wishes for kisses  

lushgirl69 49F
329 posts
9/17/2005 1:42 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

wishes for kisses

I have a friend that I have spoken to a few times; I met him through this site. He is the epitomy of what I always say I want....I have to say if he didn't live so far away, it would be close to an obsessive level....only in the healthiest sense of course. At the moment, I can safely say that I am at the least smitten...He is articulate and sexy and he lives so far away....dammit...
I laid off of writing him due to the fact that i coldn't get him off my mind. He was compelling...I miss his words and his almost physical presence.......
Maybe obession can be okay in small doses...

thisiscrazy1959 57M
3 posts
9/26/2005 2:20 am

While you presently are actualizing this man as the epitome of what you say you want, some of your ardour is accentuated by the distance factor you repeatedly note in your blog. Perhaps this is more of a dicotome, in that the farther removed his availability, the more poignant the desire. Put more simply, you pine for what is currently outside your reach. Unobtainability primes the passion. I do not mean to denigrate this man, as I am sure he appeals to you on a number of levels, but ironically the safety of his remote locale, does nothing to bridle your enthusiasm for him because, you are -essentially- safe from daily exposure to him which you subconciously fear might become another mundane relationship. You secretly dread familarity creeping into your lifestyle and can more easily allow your enthusiasm to flare more completely, when the payoff is not likely to become a regular event. I chose to respond to this blog as no one else had done so. MARK in Arlington

lushgirl69 49F

9/26/2005 5:31 pm

I am in complete agreement with you on the core of this issue...It's the old stand-by: forbidden fruit is always sweeter. I can easily idealize this individual without the danger of a real and tangible level of emotional risk. I know that the other common phrase is that familiarity breeds contempt.....I do appreciate your astute observation.

(Juan S)
2642 posts
9/28/2005 1:31 pm

Wouldn't actually HAVING the experiences be better than idealizing them...
After all, things can be done to keep it from getting mundane...

biscuitasylum 45M

9/29/2005 10:20 pm

i hate my job sometimes... if that helps

lushgirl69 49F

9/30/2005 5:52 am

I think someone is reading my mind.....

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