Assumptions and hooking up...  

loisandclark24 49M/47F
81 posts
8/15/2006 8:56 pm

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9/25/2006 10:46 am

Assumptions and hooking up...

Okay, so I am sitting here, shaking my head at the disgust of some folks. I mean, in this lifestyle, you are after one of two things. A friends-with-benefits relationship or a one night stand. There are, on rare occasions, folks who are looking to extend their circle of friends and aren't just looking for a fuck. (Hey, if that happens, GREAT, if not okay) Why is that after a few chat sessions, a picture is flashed and boom, you go from nearly fucked to fucked over? Yes, a picture is worth a thousand words, but, why can't that same thing that helped you click as a couple, help you build upon a friendship within the lifestyle especially if you're not hiding who you are in the first place. Clark and I have never pretended to be anything than what we are. Hard working, albeit quite well-to-do, but, never-the-less, hard working folks who know how to have fun and who are drawn to others seeking the same thing. I realize that we have chosen this lifestyle and not everyone, hell, most people aren't any one person's/couples cup of tea. Despite that fact, why be rude about it? Why not say, upon seeing a pic, I don't think you are my cup of tea, but I'm strongly attracted to your personality and think we might make great friends on the side--so to speak. This thought has me thinking that men, for generations upon generations have dealt with this very same thing. Women saying they are interested, meeting up with them, or heck just seeing them without the guy seeing the women and backing off the date without so much as stepping up to the plate instead of being a pussy and saying, "No Thanks". We will be running a very successful's not our first so we know what our lifestyler's wants/demands are and YES, we are picky about who we allow to attend. However, we are NOT rude. If you actually think that we are looking for couples to fuck and move on, think again. We WANT relationships with people who have the balls to stand up and say, shit Clark/Lois, you're some ugly mother fuckers, but damn, you're sure fun and are just great down to earth folks that we'd like to pursue a friendship with. Put the fucking aside and like us for us. I a confident, sexually secure, intelligent woman who knows that there are other women/couples out there with similar values that we have and we can't wait to meet some of those people. We've already met some GREAT ones through this site that we look absolutely forward to building continued relationships with. As for The Rustic Red House, there will be some folks missing out on the fun, standing along the sidelines saying man, I can't believe we aren't going there because of our silly assumptions about these folks and we didn't even really get a chance to know them well. Let's just say, kinda like the family member's who made snap uninformed decisions and then finding out that family member has just one the lottery. In the mean time, don't just assume you know the "type" of person you are talking with because more than likely, they are nothing like that and you would've missed out on a fantastic relationship.

rm_jbomma 58M/52F
2 posts
8/26/2006 9:33 am

Lois I agree completely with what you said. Also what Farfromhome said about realizing that it's the other peoples loss, not ours. We too have come across some folks who for whatever reason simply fall off the face of the earth rather than just saying "sorry, you're just not the right chemistry for us", or something like that. At least you know to move on.

Anyway, we truly enjoyed meeting you guys and really look forward to what may come both with the club.....and you.


Axeman662 49M

8/26/2006 10:53 am

I have had the good fortune to meet alot of very interesting folks during my travels through the lifestyle, and I agree with Lois on that there are more than a few folks who miss out on a good time over assumptions. I have lots of friends in the lifestyle that I have never been physical with beyond a hug or a handshake, but we still get along great and love to hang-out! I believe if you approach this lifestyle with the attitude of meeting new people and making new friends, you will have a great time!.... AND ...hopefully the chemistry is there for everybody, and you can enjoy the physical asspects of your new friends as well!

welovewomen66 50M/54F
5 posts
8/27/2006 12:37 pm

We totaly agree with what you have said for we have run across those rud people before who tell you they will meet you then never show up we know we are not exactly beautiful people but we are alot of fun and have many friends in the lifestyle. I hope many people read what you have written and take it for what it is GREAT ADVICE. We look froward to someday meeting yall and if nothing comes of it but friendship then thats a great thing too.

loisandclark24 49M/47F
72 posts
8/27/2006 6:10 pm

Thanks for the comments axeman! It's nice to know that there are more than a few of us out here with sense enough to be descent!

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