Well, here goes nothing!  

lookin4fun3174 42M
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7/6/2005 12:53 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Well, here goes nothing!


As you all can see, I'm a 31 year old married male. I've been married for 5 years, and have made love with my wife 3 times in the last 18 months. I love my marriage and I love my wife, so I don't want this to sound like a rant, but I've discovered that my wife and I are wired very differently. We've talked and she's absolutely fine with sex once every 6 months. Myself, I'm craving physical touch. The feel, smell, and taste of someone else's body next to mine, the exhiliration of experimentation, of just enjoying each other's bodies. For a long time I thought it was me, that I wasn't making her feel wanted enough, or being sensitive enough to her needs, or helping put her in a mood where she would want to be intimate. After a number of discussions over the last couple of years I've come to find out that isn't the case. She's just not interested in sex. I want to make somebody feel good--that's absolutely my biggest turn-on. Just knowing that something that I'm saying or doing is turning a woman on turns ME on. I want to feel that so bad with someone...

I just joined AdultFriendFinder a couple of weeks ago and thought this would be an interesting, public yet still private way of seeing how things go. Feel free to chime in with any comments or questions, and I'll do the same!!!

lookin4fun3174 42M

7/9/2005 9:51 pm

Sunshine, thanks for the post. Very good questions.
First, before we were married, we talked about trying to wait before really having a sexual relationship. While we did have sex a couple of times while we were dating, for the most part we waited until after the wedding. I knew she obviously had SOME interest in sex, but I thought things would "pick up" (for lack of a better term) after the wedding, since we intentionally were putting it off. It picked up some, but not much. In hindsight, it really was something we should have done a lot more talking about before we got married--you're right.

And you're also right that this isn't considerate of her feelings. I do realize that and it's a struggle. No, she doesn't know I'm on here, and yes, it would be very bad if she ever knew.

I guess for me it's gotten to that point where I'm starved for physical affection, and I see this site as a way to find that affection without giving up all the other wonderful things that I have with my marriage and relationship. Maybe it's not the best way to go about things, but for right now it's where I'm at.

Thanks again for your post. I probably didn't answer things to your satisfaction, but I do appreciate the conversation.


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