More Tips for Better Female Orgasms - 1  

luckywithladeez 49M
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8/27/2005 2:50 pm

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More Tips for Better Female Orgasms - 1

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Gentlemen: If you already knew it, congratulations! If not, read on

More Tips for Better Female Orgasms - 1

What happens during climax?

After a woman becomes sexually aroused, her heart beats faster while her breathing quickens. Often, she'll tighten various muscles all over her body. Her breasts usually enlarge somewhat, the nipples tend to stand out while the areolas become noticeably enlarged. Some women flush red on their face, neck, and chest. The visible part of the clitoris also swells slightly.

Secretions occur inside and at the opening of the vagina. Her labia flatten and open. The vagina lengthens and widens internally, changing what was a potential space into more of an actual space. These vaginal changes are mainly a result of a rush of blood to the pelvic area -- called engorgement -- which provides a generally pleasurable warmth in a female's genital area.

As her arousal increases, so does engorgement as well as most of the changes mentioned above becoming more pronounced. The one area that doesn't follow this pattern is the clitoris. Instead of continually swelling, it actually begins to retract under the clitoral hood and decreases in length by about 50%. This is a sign that orgasm is imminent for most women, as long as optimal stimulation continues.

The orgasm itself begins with strong muscle contractions. These contractions can be finished within four seconds or last up to about 15 seconds. They tend to occur at intervals of 0.8 seconds. Also, the inner two-thirds of the vagina usually open up even more, while the uterus contracts.

During orgasm, skin flushing generally reaches its maximum. Muscles may keep contracting, and blood pressure, heart rate, and respiratory rate continue to rise. Some women make sounds reflecting the pleasure they are experiencing.

Signs confirming orgasm

Rhythmic muscle contractions occur in the outer third of the vagina, the uterus and anus. The first muscle contractions are the most intense, and occur at a rate of about 1 per second. As the orgasm continues, the contractions become less intense and occur at a more random rate.

A mild orgasm may have 3 -5 contractions, an intense orgasm 10 -15.

The "sex flush" (redness) becomes even more pronounced and may cover a greater percentage of the body. Muscles throughout the body may contract during orgasm, not just those in the pelvic area.
Some women will emit or spray some fluid from their urethra during orgasm. This is often called female ejaculation. A woman's facial expression may indicate that she is in pain when she is having a pleasurable orgasm. At the peak of orgasm the entire body may become momentarily rigid.

What does orgasm feel like?

Women who have never experienced orgasm, and women who are not sure if they have, often ask, "What does an orgasm feel like?" This is a hard, if not impossible, question to answer. Imagine trying to explain to someone what it feels like to sneeze or yawn. Not easy to do. How our senses and brain interpret physical stimuli is subjective, that is dependent solely on the individual's perceptions. Subjective reports frequently mention a sensation of tingling in the spine, brain, and genital areas. While some women relay an experience being on the verge of passing out, others report a level of enjoyment only somewhat less than that of "the earth moving". If a woman has experienced some form of nerve damage, she may not be able to tell if she has had an orgasm.

Female sensual receptors

Although it's true that the entire body is in some way involved during climax, the key sensual receptor will always be the clitoris. Without engaging the "clit" directly or indirectly, there can be no prospect of orgasm. It seems difficult, particularly for men to understand that something as diminutive as the clit could be so vitally important. How could this tiny, almost external appendage be infinitely more sensitive than the vagina itself?

Intuition would make you believe that the lining or walls of the vagina are somehow more akin to the tip penis. Following that logic these two matching surfaces would engage one another during intercourse... resulting in ultimate mutual pleasure, physically and emotionally. Yet for some reason mother nature has played a trick. During intercourse primarily the emotional element comes into play, as the female creates a physical union with male.

There is a simple but not necessarily well known explanation for this circumstance. Unlike the glands of the penis, the vagina has relatively few sensual receptors. Ironically, the deeper the penetration, the fewer the receptors. The relatively few nerve receptors which do exist in the vagina are actually located to the upper third; which in many women may be only marginally sensitive at best.

For a woman to achieve climax the clit must be stimulated in some fashion. This can be accomplished in two ways, directly or indirectly. With the indirect method the males pubic bone may push up against the clit while thrusting during intercourse. Or the penis may rub against the vulva, which because of its proximity to the clip, may result in indirect stimulation. Considering these circumstances it should be evident that indirect stimulation of the clit is not very efficient. It's actually a testimonial to the clit's remarkable sensitivity that indirect stimulation is even sufficient to produce climax for about 30 - 40% of women. Depending on the result of any particular survey.

By most accounts the clit is the counterpart of the tip or "glans" of the penis, with three primary differences: a) the urethra does not pass though the clit. b) it's smaller in size. 3) it's significantly more sensitive due to the greater number of nerve receptors (per square inch) than those found on the glans of the penis.

In this case it should be fair to assume that it's not possible for the majority of women to reach climax solely as a result of intercourse in the missionary position (face to face).

What might be the alternative?

Any position which allows the male partner easy and unrestricted access to the clit. For example: with the male laying on his back, and the female straddling his waist (facing him). In this position it's easily possible for the female to engage in thrusting, while allowing the male to directly stimulate her clit with his fingers.

Another alternative... more secure couples may decide to engage in intercourse with the male entering from the rear. With the female positioned in a forward kneeling position, she would have one hand free. This would allow her to stroke her clit to the point of full climax in concert with the thrusting action of her partner. The Application of this technique may make it possible for the couple to coordinate their efforts of reaching that elusive and highly prized "simultaneous" orgasm.

Loosetooth 41M
1146 posts
8/27/2005 5:08 pm

But when does the bird meet the bee? Not so clever now!!!!!

Barbiebunny69 43F

8/29/2005 1:09 pm

Mizz exactly or bi curious would get a lot out of it.

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
8/30/2005 2:25 am


I sincerely hope that everyone enjoys these articles.

patsam69 51M/51F

8/31/2005 6:18 pm

why Is everyone so worried about a woman coming with intercourse? The percentage that actually do is so small. I do not. In my 22 years of having sex it has only happened 2 or 3 times. Give mne a good hand or tongue any day!

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/1/2005 5:29 am


I don't know if I can control myself much longer!


Perhaps it's time for a little new spice?


hotandtite38 49F
1 post
9/1/2005 9:04 pm

Ran across your blog almost by accident, but did and find them extremely suited for this site. I am one of those women who love kissing, and all of your articles should be copied and given to every male who doesn't "get it." Besides the fact that you are heartstoppingly gorgeous (I'm sure you've heard that before), you could demonstrate on me any time!! H&T38

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/2/2005 7:43 pm


I am glad that you enjoyed reading my Blog articles. If men who joined AdultFriendFinders spent 1/1000th the time in preparation for blogging that they do in their actual blogging, they will be pleasantly surprised by the number of responses they receive from ladies. E.g., go to a professional photographer and get a good profile shot...but, that's part of a future article.


You are so beautiful this early in the morning.


goddessofbitches 41M/33F

9/3/2005 11:32 am

WOW~~ You sure know your if only my hubby would just go and do these things....I would be happy.


Always The Bitch

silkysmoothlegs3 105F

9/3/2005 2:04 pm

Lucky, I love to orgasm, and fake alot so the male doesnt feel so bad,, im tempted to copy and paste this post to all the males in ireland

I mean if i say "oh yes" there there there.... what usually happens is he moves away from that place,,, ive given up to be honest,,

Self pleasure always guaruntees an orgasm

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/10/2005 12:51 pm


To know you is to love you.


I'm glad that you understand that in the end, it's about truly caring and understanding your partner and his/her needs.
Thanks for stopping by, and for your compliment.


Why not print out or copy my articles and share them with your husband? As you probably realize, "it all starts with understanding what makes your partner tick and supplying (sharing) those things that make the experience exceptionally pleasurable" (article 1).
Thanks for stopping by, and for your compliment.


Copy, reprint, and distribute these articles any way you like. Oftentimes, when a man "disconnects" from a woman's gestures that lead him to the motions and areas which give her the most pleasure, it's because he tries (innocently) to anticipate her. I.e., he thinks, "Well, she liked this stimulus, so she's sure to like this new stimulus more," when in fact, the opposite is true.
Thanks for stopping by, and for your compliment.

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