Am I wasting my time?  

rm_nawty1974 45M/42F
189 posts
4/7/2006 9:58 am

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Am I wasting my time?

I have had meets set up for the last three weekends and three times they have been cancelled at the last minute. I don't really care for whatever reason or whether the reasons were valid or not. Three times is too many for co-incidence. So I want to know what people are on this site for? Go into the discussion groups in any other country and things are very different. Having lived overseas for a long time I may be a little more open minded, I know SA is conservative but come on guys don't tell me you don't understand what this site is all about. I am not having a go at any one person so don't feel I am pointing the finger at you.
I am just so sick of the run around. In order for me to meet anyone it takes quite a bit of organisation on my side and involves me having to return favours all of which take up what precious time I have on the weekends. I am sick of messing around my family for the sake of time wasters. Yes I am whinging and ranting but I am just fed up with it all.
I am no longer going to waste my time online sending e-mails back and forth. I want to meet people who are serious, lets just go for a drink and get to know each other, see where that takes us. I will never pressurise anyone and I expect the same in return.

If you would like to set up a meet with my husband and I the rules are as follows:
1. Guys or couples between 25 and 45
2. Only serious people need mail us, if you make an arrangement to meet, stick to it.
3. Send me a mail to my nic at yahoo with 2 headshots, I will do the same by return. I prefer to see your face than your dick, call me weird!
4. Preferably 6 inches and above.
5. Make sure you have read my profile, I am not going to explain myself over and over.
6. You should be able to string more than a sentence together.

If you are not willing to do any of the above then piss off.
If you feel you need to get to know me first before sending pics I understand that but I will not meet you until I have seen a pic, I'm going to see you anyway so there is no reason not to.

We are not here just to get laid, we have amazing sex but we like to have fun with others, is adds to the excitement and I really enjoy having 2 men.

And for those of you that don't know what discretion is let me explain. It means keeping your big trap shut about who you meet , fuck or whatever. If you think its big and clever to tell me which members you have fucked you will be ignored. Bragging about your exploits is not sexy in any way. It just shows me how immature you are and do you really think I will want to meet you so you can go and brag about me to other members. No thanks, not this chicken. If I do meet you, you are welcome to put a testamonial on our page as I can delete if I want to, I will do the same if you want it.

Just because you are horny does not automatically mean you should be a member of this site, this is AdultFriendFinder, not little johnny online wanking.

Thank you and good night

PS Now you all know I can be a real bitch when I am hacked of lol!

powerbella 43F

4/8/2006 1:32 am

Ag Nawty I was just reminded now how much I do like you!! You are not bitchy at all, it was actually just telling the truth the way it is!!! Those that can't handle the truth are welcome to search a bit more...

rm_nawty1974 45M/42F
126 posts
4/8/2006 8:02 am

Power I was actually going to delete the entry now that I have calmed down. I feel a bit bad venting but what the hell. I guess it should stay because I meant it at the time.
I can't even blame PMS!
I think I just need a good seeing to, this cookie is getting frustrated lol!

kwtrio 48M  
41 posts
4/8/2006 12:30 pm

no no don't delete anything what you say is all true had same experience my self most of the lady's are cock teasers they talk the talk but don't walk the walk ive had hotels champagne and strawberry's all arranged to only be sms ed sorry cant make it cum on is this place a joke when im overseas this never happens

JungleKing369 43M

4/11/2006 9:46 am

I can imagine your frustration as I would be just as peeved if that happened to me. I think the important thing to do is to just keep at it as I am sure that there are some good people out there who are worth meeting and will not let you down.

latinloveruk 43M
55 posts
4/11/2006 2:18 pm

Hi there, well I would love to meet you, genuinely interested in trying new things(i.e 3sum) and based in cape town. I meet all your criteria except 5 as not a full member yet. You can mail me your yahoo and I will happily send pics etc.

Absolutall 49M

4/19/2006 5:41 am



rm_nawty1974 45M/42F
126 posts
4/22/2006 5:29 am

OMG should I shoot myself now or later!!

Sweetie pie its people like you that entice me to write bitchy blogs.

rm_brunnocape 40M
3 posts
4/30/2006 4:40 pm


I think you just have bad lucky so far. That is clear that, despite such bad experiences, really exist people broadly minded and that shares the desire to have some discreet sex fun.

The problem that many people have the will - but not the courage and then such situations take place.

I liked your profile and get interested in contact you. I am a young (30 y.o.) white Brazilian guy with some experience in threesome sex in Brazil, and I want to keep such life-style here in SA.

Please, get in touch with me in the e-mail dbruno @ Then I would be happy in telling you more about me, my ideas, experiences, etc… and send you some pics (face included!).

If you like we can build up a nice and discreet friendship.

My proposal is serious, and I would not give up a meeting with you.

You guys keep well.


SweetestRelease 52M/48F

5/1/2006 5:18 am

Nawty just stumbled upon your blog..have read bits and pieces here and there. Personally I think you are flogging a dead horse. Yes we live in a beautiful city, but capetonians are never going to change....all you will find here is a handful or more of single and married men who want to get their rocks off. Check out our profile, lets chat, we dont have time or patience for b/s either.....

rm_brunnocape 40M
3 posts
5/1/2006 8:14 am

Nawty and Sweetes,

I am looking forward to get in touch with you and make new friends. I want share my Brzilian experience with couples and single ladies in CT.


newwave1973 43M
1 post
5/4/2006 11:49 pm

hi naughty
i have had similar experieces as urself and yes it is frustrating when people are all talk and no action.
i have had many experiences overseas and there u find a totally different story.
here i find that ppl are more cumfy behind a screen than as in person.
i actually have to differ on the comment that Sweet/Release made ...we do live in a beautiful city and out there is many that share the alternative lifestyle in a very discrete and professional manner....unfortunately they are not on this site.

i am a serious person when it comes to sex and if u interested rop me a line on AdultFriendFinder mail...i live in the norhtern subs...kuilsriver to be exact.

what pisses me off the most is that ppl join this group not realizing what exactly it is
(1) the sites name could not have been more clear its a adult website and not a chatroom
(2) yes making friends is cool but dont get offended if the guy makes moves on u.

gentlelove1012 46M

5/8/2006 8:23 am


You go girl! I have tried to set up some meets with some girls and they chicken out. But i will be in CT this weekend.
SMS your mail addy to zero seven eight, three four seven, one seven four seven.
Then i can get back to you and sort out pics.

And I could not agree more with your sentiments

Naughtyfuck692 47M
15 posts
5/8/2006 9:54 am

WOW Nicely said.

I'll remember not to get on your wrong side.

Tell it like it is.

Indulge_me101 54F

5/10/2006 1:46 am

Hi Nawty
I do agree with u to some extent. Just want to add that I also had wonderful meetings in Cape Town, but also in the same breath....I had wrotten ones. But most were very memorable. Good luck with your decision u made, and please do come and visit us anytime u like.

rm_harvard72 44M

6/25/2006 10:15 am

Hi, i will definitely NOT waste your time. I`m new to the site, can you give me an e mail ad?

gogrrr4me 47M

9/1/2007 2:16 pm

harvard, go get your money back from varsity. the addy is in the writing!!!

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