minded people and have been paying members for almost a year now. That monthly payment is nothing compared to the friends we have metand the friendships made. I hope you find friendships like that yourself. Maybe in turn it will change your mind on a few things.
As Neo stated sweety, There are too many fake women on this site. A membership shows that you are genuine. To answer your questions sweety, Being a swinger is great. It is fun and you make genuine friends out of it. As for what it is like to meet someone, We love it! You get very nerveous wondering what that person(s) is going to be like. As you await their arrival at your meeting place your nerveousness turns into excitement. Once you meet that person(s), and you get good vibes then it happens, you develop a wonderful friendship. Swinging is just part of the fun of a swinger's lifestyle. There are meet and greets, Meeting, Going out, having the actual scene, and having friendships with like minded people who have very common interests, and more. I hope I have answered your questions. I also Hope that I have not offended you. I just am unsure of your motive for writing this and what caused you to feel this way. If you ever have any uncertanties turn to a swinger for answers. Dont stand outside in the dark with questions on your mind when you can come inside for more than just ordinary answers. Hope I have helped in changing the way you see this site.

Maybe it will open her pretty eyes up a lil more to the lifestyle and the site.

downnhommeluv 37M/36F

10/4/2006 10:18 am

lol an entry saying i will not comment followed by the longest comment on here again lol who would of guessed from you

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