Is it me??  

mikewv1967 49M
46 posts
5/13/2006 4:38 pm

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5/30/2006 6:42 am

Is it me??

How is it that women posting things like some of them post, can't be bothered to return an e-mail??

Maybe it is me and the old-fashioned side to me emerging, but if you take the time to e-mail someone that you may be interested in...please have the common courtesy to REPLY back.

Hey, I understand as much as anyone, that you are not going to be interested in everyone who e-mails you, but it only takes 10 seconds of your life to let that person know "no thanks".

I hate to beat a dead horse and all...but please ladies (I'm certain guys do it too, but I've not e-mailed any guys...nor will I ) have the courtesy to respond back and let someone know your not interested. I think it all works best that way.

If I have done that, I sincerely apologize to whom it may have happened to.

Thanks for listening.

SexyRycheBabe 44F
820 posts
5/13/2006 6:04 pm

Well, damn, now I feel bad. So... off I go to reply to the emails I have sitting in my email box. I might not be able to blog again for a month but ... I'll be doing my civic AdultFriendFinder duty.

mikewv1967 replies on 5/14/2006 9:01 am:
Thanks for the!

SexyRycheBabe 44F
820 posts
5/13/2006 6:12 pm

Ok... so I need some guidelines, I guess. I mean, do I REALLY have to respond back to those one-liner emails that say: "wanna hook up tonight?" or "I'm horny, how about you?"

And, what do I do about those guys who've actually already written me once before but don't remember and they send me the same email again stating they've just today come across my profile?

I can understand responding to someone who actually puts time and effort and thought into their emails... but EVERYBODY should get a response?!

Help me out here, if you don't mind. What's the correct way of handling this?

mikewv1967 replies on 5/14/2006 8:54 am:
Again, good point. I was NOT taking into consideration that there are many e-mails being received that have NO REAL EFFORT put into them. I was merely speaking from my sphere of reference (however miniamal that is).

You need to do what you need to do, but bottom feels like crap when you take the time to compose a personalized e-mail only to not have it responded to. Even an auto-response would do.


VATraveler1948 68M

5/13/2006 6:40 pm

Welcome to the Blogs!

Things are totally different for a man and a woman on this web site. First, there are at least 10-20 guys for every woman on this site. It's difficult to get a male/female head count but take a look at the male to female ratio on the web cams at any given tome, guys WAY outnumber the girls. Right now there are nearly 600 guys active on web cams and only 65 women. My wife and I both have active premium accounts on AdultFriendFinder and I know for a fact that she gets 30-40 messages every day and some days even more. She has a few friends that she corresponds with but for the most part she blows nearly all of the messages away without even considering responding to them. She not rude, stuck-up or a bitch, she is just not interested.

I'm sorry that you are discouraged with the lack of responses to your e-mails. My suggestion is to do a little bit of posting on the blogs, get to know some of the folks and you might be surprised how your e-mail responses will improve.

mikewv1967 replies on 5/14/2006 8:56 am:
Thanks for the input, I apreciate your experience in this matter.


5/13/2006 7:20 pm

Listen to VATraveler...good advice. The women are outnumbered and I would have to quit working or quit blogging to keep up. I am not gonna quit blogging! Happy hunting!

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

DeliciousNan 64F

5/13/2006 7:33 pm

My profile says women or couples. When I get an email from a single man, I usually don't reply.

mikewv1967 replies on 5/14/2006 8:58 am:
That makes perfect sense. If someone is requesting something that you haven't posted availability for...sure.

GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11238 posts
5/14/2006 7:05 am

welcome to da blogz

only 10 secz, no way.... take that times a few hundred....

mikewv1967 49M

5/14/2006 8:50 am

OK, you bring up a VERY good point. In situations like that, I suppose the level of effort on your part is equivalent to the level of effort given up-front (in one-liners).

If you don't feel obligated to respond to the "one-liners", I understand. Maybe I should have qualified that statement...I (as I can only speak for me) have NEVER sent out a one-liner.

I feel, if I am sending something out to someone, I want to personalize it. And a receiving party could take a moment to read and reply to a personlized is that?

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