Reality Check...  

lizalickem4u 58F
1836 posts
5/31/2006 6:23 am

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Reality Check...


I've been in a rather sadistic mood lately...mostly from thinking about how some folks really don't get a handle on hard core reality, take control of their life and move forward...some people are just not capable...where am I going with this? Let me explain a bit more...

I've got a friend, mostly an online friend, though I've met him in person and even sexually played with him...but nonetheless I consider myself a "friend."

Last week, on my birthday mind you, he sent me this sad, sobbing (yes, he was crying) note declaring that the woman he had fallen madly in love with was shutting off her profile her on AdultFriendFinder. He was so depressed and heartbroken because THIS gal was THE gal, THE love of his life...yet, he has never met her in person!! Being the hard core realist that I am, I just couldn't believe a man would be that head over heels for a woman he's only had an email exchange, oh yes, he's talked to her on the phone a few times as well...I guess what really made me wonder about him was the simple fact that every time they set up a face to face meeting, in a public place, SHE always had something else going on, or that came up where she couldn't make their meeting.

Now the first couple of times I can understand standing someone up, shit happens in our lives that we can't prevent but some of the excuses and happenings in this gal's life, well good grief, I would read his notes and wonder what in the Hell he was seeing in this woman? Why wasn't he "getting it" when she would send him yet another excuse for not meeting...

I checked out her blog recently, nothing remarkable there other than all of her postings about what she was seeking in a man didn't even remotely match up with my friend. Is he really that naive and gullible? Did he just NOT want to see that there really wasn't a "chemistry" there...especially for her...apparently she has quite a blog following, probably more guys like my friend, thinking that they too were "THE ONE" guy that would make HER life complete...

I was amused though reading her latest blog post. A little background here...on May 25th (my birthday) her post declares that she's had enough, she's saying "good bye" (how VERY melodramatic!!!) She's had enough of the cyber sex site...then a couple of days later in her blog post she's all full of adventure and renewed vigor for life!!! She's FOUND that ONE and ONLY (guess what, it wasn't my friend!) and now her life is complete!!! She's FINALLY made a "commitment" to a one on one relationship and now she doesn't NEED the cyber sex site to help her through the bumpy times...now she has TIME in her life to do things with her daughter and granddaughter because she's not sitting in front of the computer screen pining away for that man to make her life complete, to make her "whole."

Okay, call me a Bitch, but I am a reality whore...the hard core reality of all this is how flaky can a woman be? One day she's saying good bye to all those guys she's strung along in hopes of hooking THE ONE...setting up ficticious meetings, saying all the things the guys want her to say, making sure she's INTERESTED in all the things they are interested in...how long do you think this "committed" relationship that has suddenly happened in her life is gonna last?

My friend is very succesfull in his career. He's good at what he does for a living but yet here he is all caught up in finding that ONE and ONLY GAL that will make his life complete...he is desperate (which is definitely unattractive), he's way too sensitive...I could go on and on but I sit here and wonder how in the world could he get so caught up, so taken in by a gal like this? A gal that had no intention of EVER meeting him in person, much less setting up a life with him...and you know, all I could come up with is that he didn't want to see that reality, he didn't want to accept the fact that he was one in hundreds to her...to her he was just another admirer to her blog, to her cyber personality. After reading the comments to her recent blog posts I also know that he's not the only one, there are so many guys that felt the same way...she's good at making the guys feel that they are the ONE AND ONLY...reality, she's just building her own confidence until she can truly find her own happiness.

So, the reality of it is that my friend got taken in by another cyberchic...a cyberegomaniac that lured him in with here lustful thoughts and feelings...I'm honestly not sure my friend will EVER find that ONE AND ONLY, he's got some major issues/problems to deal with and not many gals are willing to do the time as well as make the effort to see him through those rough times...but I'm hopeful for him...

So, in my own sadistic way I sit here and read some of the blogs and see just how fickle life in cyber world is...it is great therapy to be able to spill your depressed guts out, your desperation, your disgust with the world and then on top of the world the next day...

Sometimes I just want to zip off a quick reality check to those blog posts...

charlie717171 62M
15 posts
5/31/2006 10:21 am

Love is blind.

Internet love is deaf, dumb, and blind.


into_the_swing 45M/38F

5/31/2006 12:18 pm

I swear we share the same friend here. My guy is already hearing wedding bells for a woman he has not met. I understand he is lonely and wanting to finally move on. But my lord, whatever happened to dating and face to face meetings? All he has is pictures and who knows how old they are. I am in full agreement with you, Liza.


rm_allinfun46 59M
21 posts
6/2/2006 3:39 pm

The internet is great for meeting people and making friends and even fuck buddies. But it seems to me that love is something that can only happen face to face and one on one. It's something that grows over time and in some cases deminishes over time.

I find it strange to say the least. Then again maybe I'm the naive one.


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