What I have found here on AFF-my beef!  

middaydad 59M
19 posts
7/23/2005 2:08 pm

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What I have found here on AFF-my beef!

As I browse and send winks or messages I found that alot of members DON'T respond. Could it be AdultFriendFinder message service bites the big one or people cant find the respect to send back a quick note. It could be a no response or even an F*** U! At least there is a response. Also I see some women want "size". 10" 11" 10"!! EEK! I think they should look at the local horse stables..I would say them vaginas have not only have been around the block but around the country! NO thanks! For me it would be like putting a pencil on a four lane highway! Now I understand having kids and the age thing and that's cool, that's life. I just find that freaky just as a size 60 implants. Yes I've seen them! EEEK!
I see on here that searches bring up people the seem to be on-line 24/7. Is this AdultFriendFinder trying to look like members are always logged on or what? Then I find in a search members, that match me, that haven't logged on for just about a year! There are non-paying members to boot. C'mon now..non-payers after say 3 months not logging on- BOOT them! Don't waste the space!
well that's it for now..
thanks for reading.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
7/23/2005 2:23 pm

yeah most find that,

it is mostly alot of women in particular just don't respond full stop.

I am online 24/7 some people are


Vivolo 60M

7/23/2005 2:41 pm

No kidding on the size issue. My problem isn't that certain women want it, but that some of these women think that *all* women want it, and that therefore men under 9 should feel like a fraud when he asks a woman out. In fact -- and as you suggest -- it is a mild kink. -- Same as guys who want breasts they could use for pontoons. Hey, in sex any fantasy goes (or should go) no matter what caused it, IMO, so if a woman finds in her subconscious that the male penis vectors nicely with her affection for large mammals, and the outcome is a desire to be with six 12-inchers at once ... I say let the lady make the most of it, and get her a cup of coffee afterwards.

But if she tells you she only wants what "women" want, feel free to laugh.

jonnyrocket53 63M

7/23/2005 2:58 pm

To have a gazillion members one has to do what one has to do. Realize this, the site is for fun and entertainment. Nothing less and certainly nothing more. Just relax and sit back and let things happen. We are all looking for something, finding it is the hard part, giving up is the crime.

tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
7/23/2005 2:59 pm

some good points and shared beefs...

Winks ... women get 100 a week .... winks may be useful for them to contact you but I consider them useless to bring you to their attention. I use an email and hotlist combination. Keep in mind there are about 12 men for every woman.

Emails ...I know many women who get 5 or more a day. It frequently takes 2 weeks for them to simply get through the deluge.

SIZE ... maybe they want a picture... people are on here for many reasons ... sex is not necessarily at the top of list (at least fro women).

Online all the time. If it perists day in day out for a week ... and she is especially hot ... good chance she is fishing for webcam bait.
But some people do not know to LOG OFF ... simply close their session... women are kept on the "who's online list" for at least 1 hr after they think they have left the site. And there are those in BlogLand ... who are simply enjoying themselves reading, or those in chat rooms, etc.

Booting old profiles. And here we are in complete agreement. I understood the marketing ploy that this served years ago when there were far fewer women. But I think that AdultFriendFinder would greatly benefit from the streamlining of its profile library ... certainly get rid of the anything prior to 04 ...that would cut hundreds off just Ohio roles. They need to be thinking quality rather than quantity especially as the competition of other sex dating sites heats up. It will be a LONG time before anyone competes with AdultFriendFinder on numbers. So improving the overall experience will be the best move to stay ahead of the competition.


GEtravler 48M

7/23/2005 3:38 pm

I have found the same thing but have found the predators of AF that put in a complete fake profile or when they get a message from some one they don't want they send back a cookie cutter message stating that they can only email a limited quantity of contacts and to give them your real email addy. Well be ware if you do give them a trash email account.
Watch as you get a email from them and a WWW site to go to and look at there pictures.
it is a scam to get to you spend money and they get a kick back for everyone that joins from their url.

So I follow these simple rules.

#1 if the photo looks too professional then it is a fake. (move on to the next match)
#2 look for friends and testimonials (if they don't have any be careful.)
#3 Read the entire profile carefully and maybe 3 times ( doing this avoids problems)
#4 when Emailing mention something about their profile ( it shows you have read it and it wasn't a waist of their time.)

#5 MOST IMPORTANT READ BLOGS! (it will give you a better picture of the person)


CreoleKittie 46F

7/23/2005 4:53 pm

I must comment on the "size" statement you've mentioned. I've recently met a beautiful man on AdultFriendFinder and i pray to god he'll call me back!!! I'm a very very very tight woman...a size 5 cock could hurt me...and i've always "preferred" small cocks...better to go in the ass as well...~winks~
Well, i met a 9-10 incher, the one i mentioned above...and i was literally skeered to death!!! He worked it and worked it and worked it and it fit purrrrrrfectly!!! He rode me for about 2 hours and all i wanted was more!!
What does this have to do with confirming your size statement? Well, i could just as easily again take a 5 or 6 inch cock and it could just as well hurt me again.
It's really true, it's not the size of the ship...it's the motion of the ocean..oh, yeah...it's all in the motion!!

WyldBabyBlues4U 48F

7/23/2005 5:29 pm

I also have to point out that standard members are limited to replying to a specific number of emails within a 24 hour period. Considering the volume of email received it is next to impossible to reply to everyone even if just to say not interested. I think if a member is kind enough to send you an email the site should be kind enough to let you reply to as many as are sent....just a thought.

rm_cele2flowers 42F
75 posts
7/23/2005 5:56 pm

I have to comment with CreoleKittie on the cock size thing. I'm a pretty tight fit too and usually anything bigger than the average 6 to 6 1/2 inches has scared me too. I usually have gone for the guys that are that size, but have been with a couple that were 7" or more. One look and I was nervous, but somehow they have managed to make it fit just right a feel real good. I'll admit, for a very short time I was hung up on the bigger guys, but then an average size guy came along and changed my mind back! Then to put the big guys to shame, I was with one recently and it just didn't do much for me BECAUSE of the motion (or lack of) of the ocean.
Jeff Foxworthy may have said "It may be the motion of the ocean, but it takes a long time to get to England in a row boat." Well...I'll take the row boat over the steam ship anyday if it's got the right motion to it!!

sbf_bbw 54F

7/23/2005 6:21 pm

I guess your post and one other that I read today about no response got to me. I agree with your comment about non-response. you are correct about that. I also agree with what you said about body-types and expectations. God job on your blog.

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
7/31/2005 2:54 am

Hi middaydad;
I was intrigued by your New Member post in Fun Women & Men in the
Valley. I became a standard member March 1, 2005. so according to
you I should be booted out. But I want you to realize that what I do
not pay in money, I do contribute to the health and well being of
this web site. I post in the Groups, the blogs, the magizine, I
actually meet and date the members.

middaydad 59M

8/1/2005 11:59 am

To: Goldenhairgodess
Hello Goddess..I guess I didnt say exactly what I meant to say..My comments were aimed at members that DONT contribute. For in example in "my matches" I find recent members the I find members that havent logged on in six months or more! I say if they havent even logged on in three months, boot them! Make room for members that are active. I bring up member that have not been on in more than a year! whats with that? Sorry if there was any confusion and thanks for the feed back

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