Should we or shouldn't we?  

neotrio 41M/38F
1469 posts
10/29/2005 3:37 pm

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Should we or shouldn't we?

with every other stroke of my keyboard, a.f.f. asks that we upgrade our account. we've been standard members since we signed up in may this year so we don't really know what the grass is like on the side of the upgrades. i was wondering, is it really worth it?

we don't get thousands of hits everyday, or so many emails that we need an automatic reply. we're not sifting through invitations or raffling off the chance to meet with us. in that sense, we're pretty content. the thing is that as standard members we really have to sit and wait for others to contact us. so there might be someone who strikes my fancy, but until they contact us....we're just twiddling away.

it would also be nice to be able to enlarge the profile pictures. in the realm of the standard, pictures.....are.....tiny. a fellow put his comp screen on cam for me once so i could see how the other half lived. becoming a silver or gold member would mean that i would finally "get the big picture." even with the saturation of "dick pics" (with the exception of your exceptionally yummy pic Mr. P/TooMuchPhun) on the site, there are still many pics that i'd like to view without having to break out the magnifying glass.

then of course there are supposed to be other perks like faster service, faster pic approval (which would be great for me since i obviously bore easily of my pics, by the way how do you like the new one?)....and....what else?

this is where i open the floor to you. what are the benefits? have you or haven't you? should i or shouldn't i? if so, gold or silver?? is there really that much of a difference between the two? thanks for your input, i'm hoping to make the final decision within the week.

still standard,

iluvjbsinaz 55M

10/29/2005 6:48 pm

I love the new pic, but I love all your pics.

Gold or Silver? I honestly can't remember why I became a Gold member. The biggest benefits are viewing profiles/pics and ability to contact anyone.

75 posts
10/29/2005 9:56 pm

Gold 149 $US a year, here’s what you get:

Unlimited Profile views. (ok, that’s worth it, but isn’t this site about unlimited contact potentials)

Unrestricted views of Profile pics, Photo albums (no wait, one has to be in the member's network first), and uuuwwwa oh yeah.. WEB CAMS, voice and video intros. (The cams and Intros are worth it)

Track who is viewing you (Mine still doesn’t work but did for a few months)

1000 max hot-list of members (Good to have when you’re short on time)

Send unlimited emails (Where does the time go anyway)

private chat rooms (oh, that’s extra charge)

Search Engine allows for specific search (doesn’t seem to work for me though, so what’s the big deal)

TOP OF THE WORLD listing. Your profile goes to the front of the line so all perverts, dweebs and psychos (and us too) see it before they get bored and go somewhere else

See Yahoo, AOL, MSN, and so on IDs of the member you want to contact (Sounds great.. but in order to see their ID, they have to post them first.)

Unlimited Cupid Matching (of people no where near

Tech support within 12 hours... Yeah Right, I'm still waiting for them to correct my Profile pic and link to network, account updates, View Trackin, ect

Store emails for 120 days (then they are automatically deleted. Use to be you would receive email directly in your personal email box, Now they offer AdultFriendFinder email boxes but they purge after so long. Suggestion, Route all emails to the persons private email address unless they want to pay for a private AdultFriendFinder email account with subscription.)


Does AdultFriendFinder work for you.?????

Answer, knowing that a lot of the same people are on other swinger sites and come online frequently, gives you more comfort about them being real. However, it isn’t guaranteed. For me, The year membership has given me a little more freedom, yet I still find myself asking if it was really worth it. After all, There are only 5 links that interest me (Network, Who’s viewing, New Matches, Intros, and Cams). Looking at the home page, one would think that there is so much to do, but its all time consumers.

Have I met more people here on AdultFriendFinder than other sites and places? I have to qualify that answer. No, I have "met" more people on other swingers’ sites. But I have met just as many people "FOR REAL MEETINGS" here as well as Yahoo and MSN. The difference is "For Real". NO game playing, just seeking, looking for something to do people. On this island, there are very few real swingers. Therefore, to say I have met 16 people from AdultFriendFinder is to say that I have met 48 people all together. Yes, I have met more than 48 swingers on this island, but they were just visiting or have moved away after a short military stay. Remember, I been doing this for a long time. Out of the 60 to 70 people I have met, only 10 or so I consider to be close friends. Out of the TEN, three I met on AdultFriendFinder (the other 7 are also members but were not when I met them).

For me, all I can say is, What are you looking for? Opportunity ... Then yes, AdultFriendFinder is the place. Full Frontal Contact Sex... AdultFriendFinder is just like the other sites and pick up joints; you get what is available at the time. Should you go Gold or Silver.. the only advantage gold has over silver is the super sized Photos, in my opinion.

Oh, one more thing thats great about AdultFriendFinder. They let you decide if you want your credit card automaticly billed or a reminder that your account is expiring at the end of the month. For me, this is a BIG PLUS.

MisterPriapus 56M
6980 posts
10/31/2005 2:59 am


First off, I have to tell you that you are anything but Standard, Darlin'! (Oh, and btw- *BLUSH*)

I was Silver for quite a while; Bigger pix, ability to initiate contact, and capability to view profiles. I didn't see what benefits there were for me by going Gold that justified the price.

When their system burped back in March, I think it was- they didn't auto-bill me, and sent me back to Standard Hell.

I lost all my contacts, emails, and privileges. All of which honked me off, mightily!!!

Since I got no satisfaction from customer service ("Too bad, so sad. Everything's been deleted from our system. Would you like to renew or upgrade?"), I decided to leave things where they were put- they didn't want my money, I didn't want to pay for crappy service!

Granted, they do seem to be working in some upgrades, but for now I'm gonna take a "Wait n See" approach. Especially since the only people that are worth communicating with already reside here in Blogsville!

(And- Oh, YES!!!

I very much like the new pic, in case you didn't catch that in reply to one of your Comments you made on My World

VERY fetching! rowr!)


Been a while since they last let me out into polite society. Resurfacing, catching a breath, & catching up.

And while I got my Broad-Brimmed Pimping Hat on, could I cajole all of y'all to Comment on, Alone In A Cloud? It's probably the best thing that I've written!



rm_DramaFree671 44M

10/31/2005 3:01 am

If you're looking for a reason to spend a few extra bucks a month, I'll email you my savings account # ......

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
10/31/2005 1:00 pm


the main reasons why we're interested in upgrading is for exactly that, larger pictures and more contacting capability...btw, speaking of pics....when are you gonna put one up? i've shown you

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
10/31/2005 1:07 pm

bmagic-that was an extremely detailed answer. thanks. you’ve given us lots to consider, not just “gold or silver?” but other sites as well. I mean I don’t think I could cut A.F.F. out all together, (and leave my baby blog?) but the other sites, it seems, are worth checking out.

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
10/31/2005 1:19 pm


"no you're anything but standard"...."no you are!".....

heh heh.

sorry to hear about your sentencing into standard hell. i had read about that in an earlier blog of yours. is it really that bad down here? i guess so, after living "the good life?" anything less is....well....less. but being dicked around by customer service has gotta suck, and not the way you'd want to be. well it's still up in the air for us. need to do more research.

yes i did read what you wrote in your post. sorry to pull the ol' switch-a-roonie on ya. i still haven't had the courage to pan down but i'm still working on it.

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
10/31/2005 1:21 pm

mandingo- and would this monthy fee include


toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
11/2/2005 6:51 am

I became a gold member so that I don't have to count my points, so that I can freely contact whoever I want. In that sense I guess it 's OK. I 'm not even sure what the other differences are.

PS: Love the new pic. Lips AND cleavage! What do you think of mine?

neotrio 41M/38F
1213 posts
11/2/2005 7:16 am

toothy-ahhh...points. that's a good...uh..point (probably could have worded that better. lol) but yes i do find myself counting and trying to earn more points and saving them for something special. i'll take that into consideration for sure.

regarding the new pic, thanks. and i was going to comment on yours too. me likey!! someone once told me that he could piece all my pics together and almost see all of me, i can say the same about you. i don't know how you did it but you managed to capture sexy, kind and seductive in one look...the smile matched the handle but the eyes truly say it all.

toothysmile 50M
16515 posts
11/3/2005 12:50 am

Your words mean a lot neo.
You are a friend. I 'll try to piece your pics now...


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