selfish decision???  

methodman1000 40M
1739 posts
10/1/2005 3:43 am

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selfish decision???

With the exception of health related problems, or preganancy due to sexual assault (i.e. ),is a woman's decision to have an abortion, a selfish decision?
If having the child poses no greater risk to her health than the average pregnant woman, and the child was conceived during consensual a woman who has an abortion being selfish?

someonelikeithot 50F

10/1/2005 8:10 am

Selfish????!!! To bring a child up in a slum and being unable to care for him...that would be selfish! To give birth to a baby in an enviroment of drug, violence and alcholism, that would be selfish and criminal! See it everyday! Who pays is the child! So. Personal opinion: either one is ready to give 100% and more or ...better abortion!

looking4fun_604 50F
67 posts
10/1/2005 10:16 am

Selfish?? Yes & no. Yes - having the child may not conform to her 'lifestyle' - having to nurture & raise it. No - if she cannot provide a lifetime of nurturing & loving it, why should she be forced to have it?? Maybe the father will step to the plate and offer to take his child and raise it himself??

It's a woman's right to decide whether or not she bears any children. Now you can bring up the adoption issue. A woman who gives up a child for adoption has no guarantee that the child will have any better a life in the long-term than she herself could have provided, and living your life knowing that your child is out there and you have no idea what kind of life it is living can be debilitating.

There is no right or wrong answer here (as long as your answer is the same as mine!), but it IS a womans right to choose - whether it be life or not.

RavishingRed1062 54F

10/1/2005 5:04 pm

Abortion (for reasons of birthcontrol) is prolly very selfish. I knew a woman years ago, who had something like 5, simply because she was too stupid or too lazy to use birth control.

HOWEVER, sentencing a child to a life time of abuse and neglect because an adult didn't want a child is also not the answer either.

Right or wrong.. selfish or not.. it's a viable option that will safe hundreds of children years of abuse only to die at the age of 5 at the hands of someone who was SUPPOSE to love and take care of them.


onelittlesecret 33M
1579 posts
10/1/2005 7:35 pm

It's all our right to choose, to do what we will. We've been given that authority by God or nature.

If someone is having a miserable life, or will have a miserable life, killing them is a merciful act?

To determine that because someone is less developed they are less...something, is a slippery slope. Birth seems an arbitrary line, the premature birth is less developed than the late-term abortion. Eventually (possibly in our lifetimes) medical science should advance to the point where the birthing process is no longer necessary, and the child could be removed from the womb early on and raised to adulthood.

And where does it end?

How can you fairly decide what makes a person...more? That concept seems to shift with our culture. And why would it be limited to just a woman and her child in the womb? There are a lot of people who are dependent on someone else taking care of them and don't apparently contribute anything back. They're also "parasites." (Someone else's choice of words, not mine.) We do have the right to let them die (or even to kill them?), but is that alright? I guess it comes down to personal conscience.

I think that slippery slope takes us from an ideal of a special kind of human love, to the simple rule of survival of the fittest. Do what you want, as long as it suits you and you're comfortable with it.

lifeisablast333 54M

10/2/2005 12:03 am

Dude I won't touch that with a 10 foot pole. But it looks like
you have one so, have at it.

methodman1000 40M
1775 posts
10/4/2005 1:46 am

thamnks guys for all your comments..........

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