Checked my mailbox today, nothing again  

mimzid 34F
17 posts
10/13/2005 9:37 pm

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7/30/2006 12:34 pm

Checked my mailbox today, nothing again

I don't know why I bother at AdultFriendFinder. I never get any e-mails from women. My box is always full of mail from men 45-60. Although I am flattered I cannot and will not get with a man who is as old as my father. Not to mention I put that in my profile.
I use some of the groups on here but I am a little reluctant to show up in a bar for a meet and greet. I consider it everytime but when It comes close I always find a reason not to go.
I know I just need a patient man or woman to meet up with alone first and then I'll be more comfortable. If I could get a nice guy to e-mail me. Most of them start the messages with hey bitch or what's up slut.
Are there any normal nice guys or gals on here??

classicmagnum99 31M
37 posts
10/13/2005 11:21 pm

Wow and that's how it is here all the good ones are already taking and most the older ones are left well what can you do its nice to talk to someone who feels the same way a lot of people are into the group things here but some times thay go outta control if you want you can email me

Romeo_La 30M
1 post
10/13/2005 11:40 pm

Hi I'm a nice guy who u can talk 2 and get 2 know.


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rm_EvoJ 36M
15 posts
10/16/2005 3:03 pm

Don't worry, I am sure you will find that nice guy. You just gotta keep looking and eventually one will come by. Infact, they tend to find it difficult to find the nice girls too. Especially, those nice girls who are into a bit of kink. Anyway, good luck and don't forget to have fun.


rm_cretia5080 41F
1 post
10/17/2005 8:49 am

I'm a nice girl...Well, woman, since I'm 30! Maybe you should talk to me--I'm pretty normal, not scary at all. I am the word cretia and the numbers five zero eight zero with no spaces at the y place. Look forward to talking with you, if this post makes it through! Christine

discreet191918 60M

11/7/2005 8:10 pm

You do realize that AdultFriendFinder seems to be alot of talk. There are alot of lonely people in this world and this outlet gives them the ability to converse with others in the same situation. I am one of them, but I usually just listen. I admit it. Do I fanatize about a younger woman going down on me, Of course!! But most of this is just fantasy. You are probably not going to find the most perfect person on this site or anywhere else. Most people that write a comment, want something from you. Just say no

rm_leadoneon 41M
2 posts
12/8/2005 3:58 am

i am pretty normal as far as normalness goes.

nicerandycpl_99 48M/46F
1 post
2/2/2006 2:39 pm

We are also having a hard time finding what were looking for(a bi-f, discreet) all you can do is be optomistic and keep looking. Good luck I hope you find it.

QuipsGroomGazes 37M
17 posts
2/2/2006 6:03 pm

I understand its hard to find someone that you like and also likes you back in return. One can only hope that time and pasents will pay off. good luck

rm_LeoThermal 42M
14 posts
4/19/2006 11:53 pm

I'm thinking of going with the silver membership for a month and see how that goes. Sending out winks to women whose profiles I can't view entirely doesn't seem to be doing much. *shrug*

That is extremely lame for people whom you've disqualified to bother you anyway. I guess it's a matter of the male:female ratio on here that they'll try anyway.

I got involved with a group on here, and I've met some very cool people. And I'm hardly an extrovert.

Anyway, I hope you find what you're looking for. And thanks for checking out my blog.

Jackhandy6932 35M
5 posts
7/30/2007 10:36 am

I have emailed this person multiple times lol she never responds oh well email me at jackhandy369 yh

exTeechur 60M
11 posts
8/15/2009 4:49 am

Boy, what a kick in the ego. I can't tell you how many times I've been called a really nice guy, but I've been waiting to have sex until I find someone I can connect with emotionally. I gave up looking many years ago until last week when my friend convinced me life is passing me by.

My first problem is I'm still a virgin, but I realize now it's nothing worth holding onto. I want to have an emotional experience, not an act, with someone who is first, a friend, even though there's no strings attached. I know what to do to you emotionally, but you've already said I'm not good enough physically. I haven't found a woman yet my own age who is willing to take the time and effort to show me what she needs physically. They want action, not training. Most of the guys your own age have already found how to make themselves happy at your expense, but they haven't learned the next step yet. Heck; they don't even know there IS a next step. That wisdom comes with age.

The second problem is most of the women on these sites aren't interested in the one thing that will grow a relationship and sustain it. I know the answer, and it's already a part of my character. No one will get the answer from me without a face-to-face quiet conversation. It's so simple and so elusive. It can not be summed up in a few words. And, it's often easiest to explain after you've searched for the answer with many boys your own age and you still feel empty inside. It's also the reason a lot of younger girls find what they're after with guys my age. Believe me, I'm just as put off seeking younger girls as you are of older guys, but women my age are less interested in a loving relationship, and more interested in financial security. Girls your age are still expecting a fairy tale story and think the sex act is the way to get it. You WILL not get it from boys your own age, not because they aren't kind people, not because they can't deliver, but because they haven't learned how yet. I don't want the sex act; I want the sexual experience, and younger girls are the most likely to fulfill my spirit. Even so, that's only HALF of the experience. I could fill your heart with this knowledge without either one of us removing a single piece of clothing! Just ask.

Third, I noticed you haven't posted a photo. Is it possible you're saving that for a special person? I won't even reply to anyone who shows off what I might enjoy to the whole world. In fact, I sent my very first e-mail message to a woman 20 years younger then I am, and all I had was a really sweet photo of her face, and a nice, short profile to go on. There was not a single vulgar word, and I told her I did NOT want to meet her unless there was some genuine interest on her part after she reads my profile and blog. So far, I haven't heard back, and don't expect to. Why in the world any woman would think she's going to attract a nice fellow by spreading her legs and sticking out her breasts is beyond me. Then they turn it around and complain all they get are replies from sleaze balls. Well; the catch matches the bait.

I haven't posted a photo yet either. A picture is worth a thousand words, but that doesn't mean they're all good words. My looks have never repulsed anyone I've met, and in fact, I've overheard a few nice things, but people who are proud of their physical appearance, and spend a lot of time in front of the mirror, generally are not so pretty on the inside. Sure, the cheer leaders get all the attention, but they're also the most alone emotionally.

Fourth, I'm on a site like this because I did have one really good relationship a long time ago, and I miss the closeness. There was absolutely no hint of sex in the three years we were together, but I ended it because she had no dreams or goals other than getting married. No amount of sex was ever going to improve our relationship. I'm no longer interested in finding a lifetime partner, but I DO want to experience sexual intimacy, but there must be an emotional connection, even if I'm only with you one time. In the absence of that connection, I could just find a hooker. I actually did have the opportunity once to have sex. She was begging for it, and I refused. You can read about it in my blog if you care to see how much better off you are than some of us.

I want a friendship that at least COULD lead to intimacy in the future, unlike with my first relationship. It takes a lot of time and work to pick through all the possibilities before you find the right one. To make matters worse, I don't enjoy going to places where my prize is likely to be found. How are you supposed to have a meaningful conversation at a noisy bar or club? Or is it that the people there don't want conversation? Just pick up the best looking partner you can get, do it like rabbits, and then, . . ., and then, . . . well, reread my second point. I'm not likely to find a willing partner in church. There aren't many people in the parks I like to hike in. These sites at least cut through all the relationship foreplay and get right to the point. People can tell you exactly what they're looking for, and a lot of us older guys know we're not going to win your hearts with trash talk and x-rated photos.

As for me, I'm 53, but I don't act like it. Other than my best friend, who, by the way, is a really nice fellow too, I prefer the company of younger people in general. I taught at NTC for nine years, and loved working with the students WAY more than the faculty. Students are open to new ideas, accepting of personal differences and circumstances, and are unconcerned with age differences. To this day, many former students are very good friends.

At 27, you're not too appealing to a growing number of people either, and it's going to get worse real fast if you narrow your search too much like I did. I'm paying a huge emotional price, and the chances of finding a solution here aren't looking very good. I'm not bitter about my shyness, but I know I'll probably never find what you're looking for. I'm not emotionally scarred; I'm emotionally empty. You don't know yet how fortunate you are to at least be getting e-mails. And without a photo no less. All I've gotten are messages from people in other states! I think they're just on auto-pilot and send a generic reply to every new member. The qualities I have are what every "good" girl claims to want, but like you said, you change your mind when presented with what you asked for.

You might also consider the huge age differences of some Hollywood celebrities. Mike Douglas comes to mind. Look how long those marriages have lasted compared to the silly young people who don't have a clue as to what it takes to nurture a relationship. Yes, there are a lot of scumbags out there, but they're not all older guys, and they're not all guys. Instead of blindly putting 3/4 of us down without the benefit of knowing us as individuals, use your profile to explain exactly what you are looking for and who you will respond to. Don't be angry that there's only a few ripe raspberries on the bush. Go find them. There are plenty of guys worthy of you. Some of them might be on these web sites, and some of them might be 53.

exTeechur (one very normal, kind, considerate, and therefore very undesirable guy)

b7710 36M

11/27/2011 9:55 pm

I'm interested in talking with you and seeing if we could meet up sometime. I'm in Wausau quite often. Check out my profile and if your interested, you can contact me here or my email flying_bill at ya hoo. I'm very open and honest so feel free to ask me anything you want. I'm up for almost anything. Hope to hear from you soon. ~Bill

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