What to do?  

lupon_69 43M
216 posts
5/22/2005 10:55 pm

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What to do?

How do we know? Are kids these days more concerned about material things then what maters? I had a big discussion with my son to day over this. To me it seams that he would be content in just watching me do all the stuff around the house, “such as the laundry, dishes, yard work, or just plainly taking care of the dog.” I have been pushed to my limit and I don’t know what to do. My ex said that he idolizes me, and wants to be like me when he grows up, but he does not show that side, to me. Just to day I mowed the yard pulled weeds did the dishes started the laundry and picked up the house. While he played video games and watched the TV. I snapped. And I know I did not mean to yell at him and I said things that I didn’t mean but, am I supposed to let him walk on me? So what do I do? Do I trust that he is going to do what he promises? Or should I just let it all slide because he is a kid? When I was a kid I did my chores so I could play. But he is a procrastinator and put every thing off, until I yelled at him to do it. Well I got in trouble with the ex over the whole thing. Ahhhh, I feel like the world is against me and I don’t know what to do. And it don’t help hen your medalling mother tries to set you up on dates. God it’s like 13 again and it’s driving me crazy. I’m nearly 32 and I don’t need my mother to set me up on dates. Well I’ve ranted and vented and still have no idea why. God I hate my life.


Lapkin4u 42F

5/23/2005 9:49 am

Ok well first let me tell you, you are not alone I go throught the same thing daily with my girls. What I do is make a list of daily chores and post it on the fridge, one chore each day, or a couple if they are little things. Then when homework is done, its chore time.....if the chores dont get done there is no T.V. or video games or going outside to play until the chores are done, period. I still get complaints its not fair ...I have to do everything...blah, blah, blah....but you know what....too bad cuz I'm the boss and I said. They hate that. Anyway I tell them well yeah I have to go to work so I can pay for the T.V. and your video games and the toys you like to play with so I dont think its too much to ask for you to help around the house....or I can stop buying those things you enjoy so much......they are a priviledge not a right. I am pretty strict with my kids but I believe it is a neccessary evil, or they will walk all over you if you give them the chance. Not to mention they have to learn about responsibility. Now I am by far NOT the mother of the year but I do think you have to be firm with your kids and if they dont follow the rules then they have to pay the consquences. The same if you were not going to work and doing your job...you would get suspended or fired...right? Those are the consquences, we all have them. So I suggest you make a plan and stick to it...its tough but you cant waiver from it or kids will take that inch and turn it into a mile. Good Luck and if all else fails you can move to Michigan and we can hate our lives together but have really great sex!


lupon_69 43M

5/25/2005 10:01 pm

hmmm I think you have a point. and I agree... and michigan might be a good move


Lapkin4u 42F

5/26/2005 10:22 am

Anytime baby, anytime! *WINK* *WINK*


cajunpet 70M
1185 posts
5/31/2005 2:51 am

Lapkin4u is right in what she is saying, and I could not have said it better. If you do not teach them responsibilty now, they may never learn it on their own. Then you will be rearing you grandchildren, because they do not want the responsibity of that to.

Good luck. Keep On Blogging!!!! Have a great day.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
6/5/2005 5:09 am

well our TV was going OFF until they had done their homework and put their bags away but I havent been enforcing it the last couple of weeks so lately we have had the same problem with them either not doing it or dragging their feet until TOLD!

going to have to go back to turning the telling off from lunchtime onwards I think....well at least until their homework and chores are done and their stuff packed away....

WyvernRose


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