to reply or not to reply. that is the question.  

mosinnagant 47M
17 posts
7/13/2005 9:47 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

to reply or not to reply. that is the question.

actually it's a question in the form of a statement. one i wonder about lately. you know i see women "look" at my profile in the "who's viewing me" page. often i see them pop up on the list not long after i send them a message. the last one went something like this... " hi, let's meet and have a drink or a coffee and see if we click" or something close to that.


what's up with that anyway? i mean really, how common is it that you see a profile where some woman states quite clearly her interest in meeting people yet when presented with exactly what she is asking for she just sits there and stares at the freaking screen and does nothing about it?
i see all of this "i want to have fun blah blah..." is sitting at home looking at the computer fun? good god i would think that even if you don't end up liking the guy intimately, you at least interacted with someone in real life. you know, had a conversation about world peace or something. meet someone new and all that.
ok rant is over. carry on...

rm_WhoMeWithU2 59M

7/13/2005 10:29 pm

It seems I am not alone on this island...

DareDevil1LI 59M

7/13/2005 11:32 pm

Oh man, you hit one of the things I just hate and also cannot understand.
And it's not just puzzling that the women we write to seem to not want to meet ... THAT part I can understand, and I don't get hung up on that as much. After all, there are so many factors determing whether a woman can/will/want to meet, many having nothing at all to do with the guy who happens to write them.

But what I don't get is how they complain about all the rude, crude one-line notes from neanderthals, but when I take time to write several, respectful paragraphs, they don't have the common courtesy to write back and say, "Thanks, but no thanks because ..." Especially, as Mosinnagant points out, those who obviously have read the message and checked out my profile.

If women don't think it's too much to ask for a guy to write a decent reply to her ad (and they're right), then why does it seem to much for them to send any reply, whatsoever?

playfulwithyou33 56F
961 posts
7/15/2005 7:34 am

Maybe because most women view them as "PROFILES" and most men view them as "ADS" could be part of the problem right there.

DareDevil1LI 59M

8/2/2005 1:23 pm

playfulwithyou33 -- thanks for adding a woman's view.
i'm not sure i understand your point, though, as "profile" vs. "ad" seems to be a distinction without a difference here on AdultFriendFinder. All of us are advertising ourselves, like it or not, trying to put our best _____<insert favorite body part here> forward.
isn't the idea to try to get others to respond to what we have posted? (just as an advertiser wants you to buy its product?)
if you don't want anyone to write in response to your "profile" then what's the point?
i need more clues.

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