Patience vs. Patients.....  

lushgirl69 49F
329 posts
8/18/2005 9:17 am

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Patience vs. Patients.....

It's amazing to me how many people confuse the idea of being submissive with the idea of being mentally confused.
In the relationship between a true submissive and their dom, there is a lot of give and take.
The submissive, must understandably, trust the one they choose to serve. It takes a level of communication that takes time to grow.
Too often, one who aspires to the role of Master presumes that the sub, in willing to assume the role of slave, is easily "put in place". It's as if they assume the automatic right to lord over he other individual without the delicacy of building something , you know , like TRUST.... The use of demeaning phrases, an overbearing attitude without the use of persuasion, or the outright lack of patience will cause an immediate and inevitable rebellion.
There is the wooing portion of the relationship; the submissive must feel that there is no other they would rather serve; i.e. the compulsion to give over completely, enthralled by drive of passion and needing to please.
And one must not forget, in this scenario, safe, SANE, and consenual.....believe it or not, it is
the submissive who is in control. The master, being a good dom, will undrstand that her needs give him the reins, and will in turn listen to her safety words, signals, whatever the case may be.
Thus the level of control. A good sub/dom relationship entails that neither one abuses or presumes too much in this situation.
One who goes outside of this should simply be considered an "out-patient" and maybe consider psychiatric help.....
Take that with as much or as little humor as you please.....

janstrong 44M
15 posts
8/18/2005 9:49 am

iyou are a great sexy

14u24me34all 51M
235 posts
8/20/2005 1:11 pm

I know (I think I know)what you mean...I think people get confused and blur the lines between dom/sub and s&m.......apples&oranges,No?
Really,isn't a good dom/sub relationship not that much different than early traditional family roles... maybe leaning a little to the Quaker or Puritan family hierarchy..? At least behind those not-so-pure closed doors!!

lushgirl69 49F

8/20/2005 6:13 pm

Exactly... I am willing to pursue both scenarios, but it is a matter of the progrssion of it all. Some try to appeal to the degradation issue, and that is not my cup of tea... I want to feel things, be it pain or compassion (hopefully a combination of both!), not humilation.

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