why is tough on the nice guys  

lovescout 55M
20 posts
8/14/2005 8:54 am

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7/17/2006 2:22 pm

why is tough on the nice guys

I was told the other day that i was to nice. That is the way I am. I have been that way my whole life. I try to be agressive and i end up sounding like a jerk and i do not like it. so i stay being a nice guy. i guess i will not meet as many people that way. but i rahte meet them on my trems. what do you think.

rideuhard2005 48F

10/25/2005 9:25 pm

The only thing you are obligated to be in life is what and who you truly are...

I don't think women intentionally ignore or devalue nice men, its just hard to see you among all the louder player types sometimes!

lovescout 55M

10/29/2005 10:21 pm

I think you may be right.

26carbondale 37M
1 post
2/20/2006 10:02 pm

Dude lemme tell ya, I'm a nice guy too. And yes it's very difficult. I'm not a bad lookin fella either. Girls just want guys who are a bit of a mystery and they gotta figure out, so sometimes I use the playa attitude and I get more girls that way, sad but true. Ultimately though, it ends in something short term. It's great at first hitting these 18-25 year old girls, but lemme tell ya it does get old. How? Trust me, it just does. When u wanna find that one that's special, ultimately I hear the nice guy does win. Try church, it's a good place, but don't expect to get laid. At least until marraige, but that's ok if she's worth it enough to marry her. Comments please.

Longingfor69Now 53F

6/2/2006 3:16 pm

Flashy guys are fun to play with. However, in the end, it's the nice guy that catches the prize. In most cases, the type of women attracted to nice guys are of high quality....never change who you are to please someone. in the end, you have to live with yourself.

rm_RocknRoxie 49F

7/16/2006 3:12 pm

It is not always that way. I have met a few men off of AdultFriendFinder. I have found that they are all over the scale. Some are nice to chat with but leave a lot to be desired in having a real conversation. Some seem quiet and then do not shut up in person. Take the time to get to know someone and it has made a difference for me. Just hang on, I know that there is someone out there for everyone.

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