What happened?  

moonfire2u 69F
1630 posts
2/12/2006 8:14 am

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What happened?

What causes people to fall out of love?
People who were totally entralled with each other....every heart beat resounds their name...they fill all your waking moments consumed with thoughts of them...when you see each other you can't keep your hands off of one another...needing the closeness...the connection...burning with desire...needing sex anytime...anywhere...the urgent sex...another way to connect and become one...and then...the slipping away begins...the feelings not quite the same...until one day after years and years together...you are looking at a stranger. What happened?

kind thoughts,

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/19/2006 5:47 pm

Downinlove: Wow!!! Thanks so much for all that wonderful information...I also agree to love is wonderful...to lose sucks...

kind thoughts,

downinlove2 53M

2/19/2006 8:23 am

Its all natural. The brains activity, during the times of passion and love have been researched. No surprise the brain of someone "in love" and that of individual with compulsive behavior disorder are very, very similar. The brain and body experience a rush of serotonin, creating an addictive need. The down you experience is the down after the high. The average length of time for this passionate intensity is four years. Long enough when applicable for a child to be weaned and more self sufficient. In the situation were the couple can overcome this period of a relationship is where the brain chemistry is supplemented with basic TLC. The body produced oxytocin which is a comforting hormone that sedates us and makes us feel at ease with ourselves and each other. Shared experience and mutual goodwill easily encourage this response. Thereby, maintaining a relationship through the peaks and valleys. Though there is still effort required by both to work on the needs of each other when it comes to love and sex. It's a lifelong partnership to me. I never look back on making my bonds and supporting them and going with the ebb and flow of them.

FYI. Oxytocin is produced when nipples are stimulated. Research is now looking into the possibility that depravation of this hormone is a contributing factor in the alienation and isolating tendencies in autism.

From the heart though: to love someone is wonderful, to lose someone is painful and sucks big time.

Best wishes to you, to sort it all out.


moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/16/2006 4:43 am

YesIDoExist: Interesting perception...I hadn't thought of that but I can see it.

kind thoughts,

YesIDoExist 56M
1 post
2/15/2006 10:39 pm

Perhaps some just prefer the 'chase ' to the rewards. They just can't admit it to themselves- or others.

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/15/2006 4:02 pm

supinefeline: Thank you for sharing your opinion with me...I was under the impression that wolves and turtle doves mated for life...I don't think monogamy is all that difficult if you truly want someone else completely...that is just my opinion.

kind thoughts,

supinefeline 50M

2/15/2006 1:59 am

in my honest opinion, i think humans are no different than any other species on the planet! the existence of the monogomous relationship is an anomoly and forced. no other species on the earth mates for life!
just my opinion!

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/14/2006 10:03 pm

STCMO: I think you are right...love is often confused with lust...

Plano: thanks for the lovely Valentine wish...I wish the same thing for you

Plano69 54M

2/13/2006 9:01 pm

Boredom leads to becoming critical of them and what used to be cute is now annoying... the newness becomes old... it's too bad... What sucks is when you're still in love but the other has left...

LOL! Not a good lead in here but...

Happy Valentines Day, hope your love is always fresh, new, and exciting!

STCMOguy4fun 36M

2/13/2006 8:18 pm

I know the feeling about the falling out of love, It is a question that plagues many, but it still comes down to the possibility of lust, as succubus was saying earlier.

let me know if you ever want to talk.


~War comes In many many ways; social, physical, & mental combat will always knock at your door, beware the calm before the storm, for even in war, peace must always reign.~ War & Peace

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/13/2006 4:32 pm

Dragonheat: That, my friend, is the truth but isn't it because they fell out of love with us?

kind thoughts,

moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
2/13/2006 4:12 pm

And sometimes you just have to accept you'll never really know why. Sometimes they don't even know themselves. If you can't let it go, eventually it will eat you alive. Trust me.

rm_dragonheat23 51M
1158 posts
2/13/2006 6:02 am

Sometimes, you don't fall out of love.
Sometimes you are pushed.

moonfire2u 69F
2602 posts
2/12/2006 12:17 pm

Succubus: I believe you are right about lust and infatuation...but it can still be true for real love too.

Purr: We do all change, don't we? Sometimes not for the good.

Moon: That is what bothers me...the not knowing why.

moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
2/12/2006 10:53 am

you just NEVER know what's going on with another person. I was married for 7 yrs. I know. One day, it can just all turn upside down and you'll never truly know why.

rm_PurryKitty2 48M/49F
9753 posts
2/12/2006 9:09 am

The other person can become lots of things:

over bearing

ya know?

Purry {=}


The_Succubus 31F

2/12/2006 8:45 am

It seems to me that if that happens, the person wasn't really in love to begin with. Lust or infatuation is not the same as real love...

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