Is She Interested In You, or Is She Merely Playing?  

luckywithladeez 49M
91 posts
9/12/2005 3:36 pm

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Is She Interested In You, or Is She Merely Playing?

Is She Interested In You, or Is She Merely Playing?

It is crucial to know how a single woman acts, speaks, and uses body language around you that indicates that she is romantically or sexually interested in you. Once you learn these signals, you can use them to your advantage, because if she’s truly interested in you, this really increases your chances of scoring with her.

Of the nearly infinite number of cues that a woman exudes when she is interested in a man, these guidelines will help you tell if she is truly interested and attracted to you:

Men, Read Her Body Language!

The first, and most obvious clue.
She flashes you a big smile, showing her upper and lower teeth, and with a relaxed face.

Her romantic gaze.
She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated (this could be mistaken for her being high on drugs).

She becomes slightly nervous/excited.
She softly bites her lips, possibly shows her tongue, followed by licking her lips or touching/massaging her front teeth. Also, she begins playing with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions. She’s thinking about kissing/tasting you, don’t blow it now!

She reflexively shows her instincts.
While talking to you, she slowly strokes her glass up and down with her thumb and index finger. Also, she begins playing with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

She advertises her availability to you.
She deliberately teases your interest, such as, wearing a top that shows her nipples underneath, and you notice that they are getting perky and erect.

She is poised and ready to go.
She starts sitting straight up and her muscles firm. Need I say more?

She points/picks you.
If her leg is crossed, it’s either pointed towards you, or rocking back and forth in your direction.

She mimics your speech volume/patterns.
She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours. Likewise, she speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours. She will likely probe for your interest cues, then engage you in these subjects. If she is a psychology major, look out [ha ha ha]! Finally, she will be sure to laugh in unison with you.

She mimics your body language.
She mirrors your body language and body positions.

She worries about your interest level.
Oftentimes, she will rub her chin or touches her cheek, indicating that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way.

She blows smoke in your face.
Actually, you’ve seen this one in the movies...If she smokes, she blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you. She will likely hold her mouth open, lips parted, and gaze deeply into your eyes.

She maybe flirting, but who knows?
When she winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance, chances are 50/50 or better that she’s thinking of some extra-curricular activities with you. Likewise, if she raises, then lowers her eyebrows, and repeatedly smiles. Guys, you’re halfway there! Also, while talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

She shows you her truth.
This one can be very deceptive, but in general, if she exposes the palms of her hand facing you, she is trying to communicate who/what she is to you. While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

She is hoping your good at foreplay.
Women love massaging their scalp, brushing their hair. It feels good. If she begins twirling her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you, odds are good that she wishes you were doing it for her.

She can’t hide her strong sexual attraction to you.
Come on guys, you’ve all seen a gal do this, but tell me, did you really understand what she was telling you when her skin tone becomes red while being around you?

She is thinking of stroking you, or being stroked by you.
She shows her desire for physical stimulus from you by rubbing her wrists up and down.

She really wants oral stimulus/to kiss you.
She puts her fingernail between her teeth or touches her lips repeatedly. She wants to kiss you, but she can’t help herself. Men, it’s time to make your move.

She wants to feel your body next to hers.
She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you. Subconsciously, she is beginning to show you areas of her body that she feels need your attention. Take note!

She singles you out from the pack.
In a crowd, she speaks only to you and focuses her undivided attention on you. Men, this is a big clue, don’t blow it!

I know this is not all of the many signs that a woman will display to show her interest in you; after all, we are all unique. Remember though, it’s to your advantage to know if she's interested or not, and if she's not truly interested in you, you will just be wasting your time on her.

Don’t look for any one clue or all of the above clues, but rather a combination of a few of them. Remember that these signs alone are not good enough to win her over, you have to convince her that her interest in you is justified!

Seduction is a game/dance all unto itself, and you have to play it right!

rm_jacexprime2 39M
67 posts
9/13/2005 5:01 am

Sassy: Perhaps they just don't apply to you. These are some generalized clues, not "hardcore-every-woman-does-this" rules.

Lucky: Nice article! Do you ever publish this stuff in the AdultFriendFinder "magazine?" I'll be waiting to read your "AdultFriendFinder Newbie Help" post when and if you get to writing one. That should be informative...

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/13/2005 9:07 pm


Thank you for your kind words. As you know, I am always eager to discover new and exciting things about you (and your body!).


50%! I'll take it!
You're absolutely right about your neck being a highly sensitive zone. When major women's cosmetic firms consider arousing interest from a mere 10% of American ladies between ages 15-65 a success, perhaps we should market this.
Thanks for dropping by.


Thanks jacexprime2, you're absolutely right, these are very general clues, and a tiny list of them at that. I was/am hoping that ladies might add their own clues to the list. I wrote many articles like these in the late 90's, so if people enjoy them, I'll post more.

CuteAZguy27 39M
1545 posts
9/14/2005 3:53 am

I reviewed your writings and they are really good, i also see your not on a constantly here, but you have allot of people who just pass thrue, so to get more people to come back or those reviewing your past blogs, maybe try setting a date at the end of your articles when your next article will be posted-that way you will have more viewers and commentors as well,again great articles, will be waiting for the next writings.



luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/15/2005 12:09 pm


Good idea! Perhaps I'll try it.
Yes, I really didn't expect a lot of feedback, as my articles are not inquisitive in nature.
Thanks for dropping by.

luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
9/25/2005 10:07 pm


Thanks for your compliment, I treasure your opinion.


luckywithladeez 49M
266 posts
11/20/2005 10:03 pm


You foxy flirt, you! I seriously doubt that any man has ever complained when you flirt with him!

I really enjoy getting warm feedback from sensual–"touchy-feely"–people like you and me.


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