Stay or Go?  

mi_mwpm 51M
1175 posts
8/12/2005 8:24 pm

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Stay or Go?

Seems I'm catching a little flack from a few (very few mind you) members about keeping my blog alive while going through the recent events. Maybe my presence is disturbing them a little? Hitting a little too close to home for comfort?

So, thought I'd check to see what you all think... should I stay or should I go?

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/12/2005 9:03 pm

You are the only one who can make that decision. Don't let anyone tell you how to live. Whats done is done. Everythings out, if there is nothing left to hide, why leave. You havent made me nervous at all, JF. You do for you. Goodluck to you in what ever YOU decide.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
8/12/2005 10:09 pm

Obviously, it's a personal decision. I just hope you can repair the damage that's going around. I support whatever decision you make here. It will get easier for you as time goes on. You will make it!

redmustang91 57M  
8604 posts
8/12/2005 10:32 pm

Well let those who are without sin cast the first stone! If you want to stop being unfaithful it is probably not a good thing to hang around sex bars, strip clubs and AdultFriendFinder! What do you want?


8/12/2005 11:15 pm

No one has the right to say what you should or should not ,do , say,think or feel. or what you should or should not have done in your recent situation, I myself admire the way you handled everything. Nothing would have or could have been resolved with more lies. I myself would like to see you stay.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
8/12/2005 11:37 pm

Stay definately stay

it will help you to think things out and I am sure you can resist sneaking off if you receive a hot email from a sensational woman, particularly when you have a goddess at home who you are beginning to discover again


hourglasses 47F

8/13/2005 4:37 am

I guess I wouldn't want the old posts to disappear. I thought they were great memories. Unless of course that's what you want.

FrndsWBenefits 53M/52F
56 posts
8/13/2005 8:01 am

I don't see why you can't stay - if things are going OK, and she doesn't have a problem with it (blogging can be seen by anyone, and if you are going to have a joint profile eventually anyway, nothing is hidden from her, if she wants to see it). I suppose continuing to have 'your own room' would be nice - and when you post, you can post (to your own, or to someone else's blog) as YOU and not US. Something to be said for that. (Nothing stoping her from starting a blog of her own either, come to think of it....)

Just because you are here as YOU, doesn't mean you have an 'open marriage' or are even looking at that. I don't think that can even be discussed at this point - It's WAY too soon. Personally, it would be great to have both of you here - not that you'd actually be swinging, or swapping, but just a couple sharing things with like-minded people. That's all it ever would have to be. And this is a pretty cool group of people, as you've realized.

Work it out with the Lady, in whatever time it takes, to see what she's comfortable with, take it from there....


rockwriter58 56M
1389 posts
8/13/2005 12:18 pm

I heard some of the same advice about closing up shop when I decided to stop looking here... and got some pointed e-mail too. (One of these days I'm gonna post those... not now though.)

As others have said, only you can make that decision, while considering all that you are going through now.

Selfishly, I'd like to see you stay.


rm_jayR63 59F
1884 posts
8/13/2005 2:20 pm

Just because you are blogging doesn't mean you are still in the market for a woman other than your wife.
Just say so on your profile.
In my opinionionionion
continuing to blog is a good idea. In the course of committing thoughts to text you may see them more clearly.

Also, it never hurts to get a virtual hug, pat on the back, or advice.

1586 posts
8/13/2005 6:22 pm

I can't believe that someone would criticize you for staying.

We're like your huge (and dysfunctional family) and we need to see you here so that we're know you're doing okay. Well, okay...I need to see you here. I worry. LOL

Anyway, mark me down for the "stay" side!

Besides, who else can you talk to about this stuff other than us?

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

8/13/2005 8:47 pm


Some just like to try and hurt people to make up for some short coming in their own personality.

Your marriage, your blog, your life, your business!

It seems you could use some friends and support and we are here!

ProtonicMan 47M

8/13/2005 9:02 pm

Hey, Prez...
I'd like to see my new friend's old blog stick around, but I don't really get a vote. It really is your decision.

Right on, DCEbony! Dysfunctional and proud of it!


(Juan S)
2642 posts
8/13/2005 10:41 pm

You've got to be kidding me! Someone actually has the audacity to voice an opinion on whether YOU should continue to pour out YOUR thoughts, YOUR soul, YOUR opinion and YOUR advice to the people who voluntarily come to YOUR blog to read YOUR words, In a forum that is designed to give everyone their own personal page to do exactly that?
It is YOUR decision JF. Frankly, I canonly speak for myself and if I was in the situation, which I guess my time might come one day, I will tell them to mind their own F'ing business, Kiss my A$$ and have a coke and smile, cuz their opinions don't rule my world.
In the words of JAY-Z "What they Eat, don't make me $hit"

(Juan S)
2642 posts
8/13/2005 10:42 pm

By the way...I thought it was called AdultFriendFinder, because we're all supposed to be adults here.

mi_mwpm 51M

8/13/2005 11:24 pm

I love ya all! And, Sizzle, you're one funny mother f***er.

Hmmm, the anti-spam number for this comment is 666... probably explains the way the evening started here.

Barbiebunny69 43F

8/14/2005 5:53 pm

stay! stay stay and annoy the shit out of the detractors

PailsDiverHonks 55F

8/14/2005 7:57 pm

JF, I hope you didn't think the post I did was a suggestion you close your blog or account on this site. Not at all! I replied to you in my post, when I read that your wife found out I was surprised at the amount of information that will be available to her to read. I don't know you or your wife. I don't know the whole story. From what I read that got the wheels ticking in my head and I wanted to know how others felt.


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