a "friend" in need...  

neotrio 41M/38F
1469 posts
7/3/2006 10:27 pm

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7/9/2006 12:24 am

a "friend" in need...

i've always found myself attracted to friends...

i mean why not right? there's a reason why you're friends with them in the first place. you like them, they like you. but sometimes, somewhere along the lines...i get physically attracted. now back when i was single, many moons ago, this wasn't a problem. you dug each other, you flirted, hung out, made out, saw each other....naked....in the back seat of his car....lol. but if it didn't turn into something more, you just chalked it up to a good time and something to laugh about years from now.

these days some things remain and some things have changed. i still find myself attracted to friends of ours, but no longer am i single and seemingly available for a harmless roll in the hay. now, you know and i know, and "the man" knows...that there's been some rolling in the hay lately-but these guys don't know that. so herewith in lies the problem.

theoretically, i could have these friends in my bed. but we'd have to expose our lifestyle to them and risk....well...exposure. (hey i just woke up, once again, too early for greatness. lol.) there was a guy, a friend of ours with whom i was really attracted. "the man" suggested that i approach him. my excuse was, "he's not in the club." (not that i know for sure, i have actually found some friends on this site.)

not being part of "the club" just means a potentially difficult situation. how discreet will this person be? how will it affect our friendship afterwards? how do i make a move without them thinking i'm cheating on the "the man"...blah, blah, blah....who wants to deal with all of that?

still though....i do have some pretty hot friends.

4awhile3 56M
6 posts
7/4/2006 3:58 am

wish you luck neo while wrestling with that dilemma. You have already defined the relationship as 'risk' to your own lifestyle exposure. In the end, we are all adults and our own judge of character. Do what you think is best for you and your family, babes.

Priapeo 46M

7/4/2006 9:01 am

Ex-lovers especially... they make such great friends!

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
7/4/2006 7:52 pm

my dear sweet neo,
i'm throwing a party! i'm blowing 100 candles... for my 100 posts. i will be so happy if you stop by.
my kisses to you. everywhere.

rm_Guam_MILF 41F
43 posts
7/5/2006 12:06 am

I have not had this problem. My friends are always attracted to something else. Not that I would notice or even know if they were attracted to me.

I guess what I would do (which I dont know what to do) being that I and my husband are ok with the idea; I would approach the Object of my Desires and ask them to join us. A friendly conversation that would eventually get around to some clue giving and discovery. Should the "night" be right and the planets be aligned, Then a "would you like join us for a night cap?" opportunity would be in order.

And, like you said, what if the object of desire blabs all over the island? Now everyone knows why I am so scared about being on this site. Not that someone will recognize my picture. There are hundreds of women on this island that look close enough like me that I would be able to brush the intrusion off with a disgusted gawk. However, having someone come up and point me out and rat me out would be something un-desirable.

Now I'm confused? Was I helping or making matters worse?

hornycplinguam 47M/44F

7/7/2006 12:59 am

Sounds to me like your just always horny!!

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
7/7/2006 1:21 am

4awhile-thank you, i will.

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
7/7/2006 1:23 am

priapeo-i had some friends with whom i became lovers...then we became ex-lovers and now we're back to friends. it's the circle of lust. lol.

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
7/7/2006 1:26 am

toothy- congrats on your 100th post.

i wish you much inspiration for hundreds more.


neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
7/7/2006 1:29 am

guam_milf-you are not making things worse, just speaking your mind...and there's nothing wrong with that. thank you.

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
7/7/2006 1:32 am

hornycpl-well...not all the time. most of the time, but not all of the time. heh heh


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