Approaching Women... Anywhere ...  

nellydalia767 39F
70 posts
2/17/2006 9:13 am

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Approaching Women... Anywhere ...

At one point or another, we've all wanted to approach a beautiful woman. Whether she just walks past us, or is seated at a table across us in the same restaurant, the thought has crossed our minds. But when the time comes to actually approach her, we simply sit back and rationalize that it isn't the appropriate time to make a move.
Most men refuse to approach women because they have no idea how to go about it, especially on the street. Hey, if it's hard enough approaching women in nightclubs -- where the environment invites social communication -- then imagine how much harder it is when it comes to the outside world... in the daylight... with no alcohol.

you never know who you'll meet

I've met a lot of beautiful women over the years, but the most interesting ones were those that I met by chance: on the street, in a café or even at a restaurant. These women were also the ones I found most difficult to approach.
The only problem is that the situation is a little trickier. Firstly, you only have a few moments to make a courageous move, unlike in a dance club, where you have all night to break the ice. Secondly, because you're in a not-so-welcoming environment, some women may find your approach suspicious.

10 Common Mistakes Men Make

Unfortunately, some men don't realize that certain factors will deter a woman from accepting an advancement or invitation from a total stranger. Here are the top 10 common mistakes men make when approaching a woman:

1- Forgetting her comfort zone
Just because you know you're a nice guy, that doesn't mean she will. It is important to realize that most women will be on their guard when you first approach them. This is normal, and the important thing is for you to come across as a harmless guy. A little humor usually helps.

2- Trying to fool her
The second biggest error most men make is that they don't give women enough credit and respect. Most men think that they can fool a woman into giving them their number. Women know that you're trying to pick them up, so don't beat around the bush. Be direct and let them know exactly what you want. By doing so, you'll come across as a confident and straightforward guy.

3- Approaching without a plan
Some people can improvise successfully, but regardless of the case, having a plan always helps your chances of coming across as a person she might consider dating.

4- Acting like a pervert
A lot of men sabotage their chances with women by keeping their eyes aimed down at their breasts. Instead, keep your eyes locked onto hers. You want her to think that you're the knight in shining armor who's going to sweep her off her feet -- not the dog who's just sniffing any old fire hydrant ready to mark his territory.

On to more common goof-ups...

SOSO1014 29F

2/18/2006 2:14 pm

Free advice for the boys, glad you are our Friends

eternal1969 46M
1634 posts
2/18/2006 10:06 pm

hmmm thanks for all the advice

nellydalia767 39F

2/19/2006 2:32 pm

thanx darl love ya ...and i'm glad that u're my friend too

nellydalia767 39F

2/19/2006 2:33 pm

no worries eternal1969 ;p its my pleasure

rm_kandinsky66 51M/51F

2/21/2006 12:08 pm

hmmmmm i admire the analysis and the confidence but most of all the effort in making men 'better' or is it more about making it more bearable for women

hardleg70006 45M
1 post
2/23/2006 6:55 pm

i don t think that i ve been direct enough , i may need to come right out and say to her next time , even though it s like something out of a movie or some thing , and it feels kind of un original to go that way , always hoped we would just meet end up spending time together and it would happen naturally , but it doesn t always work that way , and in retrospect i guess it never did

thanks for the insight though , and by the way you have a great picture/body , when you are ready to celebrate your birthday just put your suit on and call me i ll be right over

chocseeksvanilla 49M

2/25/2006 4:18 pm

Wow! Great information this topic as well. This one is tough to call! I think it all depends on a woman's attitude. It's the women who are beautiful, but they know it and act stuck up! I don't know if women realize this, you be as awesome as Halle Berry, but if you have an attitude my attraction for you will disappear. Just like with all communications,it's the tone that you use!


groomedpubes2 59M
106 posts
2/28/2006 5:38 pm

I have never been confident in my looks and women seem to be very very guarded here in silicon valley.

rm_skinnybiker2 68M
6 posts
3/1/2006 2:27 pm

Hey, I think you guys are cool. I'd like to join your group, and talk with y'all, maaaaybe more! I'm kinda new to all this chat room and even computer singles thing. Bar-hopping doesn't work anymore; the
doc says quit drinking, so I just landed on YOUR planet, but I need a little help figuring out the language, if ya know what I mean. In
Houston for 21 years, and still feel kinda strange here, so....
I'm 58 in 2 weeks, and I like younger women, because I seem to get along with them better. Women my age seem to expect a "package deal",
ie.,more highly "accomplished" than I am. I'm an ordinary guy, not a
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rm_aztecangel28 43M

3/21/2006 7:42 am


rm_lone_wolf58 57M
1 post
4/23/2006 5:12 pm

Good advice

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