into the "swing" of things...  

neotrio 41M/38F
1469 posts
2/3/2006 11:46 pm

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into the "swing" of things...

you know how conversations, if you have them long enough, always become about sex...some friends of mine came upon the topic of "swinging" the other day. some of them were of the opinion that it was something that they could never do, which is totally understandable-it's not for everyone. Some of us (me) were quiet and really just observing. what got me was the comment, "where do you go from there..."

"...you do something like that to spice up your sex-life but what do you do when that gets old?"

my answer, i don't know. we're still new to the lifestyle so it's far from "old" but it is something that i hadn't really thought about.

so now i'm thinking about it and as we're soon heading down the aisle ourselves i'm curious:

what are your opinions experiences??

does the novelty wear out, and if so....what happens next?


sexedcravednemph 35M/30F
260 posts
2/4/2006 12:18 am

I stand with you. We are still fairly new but I dont forsee it getting old. And if it does it will not effect us any. We do this for fun and meeting nice people. We could be happy with each other and not swing at all.......but its fun and exciting. Where you choose to go from there is soley up to you and your spouse. people who have not ventured into this can not really judge it. I dont think novelty ever wears out..... but hey thats just us.


funseekers1279 42M/37F
1 post
2/4/2006 12:53 am

I NEVER THOUGHT OF IT THAT WAY. MY GIRLFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT THIS FOR QUITE SOME TIME AND THAT IS WHY WE JOINED. BUT--RIGHT WHAT'S NEXT? I GUESS YOU KEEP TRING NEW AND NEWER THINGS, UNTIL YOU RUN OUT AND THEN HOPEFULLY WE'RE OLD AND BORING AND CAN'T KEEP UP WITH THE TIMES ANYWAY.JUST THINK WHAT SEXUAL PEOPLE LIKE US WILL BE DOING IN THIRTY YEARS FROM NOW.NEW PEOPLE AND NEW THINGS, ACTING OUT, COSTUMES, THEME NIGHTS, ROLE PLAYING ECT. HAVE FUN FUNSEEKERS


timberwolf6972 44M

2/4/2006 2:23 am

I personally could never do it.I could never share the one that I loved with another. maybe my idea of love is just different from others. From my experience the the sex in the relationship is a reflection of the relationship itself. If you are bored with the sex then maybe the relationship itself is suffering and I would either try to fix it or just end it.Isn't at least part of sex in a relationship to express your love and affection for your partner?I would hate to think that I or my partner cheated right in front of each others faces and called it 'swinging' to make it easier to swallow.How can a person be truly in love with someone and even dream of allowing this thing to happen?This is just my opinion of course and I don't expect anyone to agree with me but since you asked me, I told you.


rm_delephrion 30M
23 posts
2/4/2006 2:34 am

I think if the novelty wore off you would just move on to something else in your life, and it probably wont be all that noticable at first its like when you realize that your hobbies today arent the same as 3 years ago.


sexedcravednemph 35M/30F
260 posts
2/4/2006 7:43 am

timberwolf I respect your thoughts. However just because a cpl swings doesnt mean their relationship suffers. Swinging is acting out fantasies and meeting new people. I am not ridiculing you so please dont take it as such but I do want to open your eyes to the fact that swinging does not indicate a troubled relationship. In fact you will find that most swingers are very much in love. we embrace life. We embrace that sexual part of us that eveyone else is scared of. Me and my husband could quit swinging today and be more than happy with each other. Swinging posed a new experience....something we could do together and have a great time. Life is too short to not live it to the fullest. When I do die I will have done everything in life I wanted. I know if I die tommorow my family, my husband, and my daughter will know just how much they were loved. I will go knowing I may not get to see another day but that I made the most of each and every one.
Neo...hope you dont mind my thoughts on this one

timberwolf-I hope not to offend you but to enlighten you on your assumption.


neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
2/8/2006 10:22 pm

sexedcraved-well everyone's entitled to their own opinion, we just happen to think along the same lines. i'm glad you guys are having a good time.

have fun.

p.s. i relaly like you're picture too...soo cute. can i call you "bubbles?"


neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
2/8/2006 10:25 pm

funseekers-i had no idea we'd be leading this lifestyle year and a half ago...so there's no way i can predict the next thirty years. sixty and swinging or not? who knows. we're just enjoying it while it lasts, hope you guys do too. thanks for dropping by.


neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
2/8/2006 10:31 pm

timberwolf-no offense taken, you're entitled to your opinion. we're in agreement that swinging isn't for everybody...it just so happens to work for some, us included. sex can be the greatest expression of love and affection. it can also just be about pleasure, as long as there's an understanding between all parties.

thanks for visiting my blog and for speaking your mind.


neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
2/8/2006 10:34 pm

delephrion-you might be onto something there...hmm....that means we probably have another 2 years to go. better cross everyone off our "to-do" list before then huh? lol.

welcome to my blog. come back soon and often.


sexedcravednemph 35M/30F
260 posts
2/9/2006 4:58 am

You can call me anything you would like sweetie! Bubbles is cute I like your new pic though...... very sexy.....


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