Weekday Relationships...  

mysticdreamangel 61F
1119 posts
8/12/2006 12:17 pm

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Weekday Relationships...

Ever been in a weekday relationship…you know the kind where either your significant other works weekends and/or they are in another relationship so only weekdays are available? Every relationship is pure joy in the beginning, but spending weekend after weekend alone, and for that matter holiday after holiday alone, gets old quick.

I’m not saying that spending a weekend alone is a bad thing, but there are times when it would be nice to just go out and do something. I have found that friends and family think they are being nice by inviting me to functions even though they know the other half of my world will not be there, but it’s always awkward when there are all couples and then it’s ME!

It’s not just when you are in a weekday relationship that is awkward at my age, it also is when you aren’t dating and people invite you to functions to get you out of the house. Out of my last three New Year Eves, I have spent two with my Mom and Step Dad and their friends…they are wonderful people, but come on now…

Am I the only one that doesn’t like being the third wheel? Do others feel like I do? There are times I wish I could just say F*#@ it and do it, but I just can’t seem to! Call me pathetic, but I did have two invites this weekend for functions involving couples. When they invited me they both said the standard line, “Don’t worry about it come alone”. As you can guess I have not gone to the one today and knowing me I won’t be going to the one tomorrow.

So again, am I the only one that feels like this…if I am…just shoot me now!

P.S. You will notice that I put Jealous for my mood...yes I'm jealous of all you couples out there...


ZZ_Todd 59M

8/12/2006 12:41 pm

I've walked away from relationships that started out great... then when I got hooked (with line and sinker), I've discovered the "catch"... someone else in her "history" who has returned, or a marriage that really isn't a divorced arrangement. Yep, it sucks. But I think it's only reasonable to expect that when I commit myself totally, that she should too. In spite of how I flirt around here, when it comes to real-life relationships, I've always been and always will be a one-woman man.


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/12/2006 2:02 pm:
Todd,

I think I just feel in love...LoL.

Thank you for letting me know that my values are not misplaced!

Hugs...

loadeddice05 44M

8/12/2006 2:30 pm

I have a permanent relationship!!! But yeah!! I had that weekend thing with a married woman for a few months. It made life far too caotic and I had to end it!!! I am happy now with the same old mangy broad everyday????? LOL!!!!(just kidding)

Dice the romantic and eloquent!!!!


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/12/2006 3:03 pm:
Dice is that you...No wise comments? I envy your relationship and I wish you all the best.

Thanks for understanding...

stochastic_mess 63M

8/12/2006 3:22 pm

Here's a different angle... "Weekend Relationship Avoidance" lol

I'm married but my wife and I are worlds apart. We don't fight, but we work during the week and spend our weekends keeping a healthy distance between us (sometimes physical, always personal/emotional). It seems to me that this is a very common situation, and most of us eventually end up alone by some definition. Whether we are coupled or not only affects the circumstances that spawn our empty feelings.

Indeed, marriage can be a major pain in the ass and often brings more heartache than happiness, so I choose to just accept it, not get mad, and look for enjoyment wherever I can find it. If you consider the "net" benefit (perks minus heartaches), Weekday Relationships may not be so bad after all!


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/12/2006 7:44 pm:
I stand corrected. I did not think about the type of relationship you described and for that I'm sorry.

May you find happiness in your life!

BaconJanusBilge 67M

8/12/2006 3:44 pm

Dear MDA,
I think we all know what you mean. Just weekend relationships are crappy, too, so you have to take the good with the bad, mostly the bad. Marriage isn't as bad as some say; I enjoyed it very much, just picked the wrong one to marry. I would enjoy it again, but I'd be a bit leery until I knew the person better, if that's possible. Perhaps this NY Eve will be better? We can only hope.
Dave


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/12/2006 7:45 pm:
Dave, thank you!

Hugs

warmgrey7 50M
422 posts
8/12/2006 4:20 pm

Hi dreamy,
You are NOT the only one who feels this way. I don't do a lot of socializing - I'm not a hermit, I'm just private. However being the "third wheel" is something of a sentence to me. Even when you're having a good time, things get to you. Like when the funniest person there tells a great story and everyone laughs. You notice your female friend beside you reflexively reach out and embrace her significant other as if to share the experience more closely. I can't NOT notice that and neither can you.
Well, dreamboat, don't get too booged down in envy. Green doesen't go well with your lovely cascade of dark hair. Call me, dear! I want to spend time with you... Let's talk - give it some thought.
hugs and licks - Todd


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/12/2006 7:46 pm:
Todd,

You do know how I feel and thank you! If green doesn't go well with my hair I better hope my eyes remain hazel...LOL!

MDA

FrogsDefogMenta 63M  
84 posts
8/12/2006 5:07 pm

Myst,
Got my "wheels" turning with this hyperbole.
We all come into this world as ..well lets call it..a unicycle..one wheel. As we mature we ultimately become a... tricycle.. and that is where we, if we find that other unicycle or tricycle.. and if the spirits and energy are in congruence we become a ... bicycle, you still with me on this???.. Now sometimes unfortunately.. the wheel(s) fall off and we start the "wheel" turning again... it really can be a cynical cyclical cycle(say that three times fast with crackers in your mouth)..if we let it..Don't... Keep rolling forward, there is a spare out there.. maybe in the truck of the car..quadracycle.. and "baby" you can drive my car"..anytime...
Take care and remember.. easy does it..slow and easy wins the race.
As always,
I remain..
chat soon.
C


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/12/2006 7:53 pm:
Your words always amaze me and thank you for always saying the right thing!

Sweet dreams,

MDA

NSAAddict 42F

8/19/2006 1:33 pm

MDA, In my world, well meaning "coupled" friends have the best intentions but no understanding of the single world. Couple events are difficult, you want to be with your friends but are painfully aware of the fact that you are single in a world full of "marrieds" as Carrie Bradshaw would say. I love singlehood so often going solo to couple events doesn't bother me as much, especially among friends who know I'm single by choice. It's the "other" marrieds, the ones who think they should pity you or even worse help you find someone so you can be "happy" like them that drive me crazy. I take the distinct pleasure of being boldly single in their presence and they soon realize they might be the ones who need my pity The tone soon changes when they realize how wonderful singlehood can be. They suddenly remember what is was like to feel the excitement of first dates, the independence, the liberty of making your own decisions, traveling, single adventures, sleeping in, going out late, living your life exactly the way you want to without worrying about another person. These "marrieds" usually end up wishing they were me, and hey that's not a bad thing If they had played nice and not rubbed their couplehood in my face, I wouldn't have had to return the favor So, this long ass comment only means that the grass is always greener on the other side and my only suggestion is to form a group of "singles" to take to these events or even better go to other more exciting events with.


mysticdreamangel replies on 8/19/2006 2:11 pm:
I will remember your words...may tonight with you and fellow bloggers that will hold true! Thank you!

See you soon~

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