More snow  

needtoknowu1000 47F
225 posts
4/24/2006 12:16 pm

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4/27/2006 5:43 am

More snow

And it goes on. I'm ready for nice, spring weather. I want to get out there in a tank top and see what happens; it's the mating season and we're covered with snow.

I'm just wondering how many people have found swinging fun and free from stress. I mean, it seems like people all have so much drama in their lives. I would have to include myself in that, as it seems like I have a fresh "new" attitude with every new day.

I'm not looking for a husband. God knows, the one I have is enough of a challenge for me! And I'm not looking to just meet a stranger for sex. If I want that, I can just go out on the town and within reason, pretty much take my pick.

I guess I'm looking for a friend, someone I find attractive, sense of humor and some intelligence. Attached? Some problems come with that. Unattached? Certain other problems with that. People are somehow hard-wired, but I’ve yet to put my finger on how. Jealousy, insecurity, or aloofness and arrogance; there has got to be a balance, doesn’t there?

Heather_Molly 43F/44F

4/24/2006 2:23 pm

Sure there is a balance - thats called committment to yourself or your loved one or the idea that you hold true to your heart - However we joined this site to tip that balance more to our advantage - sure we are here for other people but initially we joined AdultFriendFinder to satisfy our own personnell needs to expand our relationship with one another to find more balance in what we have togeather.

Another view point is to Take Heart in what you have already, but expand on what you need or are not getting at home and if you are getting it but feel you need more, we are sure there is someone out there two that needs more then what they have at home, or enhancing what they have, or they wouldn't be on this site looking, so that in it's self is the balance you are looking for and evens out when you find that other person or couple.

Kisses Heather and Molly

needtoknowu1000 47F

4/24/2006 2:26 pm


rm_iristron 57M

4/24/2006 3:09 pm

Wow Heather and Molly thats hitting the nail on the head but very deep.


needtoknowu1000 47F

4/25/2006 5:42 am

Heather Molly are cool! It's wonderful to have you here mzhunyhole. Hi iristron.

rm_gorilla062 49M
232 posts
4/25/2006 6:56 am

Balance in life is what we all seek... one of the reasons we always look for changes in our lives both in and out of relationships. Look into yourself for some balance first... really find out what you want... WRITE it down... not in a blog but somewhere that you can read it every day. Look for those things in every day and everyone you meet regardless of your relationship.... you will find inner peace and better balance as you perfect and tweak this journal or list. You will begin to know in an instant if you and another person click in any way. Be it friend or lover. Do not let others guilt be yours... that is drama brought by them... if the cannot handle own relationship why should they get into another.. even if just for sex or friendship!

needtoknowu1000 47F

4/25/2006 12:52 pm

Good insight gorilla--much appreciated.

Passionate4u2day 47M
1 post
4/25/2006 4:08 pm

Hi. I am also new to all this. For me I would like to find a friend with benefits. I need that contection. I never have or could never do a one night stand thing. I would love to find that 'friend' where we could go hiking one day then in one private back woods area we have hot passionate sex under the summer sun. Then another day just spend hanging out and being goofy. myabe that's just me.

needtoknowu1000 47F

4/26/2006 6:14 am

No, it's not just you. A lot of us would like what you describe. The problem is, it can be hard to find just the right chemistry. It can't just be conjured up and if one is lucky enough, it is like finding that needle in a haystack. On top of it, when you find someone, there are always other attachments, other people to think about and are part of the equation. A person just has to be really, really lucky.

Catharsis33 44M

4/26/2006 8:18 pm

I will take luck any day, lol. I like this site simply because I can find open minded people that you can talk to. I hate walking on egg shells with people that are much more reserved. I feel I can not be myself around them or say what is on my mind without fear of offending someone. When you do find people on this site or anywhere else that are like minded then keep them as friends for as long as possible.


needtoknowu1000 47F

4/27/2006 5:43 am

That's so true. Even my friend Kim, she's fun to go out and party with, but she's not completely non-judgmental. She knows, within reason as much about how my husband and I conduct our lives. Sometimes, she comes off like I’m a little sinful or whatever to be married and go out looking for guys. Friends are hard to come by and should be treasured.

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