Perceptions.........  

lustcurious42 56F
257 posts
7/30/2006 2:01 pm

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Perceptions.........


The boyfriend (oh damn, he needs a new name. Maybe lover, love-of-my-life, ok, I'm open to suggestions here) and I were talking last night about obstacles in our future and he asked if I was ready for the pressures of our relationship. One of the pressures he mentioned was of being in an interracial relationship and society's views. I find it funny that in the seven years I dated him in another lifetime, I never noticed any negativity nor do I notice it now. I always tell him people look at us because we look so damn cute together and so in love, how could they not look at us.
We have our cultural differences and joke about the country girl and the city boy finding each other, about blending households and how cowboy art will mesh with African art (I tell him we'll have to have separate themes for different rooms but he has some beautiful things that I'd be proud to have in our home when we get to that point). And despite some differences, we have so many things in common. Intelligence that stimulates meaningful conversations, caring hearts, work in the same area of expertise, shared laughters, shared sexual kinkiness levels, and most of all, a deep love for each other.
It's funny, life is. We think we are in control. That we pick and choose who we love, who we desire, what life will bring us. And to some point, that's so true. But never did I choose to fall in love with him for the second time. It was simply beyond my control. All the obstacles seem minor to me when weighed with the love I get in return. And it feels good to give my love as well. It's funny to see what mood I chose on old blogs compared to the mood I've been choosing the last couple of months. It's sweet what love can do to the soul...
I would love to hear your thoughts, your experiences if you have any........


goodatpoetry2 66M
12374 posts
7/30/2006 2:17 pm

It seems as if everything is going as well as can be expected. Of course, you'll both still have some juggling to do.
You can't expect too much so soon. But it sure sounds as if you're on the right track.
The inter-racial thing? It's only normal to have questions about that. There's still is SOME negativity around. But not enough to worry yourself about.
Sounds good. Relax and enjoy.


lustcurious42 replies on 7/31/2006 7:06 pm:
I don't really worry, just sometimes I am just so naive.........and yet at other times so much a woman of the world. It's a rare combination, ya know?

LustyTaurus 48M  
21253 posts
7/30/2006 10:04 pm

I think rather than being racist, many folks are simply curious but shy about it...they stare instead of talk. I found that to be the case particularly in smaller communities where there may not be racial diversity.

As far as what to call your boyfriend here in blogland, how about...

LT's Stand in?

Dark Magic?

My Sweet Lover?

Just suggestions..


lustcurious42 replies on 7/31/2006 7:07 pm:
I kinda like My Sweet Lover.......so far that is it. Or it could be My Sweet Nasty Lover.
I still have green alligators racing through my head tonight......talk about stuck song syndrome. And we know who I have to thank for that!!

WhiteMonkey1972 44F
1 post
8/22/2006 11:42 am

For my experiences, I learned to deal with certain things. I am in Mississippi close to Memphis, TN.. Whenever we are going to make a large purchase I usually go in the store first so a salesperson will say may I help you...I tell him what I am looking for then about that time my husband would come in... We found that if we went in together we never heard that voice say, "May I help you"...especially from the white older men...They are still set in their ways...isn't that what people use as an excuse for them...LOL I have no hang ups or anger toward the prejudice people. I learned to adjust so that I would have the upper hand in the end...I just live my life...LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH.......


lustcurious42 replies on 8/22/2006 6:00 pm:
It's nice to hear other perspectives.......and just how real my perceptions are.
And by the way, I love the picture too

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