That's What Friends Are For!  

lonely_bbw_in_wb 44F
33 posts
3/26/2006 9:22 pm

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4/9/2006 7:09 pm

That's What Friends Are For!

Lets call tonight's bitch session to order...hear yee...hear yee...

Tonight my bitch is about friends or should I say "Friends"...

I've been arguing with my supposed best friend since last summer which has now escalated to all out war.

If someone's my friend, I will be there for them unconditionally. Be a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen to them brag or bitch. All I ask for is the same in return. My friend has decided that since I now want to have an active social life and I'm not the quiet wall flower I once was, where I would just sit at a table in the bar and not say 2 words to anybody else, I'm evil or something.

How is that right? Could it be jealousy?

(Jim )

3/26/2006 10:10 pm

Could be. Bring out the big guns.... do what you want to do.

rm_lqqkn4unow 54M
1 post
3/28/2006 7:00 am

That doesn't sound like much of a friend. I have had a friend for 16 years, she is my best friend. I tell her almost everything, that is when I am not listening to how bad her life is which is a lot.

Sure we get mad at each other and have had times when we haven't spoken in months, but we still are friends and I would still do anything for adding benefits to our relationship. I've told her politely that sex would change everything and I like it the way it is. Then the next day she will ask me if she said anything out of line because she was drunk and I'll say that she didn't. And our friendship goes on.

I'd say you need to take a look at the pros and cons of this woman's friendship

lonely_bbw_in_wb 44F

3/28/2006 2:54 pm

true. It all started when I began a friends with benefits relationship with someone. He made it clear that he was going to look around and I was free to do the same. He hit on my friend and she got mad. He later told me he was throwing her a bone cuz she was upset she was getting no attention. He went back and forth between wanting more with me and wanting just a fuckbuddy. I never found anybody worth pursuing at our hangout until this one guy came in. I expressed an interest in him, started flirting, he was returning the flirting, I was having a great time and mr fuckbuddy decided to get all possessive and made me out to be his girlfriend, hanging on me, grabbing me, pretty much everything but lifting his leg and peeing on me like a dog does to mark territory LMAO. I ended the relationship with my fuckbuddy because well i wouldn't have minded persuing a relationship with him but he kept flip flopping and it got old fast. What was I talking about? oh yeah lol my chicky friend. after that she hasn't been the same towards me, gets mad if i mention a gentleman i'm interested in or seeing, says she don't want to be around to have him climb all over her...huh? I have overheard her say on many occassions if she was a lesbian she would want me to be her partner.....could that be her way of telling me she likes me as more than a friend? sorry, but I'm just not into her in THAT way. I men

rm_Swt1forblkm 50F
1 post
3/31/2006 3:59 am

Hey Lonely, I had the same attitude as you but was lucky enough to meet someone from this site who is absolutely wonderful! I am still dating him. He shows me in many ways how much he wants me but doesnt push the issue. So be patient! I am also in Wilkes Barre so maybe we can hang out some time..........

travellerabc123 46M
2794 posts
10/7/2006 10:06 am

So whatever happened with your friend? Did you ever reconcile?

Did she eventually "come out", or do think that was just a passing remark? It really is a spooky thing for a friend to say. However, look on the bright least you are in demand.

Overall, it sounds like you need some new friends. I am assuming you got rid of "fuckbuddy". Do you have some "other" friends?

Also, are you still hanging out at the old place? Or did you find a new place? Or did you just give up the old place? A change of scenery couldn't hurt. Just make sure it's a place you feel (and are) safe.

Hope you aren't home alone tonight (Saturday), but if you are, drop me a line. I should be around if you need some more sage (obvious) advice.

I'm thinking good thoughts about you...

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