An open letter  

naughtyakcouple 43M/39F
31 posts
8/16/2005 2:33 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

An open letter


I have to be honest...

My husband and I haven't begun really "swinging" yet. We had a little fun in '99. But it was short lived. Our lives became hectic and we decided to focus on family, rather than the sexual adventures we fantasized about.

So it is now 2005. We've been monogamous for about
5 1/2 years.

I've chatted with many men and couples on Yahoo messenger. Our profile here at AdultFriendFinder has had many winks, emails and comments on my blog. We have people interested in us! But yet, I'm in a place where I'm still unsure if this is the road I want us to take as a couple.

I have this idea that if we "cross that line", something bad will happen.

I've always been a very cautious person. However at the same time, this is a very big decision that him and I have to make. He said he doesn't care if we swing or not. I please him. And I feel much the same way as he does. Yet, I know that both of us daydream about what it would be like to be with a couple, since we never have.

My question for those of you that come here to read this today - If you are married and have been for a long time...what made you decide to go ahead and swing? And how long did the decision take you to make? Are you happy with what you have decided and is your marriage still the same as it was? Or better?

Thank you

-M

anchcpl4fun 40M/44F

9/9/2005 3:05 pm

been married goin on 9 years, been playing for about 5 of them. the BIGGEST most important part of it to make it last and keep your marriage if you do do it, is COMMUNICATION.......as with any marriage....but even more so when you bring other elements like this into it. You both have to be totally up front with each other about what you want out of it before you even think about making that step. One of you cant be doing it to please the other...that just opens ya up for all sorts of jealousies and hurt feelings....this kinda thing is supposed to be a fun SIDE dish, not the main course....If you already have issues in the bedroom, resolve them before deciding to play.....good luck..


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