Afraid to have a good time?  

needtoknowu1000 47F
225 posts
5/3/2006 11:21 am

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5/8/2006 7:26 am

Afraid to have a good time?

Alternative lifestyles like swinging and open marriage are not for the faint-hearted. I see that so many people on here have so much drama in their lives. I think it goes with the territory.

Some of these guys though. They want to talk, but are afraid to meet a woman in a public place when it comes to that. To me, that’s just plain weird. I really don’t bite, unless you want me to

It’s harder than one would think to get something going on here and guys are as hard to line up as couples. I did have a good time with one guy, but we just emailed back and forth and got each other off. It was good.

I have offered to meet a couple of different guys and given them the place and the time. Both were no shows. Again, weird. Just what is so intimidating about a woman who wants to see you in real time and decide if the panties are going to come off and give way to unimaginable mutual pleasure?

Some people are too timid to enjoy life and they’re the ones who miss out.

rm_gorilla062 50M
232 posts
5/3/2006 11:39 am

Many men cannot handle the fact that it is happening under a womans terms. It turns them on but also scares the hell out of them. That tells me they are insecure with their own masculinity. I know I have my own psyche problems with this.. mainly not happy with my appearance and not wanting to disappoint. I am working on that tho and getting more willing to meet up with women. Keep trying you will find some that are not afraid.. and very willing!
Like I said before if I ever go west to SD I will warn you first cuz I will wanna meet!!!

Catharsis33 44M

5/3/2006 12:08 pm

Tell me when and where LOL.

FriendlyFuk66 50M

5/3/2006 12:21 pm

I have always maintained that I will gladly meet up with anyone as long as it works out with my schedule. I am definitely not a pretty boy and have been called a nice guy so I strike out constantly.

needtoknowu1000 47F

5/3/2006 12:36 pm

I just learned I'm over my quota for writing emails as a standard member. Tomorrow I guess.

WayneMarie4girl 45M/38F

5/3/2006 2:41 pm

Would of thought that they would of been breaking down your door.

sexloverocknroll 57M
415 posts
5/3/2006 2:45 pm

Stop by my blog sometime and you can see some of my stories about my troubles finding someone on here. I much prefer face 2 face, but then I am old school. I would much prefer to see and hear her body langague and her eyes.

GentleCouple70 46M/47F

5/3/2006 4:40 pm

We are learning to have a lot of patience with this whole swingin' thing. Many, many challenges and everyone has a story or two to tell. I think one of the biggest challenges is coordinating schedules. Then to think that some jacka**, would not show up is frustrating. Another challenge is getting people to understand that it is just a meeting: we meet at a local food establishment, have a bite to eat, some good conversation, go home, absorb, sort through the event and see if we want to meet again. The nice thing we have liked so far is we have been able to get along with the couples we have met on any level.

NeedToKnowU1000, maybe it is for the best that you haven't met some of these guys...maybe they have no personality. In my opinion a good personality will enhance the sex and when sex is not at the top of the meeting agenda (especially the first meeting), then it makes it that more enjoyable when it does happen. Again, just my opinion.


needtoknowu1000 47F

5/4/2006 5:51 am

TJ, I'm thinking that's the advantage going out and socializing has over trying to meet through the Internet. Walk in a bar, see who's available and interested and take my pick. Somehow, some guys have a problem with meeting off the Internet, even just for a cup of coffee. Like gorilla said, they have their different reasons, so I guess it's okay. It's just not what you'd think, especially the way some guys talk

rm_gorilla062 50M
232 posts
5/4/2006 8:15 am

I guess I have aslightly different philosophy.
No guts no glory... no balls no story!!lol

needtoknowu1000 47F

5/5/2006 7:24 pm

Distance can be a problem. Sometimes though, I think it's just fear. As irrational as that sounds, some guys get frightened when it gets right down to it. They disfunction, misfire, or just plain don't show up.

rishabha 38M/36F

5/6/2006 11:01 am

Very interesting blog! I think a lot of people are a bit afraid of the world of swinging. They like the idea a lot, but they get confused thinking about the realization. And that is for many reasons: to meet somebody you don't really know, to get intimate with them, some worries about health and discreetness, they feel not experienced enough and don't want to disappoint others or themselves.
We are for example both very interested in some free sexuality, but we are quite insecure when it's about realizing it.

needtoknowu1000 47F

5/8/2006 7:26 am

It never goes exactly as you think it should either. Such is life

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