mzwetnready 44F
54 posts
10/28/2005 4:05 pm

please shed light on this dilemma!!!! i just personally think some men never grow up that is why we are finding too many men LIVING stagnant lives!!! they think they are growing, but really they are stuck in their own mote, wondering why shit stinks!!!!!!!!! before you think about adding any additional problems to the relationship, men should handle the ones that exist in their heads and clean those cob-webs out which will allow them to see things clearly!!!!!!!! to all the men that read this who know they are on some bullshit and know they truly have a good woman: get your shit together, don't fuck up a good thing because you just may spend a lifetime searching for another to fill her shoes and discover no one who can hold a match to her flame!!!!!!!!! GET YOU SHIT TOGETHER MEN!!!!!

Kisses and all the right places!!

mixitman14 38M
6 posts
8/21/2013 1:39 am

Seems these days ppl think that its greener on the other side, most I think just go back to what is safe, most are afraid to leave and start on their own or think that they will find someone that is like who they were with before. I just think its plain being selfish and putting themselves first not there mate. It seems that in swinging ppl can just drop off the face of the earth which is fine, but if a person is saying that they will leave the person they are with or that they love you instead of them and its a lie that's just plain fucked up on that persons part. I think that it is about respect and if you don't have that you have nothing. It doesn't matter if a woman or man promises you or anyone the world if their actions don't speak louder then words then they are just plain fucked up and have no respect for themselves or anyone else. I've never been with a woman that hasn't cheat or given that pussy everynight, granted I might have ate that pussy every night, but my needs have never mattered to anyone. So I understand where you come from on your part, there is nothing bad about the same good pussy, but some woman these days have the mind set of males theses days and that doesn't matter anymore. I don't think there is such a thing as love, I don't think there is such a thing as giving someone all you have, most times its just one person giving all the giving and one doing all the taking. When a person feels left out they become a person they are not, which most woman know this and after having sex with a male once they will never give them the pussy they really want. Its just a big mess when you have to deal with drama and lies of ppl that are selfish, I would say if you find someone that is not selfish theses days you should hold on to them, they are like gold theses days in a world with internet and ease of excess to sites and things that lead to cheating or going behind ones back. I have seen many cpls fuck up what they have, I guess when you find the right person you fight for them, you go out of the way to make them happy but there are still some that never get the true picture of having it all. Some do it due to lack of self worth and when they are with others that's the only time they get it but witht the right person that all goes to the past, it depends on the two ppl, whether they have kids, or just have no strength to move on. Most ppl are in a rut due to being told that no one will love them or being lied to. some ppl click and some never get that they really could cause only one person tries. What ppl don't get is ppl that swing have given up, but just stay because no one else will put up with their stuff or lies, myself i'm a forgiving person, I just haven't met her yet or I have and she just needs a wake up call. They way I see it you did all you could, you need to let go of this thought of why and get on with your life. Sometimes it takes someone to piss you off to get back on track....Wish you the best because I've been where you have been..its hard to let go, but as I have gotten older I have been able to more and more. But sometimes not letting go makes you feel like you did in jr high before we all got hurt and we all had sex and all our lives changed. I guess being alone is like being like that...its all how you look at it best of luck

BeadsVoltaDeeps 69M
61 posts
4/10/2011 6:49 pm

There is only three kinds of pussy, good better, and BEST. Sorry your life is troubled, but they say all things happen for a reason, I was with my mate 27 years of witch the last 10 have been dry for Me, Medical problems, not once did I stray and knew nothing of sites on the internet until recent, I am a widower. I would like to find a sexy woman that loves to have sex, be Loved and cared for, treated like a lady and be with as a mate for the last segment of my life. Dale//

mystrangeluck 67M

3/19/2011 7:07 am

What did Harry confess to Sally? 'There isn't a woman alive that a man doesn't want to bang?" Or something like that. For me, there's an age limit. I don't look at anything below 35. Over that? Ya I look and try to imagine what it would be like. However, even there, there are women who will never get beyond friendship because of both physical and personal preferences. Having been faithfully married for 40 yrs, having numerous opportunities pass him by while freezing to death at home, there comes a time in ones life where he realizes that he may never again be with a woman. That's scary. My father died that way. The old honeymoon joke, "Oh my God! I killed her!" No you didn't, she's just British. Both my mother and my grandmother told my wife "Just lay there. After a while they'll get tired of it and look elsewhere." And she took that advice. Ya, percentage wise men are much, way more likely to have an affair that women but that does not equate to say that the woman hasn't been the cause of it.

mystrangeluck 67M

3/11/2011 3:27 pm

I'm not going to argue with your question or reasoning. Now maybe i'm fool or a saint but I've never physically cheated on any woman I was involved with, including my present wife of 40 yrs. But I will tell you this, sometimes it is your women who make it difficult to stick around the house. Sometimes it is all but impossible to read you. One moment your this way the next your not. Now the bank of Fidelity & Trust really penalizes for withdrawals. One withdrawal and you just may lose your account. But what do you do when the bank hasn't given you a loan for the last twenty years, in fact, won't even let you in their door? You'd love to make a deposit but the vault door has been closed for years and the teller has thrown away the key years ago. The interest on the initial investment has accumulated nicely but you can't get in past the blood guard at the door. So why should we think of investing a bit of our money elsewhere every now and then. It's a two way street and it applies to both the bank and the investor. just my .02!

wittyatomy 33M

8/14/2010 3:51 pm

its just one of those things where we don't know what we have until it is gone. i guess when our other half start acting up we should find away to show them what it is like to not be int their lives. this way they can open their eyes

Sexxxy9785 31M

5/1/2010 4:59 pm


bustybeautybbw 62F

2/24/2010 9:59 am

I wish I could read the comments on your blog but can't make out the words with the purple background

rm_bug116 56M
7 posts
3/18/2009 3:06 pm

Not all the women in our lives are "the good one". sometimes situations dictate that you stay with one for a time. when the situation changes, its time to move on.

jeff_nz56 60M
7 posts
3/12/2009 5:43 pm

well if tyou believe in serial monogamy then you may well have a gripe. Do some research on evolutionary physology and it will show theories that males instinctively look to procreate and that what we call romantic love is in fact part of the procreation instinct in both genders, but it runs out and isn't forever, scientists say up to 3-4 years and then only those that want to stay together will.

Problem is that religon and socialisation ahs tried to condition us that love is forever so we ecxpect that and have some valhalla that wea re all in search of but it isn't there in that form.

We all need to understand about ourselves and genders before we can truly go out and find what we want.

ilike2lickyounow 47M

3/4/2009 9:26 am

my grandmother always said a cock doesnt have a guilty consciouse...i think shes right....but im not saying its right.have a great day.

pomie73 43F
1 post
7/12/2007 5:49 am


ajc57021 46M  
27 posts
6/9/2006 3:53 pm

The thing you have to do is really get to know a person before you enter a relationship. Then you should be able to tell if a person has his stuff together or not. Honestly, there are alot of women out here that don't have their stuff together as well. Probably more women than men. I mean.........if a man doesn't have a good job, car, and everything else included, he's looked down upon as a "scub". But a woman can have the same credentials and as long as she has a pretty face and a phat tend to give them a pass. I work, have my own and don't look for anyone to take care of me. I look for the same credentials in the women I date.


6/2/2006 4:12 am

i didnt realize my leaving AdultFriendFinder could spark such a debate. Its never over. Until they close the casket. The fucked up situations that a person grows from, or not in their present past or current relationships, makes them the person they are today. As for me Im glad in a way, Ive been hurt, its taught me how to be humble, and to charge it to the game. I like Mz. Walllz. and when and if we ever meet, so will you. Learn to make that baggage work for you girl. They're just men. Feel Me

rm_bigredd4489 57M

4/28/2006 5:08 pm

A good man has been dog enough and broke down from what the last ashole in your life has done to you so thats what makes us act the way we do I ask does the new man in your life get a fair chance coming in the door are do you hold back because of the last relationship

ezroller46526 42M

4/8/2006 3:22 pm

That sounds like some shit my sister would say. And you are absolutely right. Don't let the best thing in your life slip away.


100percentprBeef 51M
3 posts
2/28/2006 1:29 pm

This girl is smoth and I love what she has to say about things she likes in general. Check this sweetness whenever you are ready I'm ready ok TTY.

olddirtybastard2 64M
13 posts
2/12/2006 7:12 pm

A very good friend told its the little boy in some of us. She just a friend because she is handicap. But she like to think there is sparkle in my eye when I meet soon one new that really interest me. She also tell me that when I find the right one it will all come together. I have been married four times. with the last one ending after 2 months. ( the head was bad the pussy was not that great but I thougth it was the rigth one) so now I am looking again but not for a perfect match just a good one or two. I will not talk about why it ended. make no difference everyone has faults. By the way every one I date is different. I love change. And at this in my life i don't think i should be married.

big0106 45M
2 posts
1/18/2006 5:58 am


SyriaBrookHobby 46M
2 posts
11/7/2005 11:03 am

The problem with men and women is that we're always pointing fingers at each other. For every man that hasn't grown up - there's a woman who hasn't grown up! Maturity IS NOT gender specific. There ARE Brothas (or men) who have good women and don't appreciate them...just like there are Sistas (or women) who have good men and don't apprciate them. Everything you can say about men, you can also say the same about women...believe that. All you can do is make sure YOU try to be the best person YOU can be.

sandman2564 59M

10/29/2005 12:07 pm

Welllllllllllll,mzwetnready: I can really only speak for my self.I have had that American dream that turned into a nightmare. Once we were at the stage where we could really explore all that life has to offer she said she lost her self In my dream,and needed to find herself(but enjoyed the ride and wanted to take the booty) If you know what I mean... Now I am on the same quest(starting over is rough) with a woman who appeares to have the same goal. It's fun now we will see what happens later. We enjoy other couples and select females. Would you like to be one of our friends...????

DowntownCS 35M

10/28/2005 11:47 pm

Honestly, some men just don't want to grow up. Then you have some men who are just too lazy. They want their situation to change but don't want to do anything about it. They want someone to do something for them, and when they get no help they get mad and take it out on other things, or people which may have happend in your case. Some men are just stuck in there ways, its just the way it is. But keep looking and their are other guys out there who have a good head on their shoulders and know what they want. Aight, peace.

blackcock526 49M

10/28/2005 10:15 pm

Well mzwetnready, sometime it's a dick thing with men, and now it's a pussy thing with women. A true good women to is define more than her sexual pleasures, lovely body and her pretty smile. Myself all those are good and fine, need that woman who is will to strive forward in life, mind, body, soul and finicially. My dreams are important to me, just like your's are to you. If they can come together and form a bond for success; Than things can work out find. Got my shit together, ALL ABOUT M.O.B. and enjoying the success i'm working toward. So if u think you can step up and ride with me, THAN WELCOME MY LOVE!

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