Expectations.  

luv2sucuoff 39F
69 posts
10/21/2005 8:22 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Expectations.


I was thinking the other day, that I have had so much fun since I joined AdultFriendFinder in June. I came across the site by fluke, while I was looking for something else. I was intrigued by some of the pictures and posts that I saw, and thought 'why not'?
I had no idea what to expect. Honestly.
I have explored, and played, met interesting men, and not-so-interesting men; received many emails, pictures and offers; and made some new friends. Friends that I hope I have for many years.
I have always been sexually open-minded, but find that you can't always be that open with all of your friends, since you didn't meet on that level, or in that forum.
I have stepped out of my comfort zone, and learned new things; and I hope to continue doing so....
I never expected to feel sexier and more attractive, and I never expected to meet men who are attracted to me just the way that I am.
It's been refreshing, and gratifying.
I wonder what you have seen, heard, or experienced that you never could have predicted? Have you stepped right out of your previously established comfort zone? Learned anything new? Do tell...

OttawaMan43sum 47M
1971 posts
10/21/2005 7:49 pm

I've seen/heard alot more here than I have in my life (guess that counts as having "experienced" some new things). And I've chatted with a number of women, mainly through the Ontario room. However, I'e received very few invitations to meet individually with ppl which is understandable given that the odds are against any one guy vis-a-vis the # of women on this site.

Anway, I'm the kind of person who needs to get to know someone inside a bit b4 I can feel genuine attraction for them, as opposed to just seeing a pair of breasts and going ga-ga over them (sure, I sometimes do that too but try not to slobber in front of the lady - it's just bad form.)

There are very few women who I feel I can be open with in terms of my thoughts on sex or simply feeling attractive, but getting that attention is always satisfying, even if it's an e-mail hello from someone. I think this site has encouraged me to extend my comfort zone (hence my ID handle) but so far, hasn't been that helpful.

Y'know something? You really ask some thought-provoking questions...stop it, willya? I get so introspective when you do that lol


OttawaMan43sum 47M
1971 posts
10/22/2005 7:48 am

Given the ratio, women would potentially enjoy it more because of the attention they'd receive (mind you, not always the best treatment). As for me, I've seen alot online but not experienced it in reality. I have some ideas and fantasies that I'm interested in exploring butin a sea of men, it's difficult to realize esp. since I believe in discretion and not hopping into bed without getting to know something about a person first (a name will do) lol

Glad to hear you've experienced some positives here. Personally, I've learned that I have more to learn, but I think it'll be slow going. However, I'm enjoying that journey more thanks to blogs from thoughtful women like you.


rm_wetkitty1963 53F

10/26/2005 8:17 am

I too just happened onto this site. Not being single had a hard time deciding to "join" or not. Don't know what I was looking for or expected to find here. I am pleasantly surprised sometimes at the emails I get and then disgusted by others. I love to read people's blogs to know what others are thinking or having issues with. Sometimes you feel that you are going through life solo and just need to know that others are having problems just like yourself.

I like to read people's advice and have taken some myself. I too have stepped out of my comfort zone by attending some M&G's and have met some really nice people in the process.

Yes there is sex if that is what you are looking for. You have your time and your checklist and hopefully you will find a partner willing to play. But if you are just here for friendship, that's okay too.


IfSiXwAsA9 55M

11/5/2005 6:36 pm

Luv2s..., You are gorgeous, I would love to hold you in my arms, and kiss you passionately, and then some


smackyman 46M
3844 posts
11/10/2005 11:11 pm

Just me being here and blogging is something totally new for me and out of my normal 'comfort zone'. Everything from this site is still electronic - I haven't meet up with anyone from AdultFriendFinder. I while I wouldn't be opposed to it with the right person/couple/situation - it's not what I'm looking for primarily. I'm hooked on blogs these days. I'm spending WAY too much time reading/posting. *grin* But I am learning some new things about myself strangely...


crazyj9771 31M

11/13/2005 11:34 pm

luv2sucuoff I would love to talk to you sometime. I like t meet new people and I think that being on here may help me do just that. I am new to Ottawa and don't know to many poeple.


oralfun692004 47M

11/19/2005 8:30 am

I haven't had too much experience with AdultFriendFinder, although I have been a member for a while now. I felt more comfortable lurking to see what it was all about. I'm just now discovering the groups and blogs. (I always knew they were there, but didn't think I would get much enjoyment out of exploring them -- I was wrong) I've only met one woman from this site... and I agree with OttawaMan, it is probably more difficult for men to end up meeting the woman they want to than it is for women. I can just picture the mountain of emails women must get on this site. I know that I receive emails only as a response and I've gotten responses from only a few and decided to meet one. The one encounter I had was... okay... not spectacular... my toes didn't curl, but it was fun and she was a very sweet woman and we had a laugh -- I enjoyed myself. Have I stepped outside my comfort zone with this site? Sure. I can be pretty shy around new people sometimes (which is strange considering what I do for a living)... this site has, oddly enough, made me a bit bolder -- even with people I meet off the site at a party, night club or bar.

I believe that a) as long as you're honest about who you are and what you want and b) don't have any expectations that someone is going to give it to you... then this site is more enjoyable.


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