a good evening  

milady_de_winter 44F
938 posts
8/7/2006 8:34 am

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8/9/2006 3:18 am

a good evening

just came back from the gym...had a great workout...and i am thankfull to have met P...he is nice...and i like his company...

Sigh...i am thinking again of Mr. P ( the guy i met last week)...i hope he is fine and doing well...i must be strong and not have any expectations...

I just realized that i have had enough of one nite stands..i am seriously considering having one or two regular lovers whom i can converse with ... or maybe i just need to go cold turkey on sex altogether and stay celibate for a nice man to come along...i prefer the latter...less complications...and no need to have a lover and cater for him

I always give a bit of myself when i am sexually connected to someone- i become a true friend...and do things for them that not related to sex..i become a a physcoanalyst, confidante, bailer, listener, spy, mamasan, free adviser, best pal...for chrissake i even helped an ex-lover get over his drug problem...or at least i failed trying- latest news he is back on cocaine- but its not my burden anymore- not after the way he walked all over me and treated me like dirt...and many times my friendship has not been appreciated..and i get fed up...i really do get tired of being taken for a ride

sometimes i just like being with a man because i like his company...its weird but thats me

I am tired and need to rest...

Ciao Ciao

uglypoet 51M
148 posts
8/7/2006 9:21 am

sadly milady..u can't do that ! you haven't met me yet. Why would u close your doors to a possible potential... smile. I may not be ... but why live the rest of your life with what if(s)?

IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
8/7/2006 4:08 pm

Nothing wrong with sticking with a couple lovers. I do that myself, and it works just fine.

Personally, I think most women are just like guys, sexually. Except no one wants to admit it. On the other hand, a lot of guys are too stupid to pick up on this and know how to use this to an equal advantage. They act like they have to beg for it all the time. Thats a mistake.

I always have to advise my female friends here that the whole thing in general is nothing to get confused about. It's all part of that biological function called the mating game. Just use your heads and be safe.

Milady, I can remember the first reply you sent me. It said that you were not interested in long distance relationships. I can agree with you on that, and from reading your blogs and the frustrations you have had, I couldn't blame you neither. But you must find an attraction to it if your dating foreign guys, otherwise you wouldn't be writing about it and continuing on doing it.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you're doing. Just pointing out, it's just what you are attracted to.

IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
8/7/2006 4:17 pm

By the way. If you like a movie about a woman that finds freedom and liberation from not only society, but from herself, get "V for Vendetta". Don't just watch it once, watch it a few times like I did. You catch more and learn more that you miss from the first time you see it. It's on DVD now.

LeninRuntsBurrs 42F

8/7/2006 5:07 pm

oh another one to add in, guys who think they belong to you just cause you MAY be their FB. Oh! irritate the daylights out of me!

IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
8/8/2006 8:11 am

    Quoting LeninRuntsBurrs:
    oh another one to add in, guys who think they belong to you just cause you MAY be their FB. Oh! irritate the daylights out of me!
I agree. Works both ways. I've had to deal with some like that.

Especially when I've only dated one a couple times, then she'll say to me that she'd appreciate it if I didn't date anyone else.

Ha, yea right! Poof, she's gone!

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