Breaking rules - all or some?  

master869 47M/45F
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9/19/2005 6:20 pm

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Breaking rules - all or some?


Okay, so I was a little pissed off when I wrote yesterday's blog. I've started thinking about the situation in terms of why people break rules--and which rules they decide to break.

Just by having a membership on this site, most of us are breaking rules of tradition, some more than others, depending on their cultural backgrounds; those members who were brought up in an orthodox religious family are certainly breaking more rules than those who were brought up agnostic and socially unrestricted.

I guess why the whole hot mail thing gets to me is because that rule is different in an important way from the ones I mentioned above: I didn't sign an agreement to abide by traditional cultural rules. My wife and I never vowed to forsake all others. But by joining this site I agreed to abide by its rules, including not circumventing the internal messaging system.

But, as someone once said, "Law, without force, is impotent." If rules are not enforced, people will continue to break them until their actions are considered to be acceptable.

And that brings us right back to the rules of tradition that we break by our memberships on this site. Society says that extra-marital sex is not allowed, whether a secret affair, or open swinging. But how many legal jurisdictions in the West treat marital infidelity as a crime? As non-traditional sex is brought more into the open, it will become more socially acceptable.

Enough rambling for today. Time to go to the gym.

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