mi_mwpm 51M
1175 posts
8/8/2005 11:10 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm



Spent 3 hours yesterday afternoon/evening telling my wife about the rest of my secret life over the past 5-6 months. She actually took it far better than I could have ever imagined - especially after the crying and angst on Friday when only my time with J was known.

She knows how I feel about HG. She also knows that I still love her and I'm not looking to leave her or our daughter. She knows about the blog, and may, someday, decide she wants to read it.

We're going to try to make this work; her to forgive and realize my needs along with our daughter's, me to be more open before frustration sets in. We've promised to talk with each other more when things are bothering one another and to make more time for us. The pain is still there, but I think the healing process has begun. If things had been like last night regularly I wouldn't have felt the need to be here.

My regret is the heartache I've caused two women I truly love. I'm very happy to have met and spent such quality time with HG. I wish I could erase the pain she's feeling along with that of my wife, but that's the price I pay - knowing that I caused that pain.

Please don't cry HG, rejoice in the time we had, cut far shorter than we'd hoped. My tears are beginning to dry and I hope your's are too. You'll always be a part of me and, for that, I'm truly grateful, but I must try to make things work. I never hid that I was married or that I wasn't looking to leave my family, and that's probably the only proud thing I can stand on now. I'll miss our time together and sincerely hope that you find happiness. I do love you, believe that.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

8/8/2005 12:06 pm

Glad you feel things are in the beginning healing stages. Marriage is a life long journey, and this is a bump. You can come out of this a better stronger man. In the long term mess ups eventually equal out.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/8/2005 12:15 pm

good luck,its not an eay path but were all routing for you

I'm a

i'm here to stay


8/8/2005 12:40 pm

That was such a beautiful post, not because of your pain , but that you put your heart and soul into your concern, love and best wishes for HG. I hope everything go well for all of you.

rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/8/2005 3:27 pm

I am so glad this is working out the way it is: better than expected. I hope you manage to salvage most of what you have. I hate to hear about the hurt feelings but thanks for your honesty. My heart really goes out to HG too.


keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
8/8/2005 5:57 pm

Jeeze, what a mess. I need to do some catching up here. I am glad you are still posting though. Stay well my friend. This too shall pass.

mi_mwpm 51M

8/8/2005 7:28 pm

CT - Thanks buddy. Make sure you're ready for the consequences when/if they come. I've been lucky that my wife is handling it far better than I could have even hoped for.

P_N_S, Papy, Blonde and Rock - Thank you for the thoughts. It's hard to believe how fast things went from Nirvana to Hell and have started to swing back upwards.

ProtonicMan 47M

8/9/2005 6:52 pm


I'm glad to hear that the darkness is starting to lighten. Of course, you realize that it may take a long time before the sky is sunny more often than overcast, but I think you will find it worth the effort.

I'm proud of you for being so forthcoming with your wife. I think your complete honesty now, although painful and uncomfortable, will go a long way to closing the gap in your marriage.

Until Thursday,


mi_mwpm 51M

8/11/2005 10:11 am

SensuallyKatey - Thanks Kate. I know what you've lost in your life and I take your words to heart.

ProtonicMan - We're working through it on this end. I just wish there was more I could do to help HG. Nothing worse than knowing you dare not see someone you love.

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
8/12/2005 8:47 am

mi_mwpm Not do unbelievable friend.....you just had to realise that that was the easier road....

Honesty is the best policy....

stick to the truth no matter how much you think it may hurt because lies hurt so much more from the ones you love....

be patient and now allow each other to heal


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