Why am I lonely?  

lonelyhotgirl2c 42F
10 posts
8/3/2005 4:35 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Why am I lonely?

A common question i get in replies to my ad is, "why are you lonely?" or "how could YOU be lonely?"

Well, if i really knew that...maybe i could change it. LoL

Perhaps i am a bit naive in thinking what people compliment me on is true. A lot of people think i'm a pretty girl. A lot of people think i'm a great person over all...but why can't things last with just ONE man? They lose interest quickly, or maybe their interest in me wasn't sincere. No matter the case/excuse....I'm always left lonely.

So there you have it. A pretty face isn't everything in a relationship. Having a nice personality doesn't seem to be it either. Honestly, compliments leave me feeling insulted these days.

I have tried very hard, and even outside of my patience to make things work in a relationship. Regardless, i always end up feeling weak and disappointed. To hell with that i say. I am now trying to not be so serious. Maybe that will work for me. Maybe not being so loyal and caring towards romantic interests will keep the fire alive, or extinguish it sooner so it doesn't get long and drawn out. I'd like to have more than just fuck buddies. It would be special to be able to find someone i could not only enjoy those activities with, let alone enjoy life itself with...anymore, i feel like that is asking for or expecting too much.

now i'm rambling.

all philosophies welcomed.


ih8usrnames 40M

8/4/2005 11:56 pm

It sounds like you're looking for a friend.

rm_jigsaww84 32M/35F

8/5/2005 3:08 pm

I hear you on that - well if you ever wanna chill/hang out then hit me up whenever you want....

mullingman 61M
3 posts
8/9/2005 9:39 pm

you are lonely because society has this mixed up ideology that we must have someone to be complete and that is not true you can want someone but you don't need anyone except yourself and God whatever He or She is to you

jtbuns 56M
1 post
8/11/2005 4:13 pm

There are those of us who spend our time giving and not getting. We end up lonely at some point because of imbalance.
The greatest love I have ever shared was with a woman who wanted and "needed" as much as I "needed". We failed in the end because we forgot to remind each other not to totally lose our "selves" in each other. I would give it all away to get that chance again.

ital_male2003 56M
1 post
8/12/2005 3:39 pm

Oh please! The reason you're lonely is you're like many females that live on Long Island especially. You're spoiled w/ur Daddy's money and you're looking for and getting the wrong guy. He's wrong cuz you're probably going for the best looking guy(to make friend's envy you or to seek family approval) who knows he is and of course he'll jump at the next sexy/Hot female. And by doing that you doubt yourself and think he left you cuz you weren't putting enough effort into the relationship. Females need to understand that "tall/dark/handsome" while nice rarely works out. I could go on, but now I'm starting to bore myself w/this analysis...lol!

lonelyhotgirl2c 42F

8/12/2005 10:30 pm

ital male,
i'm not originally from long island. i've only lived on long island for 3months! LoL but yeah, i see your point. i'm well aware. i've taken my chances with odds and ends. ogres and stallions. i seek a deeper level of compatibility regardless of looks. those change. here today, gone tomorrow. that's what throws me off when i'm showered with compliments...they compliment me on the outside and use me for all i'm worth on the inside. someday, maybe.

rm_Basque2112 39M

8/21/2005 2:39 pm

Hi Lonely well I seem to be in your place as well I always thought of myself being shuffled along in relationships 1 to the other tried it all but I never gain momentum.I also feel that way with alot of things as well. I feel like everyone else is finished with the book but I'm still on chapter 2 I don't remember where I heard it but thats just how I feel with relationships.It's very hard for some people to find others I don't see myself ever getting Married I just don't even bother.But in your case you will find someone he will come around you have alot going for you I hope everything works out for you good luck

rm_schelaq16 44M

9/5/2005 6:45 pm

I would love to take you out sometime..let me know if you are interested...dinner drinks and pleasant conversation is what I am all about.

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