How can you not see what is right in front of you???  

mandingoXXX31 43M
11 posts
6/13/2005 10:30 am

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How can you not see what is right in front of you???

I know someone who feels that they know the way a woman thinks and that it is almost always with their pussies!!! He feels as if a female cannot flirt with a man, and not want to fuck him!! He is so determined that the way he feels is the way of the world and it is harmful to his relationships he has with women! He is in a serious relationship, with someone who loves him deeply, yet he hurts her every time he accuses her of cheating, or trying to cheat. He reads her emails, most of them replies to people that he doesn’t know and I know that he misconstrues their meanings. I am tired of seeing her hurt and crying because of his accusations, but am unable to do anything! I have tried to talk to the guy, but he is even more stubborn than I am, and it is like it ‘s no use! She is a flirt and he knows that! But he not only flirts, he calls girls, goes to see them, he has female friends, yet it is unacceptable for her to do the same. I know that this woman deserves to be happy; and see her fight everyday to hold on to the man that she professes to all that she loves, it would just be nice if he would stop fighting and just love her the way that she deserves.

I know that I should stay out of it, but this is a great girl, and this guy gets treated like a king by her. She deserves to be treated like a queen!! Has anyone been in her situation before?? Have you ever seen someone going through this situation? Did they ever wake up??? Did they let go?? I feel that one of these days she will no longer have the energy to fight for him any more and will walk away, leaving him alone, and wishing he had done things differently. What do you say???



6/13/2005 11:35 am

The one thing I have noticed is you say she loves him, but not any
mention of him loving her,Some flirting can be truly harmless other
not so harmless.It takes 2 people to make a relationship, if it`s only one doing all the work it`s a no go.He should not condem her
for doing what he himself is doing.

Some relationships whether ther be onsided or two sided love involved are just not healthy and not really meant to be.
To get involved , no it is not right , they have to work it out themselves, you can only be there to be a friend in time of need..


rm_BigDnLady 43M/40F
1140 posts
6/14/2005 4:48 pm

I feel that the guy, should. if he truly loves this woman, let down his guard. Take time again to learn the reasons why he fell in love with her in the first place. Think about the good things, and the problems they have overcome! Has anyone else loved him the way that she does? Does he believe that anyone else will?? You have got to put forth an effort and show of faith, so that she would be willing too!! Relationships are about give and take. You cannot only be a taker, you must be a giver as well. Women are emotional creatures and when a man gives, and gives his best, they are the best recipricators alive!! That means, if you give badly or incompletely, she will most likely do the same, but if you give whole heartedly, then she most of the time will do the same. Tell that to your friend, and see if it makes a dent.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
6/19/2005 11:04 pm

hmm, if i am reading this correctly you play around but don't want her to play around. if that is the case then both of y'all should put the swinging thing aside if your love for each other is strong. Jealousy will harm the relationship in terrible ways. Get out of AdultFriendFinder while the getting is good!

Um, i mean that person you know and his girlfriend.

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