A Mistake  

rm_lovesk8ters 29F
52 posts
7/1/2006 9:06 am
A Mistake

I finally told the Soldier that I am a virgin and he wants me to wait for him..thats in like 7 months....but I have another guy I want even more..than him..Mr.X...I don't know what to do I am so confused I want them both and I know its mutual...I can't decide..I hate this its not fun or fair I don't see how girls get off to having guys around their fingers...its pretty fucked up.. I don't know anymore... I don't want to make a mistake and hurt the one that I should of been with ....I need to talk to them...both soon...

amoldenough 69F
16436 posts
7/1/2006 10:01 am

I say, go for the one you want the most. Do you love them or just want them? You didn't mention love. Think long and hard and figure out which one is the one. You have time.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

adbacula 36M

7/1/2006 10:21 am

I believe people can be polyamourous. Be honest with yourself and those around you, and you can never go wrong. If you try talking about it with both men, you might find they think you're worth sharing. Good luck.

rm_lovesk8ters 29F
8 posts
7/1/2006 1:41 pm

Thank you both I really need the help...I am unsure about love..its not just lust either..it is everything but love yet...desire..lust...emotional connection and attraction....the entire package...I don't want to be shared..I do in fact want to be loved and respected..and both have the potential...to be something more...

adbacula 36M

7/2/2006 9:49 am

We ALL need help now and then. Come to think of it, that's why all of us ARE here! Do these men know about each other? Have you talked to either one about it? Communication is crucial to establishing and maintaining any relationship.

rm_lovesk8ters 29F
8 posts
7/2/2006 9:06 pm

Yes I made sure to be honest in the beginning and they both know about each other...They are very different in personalities but both I find extremely attractive..they are also different in age...both are into the same things sexually...I dunno...I just can't help feeling that if I give one myself I will hurt the other one...I promised Iraq Soldier that if I didn't meet anyone before he came back I would be with him...but I did...and now he is alone..I think I just feel guilty.

adbacula 36M

7/3/2006 1:24 pm

It's a tough situation to be sure, and someone (if not everyone) will be hurt. Without being callous, don't overly concern yourself with sparing anyone's feelings. Remember, this is all about YOU. The most important thing is to reach a solution (soon), whatever it may be. I think you're on your own from here. Follow your heart.

Best of luck!

SirMounts 102M

7/3/2006 2:35 pm

Ah, one of the many crossroads of life.
Welcome to blogging, lovesk8ters. *smiling*

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