Concerned about an IM relationship  

ndhanks 53M
8 posts
7/15/2005 12:02 pm

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Concerned about an IM relationship

I've been chatting online with a woman from the Phillipines for about a month. Now she thinks she is in love with me. I have a cam so she has been able to see me live, but she doesn't and she has only sent me one picture. We've had long conversations but I just don't feel that close to her. She is special to me, but without more in person, physical contact I don't feel I know her well enough. She gets upset when I have to stop chatting, acts like I'm brushing her off. I met here in a chat room on Yahoo, and don't hope she doesn't use this site.

I had a bad experience with my marriage, was really hurt. My ex was having emotional issues stemming from childhood and I has taking the heat. I would try to support her but it was hard and I know I would lash out verbaly when it got to bad. After the divorce I did get custody of our kids, witch didn't make it any easier between me and my ex for a long time.

So, what I'm trying to get to is I don't know if part of my problem is reluctance to commit.

rm_mieze626 52F
145 posts
7/15/2005 3:58 pm

if u r not ready to commit, don't do it. if u stop chatting, she is just SOL...don't let her run your life and don't feel bad. she is way to far away. there r so many other ladies out there, and right around your corner. how the hell can she be in love with u? she doesn't even know u at all...u don't have a problem, u r careful and please continue that way...don't get yourself into something what u will regret...just a little thought

wert59 50M
2480 posts
7/20/2005 1:56 am

hank mate,you are right to take it steady,as the ladies have told you stay here and find yourself a little,youve had a rough ride recently and theres no need to commit to anyone at the moment,looking after your kids is the only commitment you owe this world, if she doesnt understand tough on her, you are talking to a girl in a country where selling your children for whatever perverse reason is the norm, how the hell does she understand your situation? dont commit mate,not to someone who really doesnt understand western culture,but im no prophet so i may be talking drivel,im just saying keep smileing and be honest with yourself and family,atleast that way you will lose nothing and gain a happy homestead,
cheers mate sven

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