Bigger Picture? Two points...  

luv2sucuoff 39F
69 posts
11/19/2005 8:02 am

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Bigger Picture? Two points...

I know we're all logged in, logged on, and looking for sex, from this sex/swingers site...
But I was wondering what you want in life? Bigger picture? Is AdultFriendFinder a lifestyle you think you will hold on to for awhile? or a lifetime?
We all have a purpose, right? Don't we? Are you living life to the fullest, and using your talents (and I don't mean sexual) to live your best life?

The reason I ask, is because I am about to make a big change in my life. I currently have a good job. Good pay. Good benefits. And I have been working with this company for 10 years. Thing is, my passion has always been with the beauty industry. Slowly, but surely, I am going to start taking courses - to allow me a slow transition into esthetics. Eventually working in a spa, on a cruise ship, in a resort in Jamaica, or maybe someday own my own luxurious, pampering, spa.
Are you doing what you were put here to do? Employment-wise, that is? If you have a talent, aren't you doing yourself a disservice by not utilizing it to the fullest of your abilities? Isn't living a full life, about more than the quest for the almighty dollar?

And another point: someday, at some point in time, I hope to meet someone with whom I can have a relationship. Not tomorrow. And I am not pushing it, or being overly aggressive in trying to find it, but someday....
These things take time, I am a chicken-shit, and when you least expect it, it will happen. (so I am told)
I don't have an air of desperation, my clock isn't ticking so loudly that I can't hear, and I don't believe in settling for less than one deserves...
Does anyone else feel this way? Don't we all want to be loved, and cherished? Have the warm and fuzzies?

TechSteve 49M

11/19/2005 12:35 pm

Hi Luv2:

I just came out of a long term relationship last yr and I am hoping for another one, and this time, I want it to last forever. AdultFriendFinder for me will not be a lifestyle. If I settle with somebody, I will delete my profile.

My main talent is operating a truck. I have been to college, but it was so long ago, I dont even remember what I learned If I was able to take 2 or 3 yrs off and if I didnt live in an area that was lacking educational facilities, I would pursue something in the medical technology field.

I am not desperate either when it comes to finding the right one. I have my standards and I am not going to lower them. It is not worth it.

oralfun692004 47M

11/19/2005 3:21 pm

I am doing what, I believe, I was put here to do. I'm an actor and have been doing it for the past 10 years. My only hope is that it pays the bills... which *knock on wood* it has done for the last few years. A long time ago, I came to terms with the fact that I really can't do anything else. I mean, I can... I'm quite capable and have done everything from designing databases at an aerospace company to waiting tables to selling furniture (ugh). Hell, when I went to college, my goal was to study genetics. I just... I realized that I wasn't happy doing these other things... that my passion was elsewhere. I needed to be an actor.

As for AdultFriendFinder... I don't know. I don't think I will meet my life partner here... but then who knows, right? Again, no expectations. I know that at some point I want to share my life with someone... to have kids. I can feel that in my bones. But I also know that right now isn't my time to think about such things. I also came out of a long term (and what ended up being long distance) relationship. Its ending taught me a lot about where I am in life at the moment. So, I guess I stand nowhere on this point. If a relationship comes, it comes... I won't fight it. But I know that at the moment, I'm not looking for it either.

oralfun692004 47M

11/19/2005 3:31 pm

Oh, and I forgot to mention the warm and fuzzies. I love the warm and fuzzies... that warm sensation in my chest at the simple mention of her name... the little jig I do just thinking about her... the wiggly feet. I love it. And that simple joy of watching someone sleep when you are madly in love with them. That irresistible urge to caress an eyebrow or some silly thing like that. O, there are epic poems written about that sensation. But do you need to be in a long term relationship to experience it? Is it possible to be that open with someone without the commitment?

OttawaMan43sum 47M
1986 posts
11/20/2005 1:04 pm


I've been waiting a month for one of your thought-provoking blog entries and you've delivered in a big way. What is the meaning of life and's place in it?

Well, it won't be a lifestyle for me. Rather it's about living out some fantasies, feeling that I pushed myself in some way to expand my horizons. I don't live my life in pursuit of the almighty dollar but I do want to achieve a level of comfort without compromising most of my values, which isn't an easy thing to do. (I could get into more detail, but not here.)

Every year on my b-day, I try to do something a little daring, just so I don't live with regrets as to why I didn't push myself a bit. Maybe next year it'll be parachuting or bungee jumping, I don't know yet...just something to help me suck the marrow out of life.

I've discovered a number of aspects to myself over the past 5 years that have made me feel somewhat fulfilled. For instance, I'm shy but luv making up different voices. (Think I'm a closet ham.) I also have an inate sense of touch which is why I luv hugs and know I'd be a good masseur.

My current job allows me to contribute my talents and interests but I'm also frustrated by the bureaucracy & politics of it all (as I'm sure can be said by many of us). So on the one hand, I enjoy it but am also looking for other opportunities in the same field.

Before you make a career change, I suggest you evaluate things from a cost-benefit perspective, analyzing the risks & potential rewards associated with your move, particularly if you have dependents. But whatever you decide, you'll find happiness and fulfillment because that's what life should be about.

As for warm and fuzzies, that'd be oh so nice, esp. during these cold winter-like days.

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