Getting stood up  

nchotbod69 48M/47F
63 posts
4/6/2005 9:49 am

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2/12/2008 2:00 am

Getting stood up


I Just hate it when a guy tells you he's going to meet you. You get ready, get fixed up nice and then he doesn't show, or call.

The least they could do is call and say they can't make it. Tell me a lie i don't care as long as you tell me something. I could have found something else to do with the time i wated for them. This is the fourth time this has happened in as many weeks.

So you men out there if you can't make it CALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

rm_nordic68 48M
36 posts
4/6/2005 5:27 pm

Maybe that's a consequence of being a couple; the guys probably figure you're going to be with your man anyway, so why do they need to show up?


rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
4/8/2005 9:28 am

You've run into what is called "no class." They probably didn't think you would meet them anyway. It's a shame really. Don't give up hope... it certainly isn't your fault. Maybe just a little more selective before you agree to meet. There really are some nice people out here.


NYCplforFun1 62M/60F

4/13/2005 1:51 am

Its a real drag when they don't show! Its happened to us SEVERAL times also. You chat & chat & chat, they seem real and anxious; you get all ready (as my wife has) and then NO SHOW & NO CALL! We would never do that to anyone. Really gives guys a black eye (they deserve it?) Anyway guys, remember all the crapola us Cpls. go through.


GODS_SON 45M

4/24/2005 1:09 pm

I have personaly cancelled,some get togethers myself,but at least,i called.....for me.....its the couples thing,sometimes were a little uncomfortable for the 1st time...as ur husband is already comfortable with u,i usualy ask for a 1st meet alone to get comfortable with the wife 1st,before a full blown 3some,it might sound a little gun shy,but i know a lot of guys that feel that way & on the flip side most couples dont trust the wife alone,( which is perfectly understandable ) so its realy a catch 22,however in the past my way has worked out pretty good,as after meeting with the wife alone for the 1st time,i felt real relaxed & comfortable the next time when we all got together.....Gods_son.


SteelLooking4sex 57M

6/5/2005 12:12 am

I too have gotten that same treatment from couples AND Ladies....it's not just the men, Ladies...I think that 90% of those on AdultFriendFinder, are here to just look, lurk, and see just how far they can go without having to go through with really meeting......I, for one, am ready, willing and very able to meet...same thing with me, life comes first, but I DO KNOW what a phone is and how to use it.!!!


PiedmontFunClub 57G
3 posts
6/22/2005 3:22 pm

I must agree, it is not just the ladies getting stood up. I set up events, spend a lot of time inviting people, reminding them, messaging back and forth, and asking if they will be there. I get a lot of no shows every event. It takes a lot of time to set up an event, so I know how you feel. I too just wish they had the courtesy to call if they will not show, or just not tell me they will be there in the first place if they think they will back out... And yes Steel, I think there are a lot of people who just want to look at the pictures... too bad because the real thing is som much better than the picture!


nc_snake 45M

6/25/2005 9:04 am

I know how you feel hotbod. I had something set up for tues and it feel through. She was supposed to give me directions to her house, and never did.


butterflygirl469 58M/60F
1 post
8/10/2005 3:43 pm

My partner has been swinging for a while and he says most swinging mags or sites are no different than AdultFriendFinder and no shows occur. I spend a good amount of time getting ready so I am ready for anything and if it's a no show I feel cheated.


navydude1234 33M

9/11/2005 10:25 pm

well ladies i would love to meet all of you when i get back from iraq. interested email me at AdultFriendFinder


rm_JOBY56 60M

9/12/2005 10:47 am

WHATS WORSE IS WHEN YOU GET TOGETHER WITH THE COUPLE AND THE HUSBAND GETS JELIOUS BECAUSE HE CUMS AFTER JUST A SHORT TIME AND I KEEP ON GOING, AND GOING, I MEAN ISN'T THAT WHAT THEY WANTED, IF HE DIDN'T WANT HER HAPPY, THEN WHY DO IT TO BEGIN WITH! I ONLY HAD TO MISS ONE DATE SO FAR AND I CALLED HOURS BEFORE, AND I HAD A GOOD REASON. WE GOT TOGETHER A WEEK LATER, AND ALL HAD FUN, AND THEY UNDERSTOUD IT WASN'T BECAUSE I WANTED TO MISS THE DATE , BUT BECAUSE I HAD TO. JOBY


rm_loganoif2 35M

9/13/2005 9:33 am

i dont know why someone would stand u up ur friken hot any way if ur interested in meeting some time go ahead and write me


1stslavemaster 56M

10/28/2005 5:16 pm

If you give me a chance I will make a date and keep it.


asweetNCcouple 46M/38F

11/2/2005 4:06 pm

Hey... we have been stood up by women and couples but never men. If they were really men then I am sure they are freaking crazy


teddybare852 58M

12/18/2005 8:13 am

girl i would never stand you UP.


gr8_1nbed2 46M

6/9/2006 9:17 pm

I have yet to get an offer from someone on AdultFriendFinder let alone stand someone up. I get excited just getting an email from someone let alone meeting them. Well you can always invite me and things workout then so be it.


Blackcuminu 44M

9/8/2006 7:02 pm

That's funny! We men get stood up too! That's why I make it a point to meet in a non sexual atmosphere first so that we are all comfortable. Take the time to get to know the person and no-shows are not as much a problem. But they still occur. I guess that comes with AdultFriendFinder


Tallcelt1969 48M

10/30/2006 7:43 pm

Personally, I've never stood anyone up before. Also, any guy would be CRAZY to stand up HOTBOD because she and her hubby are the nicest people - I've had GREAT times with them!
I HAVE been stood up before though and it is INFURIATING! One guy told be about his wife for weeks and weeks, IMing me and wanting to know what I'd do with her, blah, blah. And when the time came to meet (on FOUR occasions!), he ignored my phone call and my IM's. I wondered why he even set anything up in the first place and his wife (despite the face that we'd talked before on the phone and she was "ready") was equally flakey!
Bottom line....some people are flakey idiots and have no business in this lifestyle because they have no manners or class. It's a shame that we all have to deal with this kinda' thing from people who supposedly want to "get together."....


rm_watchoveru 45M
9 posts
3/6/2007 6:24 am

I have had the same things happen to me. I chatted with a lady here recently and we agreed to get together to meet. We set the day and time and then I told her I just needed an address to meet her and she quit chatting and has not responded to any IM or email I have sent her since. I was excited and really looking forward to meeting her and then nothing. Oh well, guess everyone isn't serious about meeting.


rm_flight1951 56M

9/2/2007 9:00 am

For all you ladies that are getting stood up, just give me a chance to meet you and I will make sure you don't get stood up or disappointed........flight 1951


fe26mike1 36M

5/28/2008 9:09 am

I know the feeling. It seems like no matter how straight up I am and try to let everyone know I'm for real, I tend to constantly end up making the mistake of making plans with no shows. Everyone always has explanations for it all, but I wonder at times if they actually stop to consider the time that was spent in not only the missed meeting, but in all the work of scheduling the time.


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