SEX...a work in progress  

lissi888888 52F
1330 posts
7/27/2006 10:58 pm

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SEX...a work in progress

Do you ever feel like your whole life is just a work in progress? That you are doing well...but you know (in the back of your mind) that you can do better?

Such goals I have. They are lofty, to be sure, but achievable. I know they are. I'm not setting myself up to fail. Not that things always go my way...not by a long shot LMAO. Just that I know what I can do. I know me.

Some say I have a cocky attitude...or misinterpret it and say that I'm snooty. I'm sooo not (either cocky or snooty). I'm actually a realist in so many ways but I put on the air of confidence when I feel it's appropriate.

I am confident about my abilities. Is it wrong to know you can do something and then say it? I don't think so. Wish more people would do that. It's refreshing to have someone say "sure, I can do that" and then see them follow through to do just what they said they could.

I know this is a sex site...and I have heard so many complaints about "he said he could do this...he sooo can't" or "she said she could do that...but she was awful at it". Well, maybe to someone else they are all that.

My suggestion to those people that aren't satisfied with someone's performance is get the hell over it and move on or attempt to teach the person. I mean really. If the person is willing...just TALK TO THEM. For goodness sake, has our society become such that people can't even talk to each other???????? If the person doesn't want instruction then find someone who CAN do what you want.

Am I making this sound too easy? Well it is. Life is too fucking short to not be satisfied. And don't tell me that sex isn't important because I know better....and so do you.

Personally, I have said I can do certain things to/for my partners. But think about this...I said I was good at something because someone along the line told me I was "great", "amazing, "the best ever" (that last comment is my personal fav ). Maybe it's the same for others. I can only assume so. If they aren't all that, consider them a work in progress...and help them along their way. Worst case scenario, they get offended and pissy with ya. Best case scenario, you end up with someone that you've TAUGHT what you like and they know how to do it JUST how you like it.


Have you taught someone to do something to you sexually?

Did whatever you taught work out well for ya?





rm_Ellenback 58F
966 posts
7/28/2006 4:31 am

Lissi, I agree with you...sometimes what we think we are GREAT at is the result of someone else telling us something along the lines of, "The Best Ever.." but that was just relative to their OWN experiences. Yes, I've tried to teach, but some people just won't experiment. One guy told me he'd never been down on a woman, but when I offered to teach, he couldn't even get close enough to try. I don't teach, unless you reach...

Nice blog, hon.

(((softboobyhugs)))

Elle


rm_devilsgrin69 51M
223 posts
7/28/2006 4:30 pm

I brought my wife to the darker side.
She never masturbated, never touched herself, never 69...the klist is almost endless.
She not that great at giving, but she loves to receive and i love to give oral. Man I would love to stay down there for hours.

I love to continue going on trying new things, but she just not into it.Oh well thank god for sites like this.

DG69


SirMounts 102M

7/31/2006 1:37 pm

Lis...
My, you're right on the mark with that one, too.
Yes, I can and do teach others... new things, often. *smiling*


marnison 79F

7/31/2006 6:52 pm

Great ....timing for this post.
I learned something ...so new and exciting from one special person that ...for the rest of my life i'll be still....smiling.

nice post.


lissi888888 52F
1401 posts
8/1/2006 7:47 am

    Quoting rm_Ellenback:
    Lissi, I agree with you...sometimes what we think we are GREAT at is the result of someone else telling us something along the lines of, "The Best Ever.." but that was just relative to their OWN experiences. Yes, I've tried to teach, but some people just won't experiment. One guy told me he'd never been down on a woman, but when I offered to teach, he couldn't even get close enough to try. I don't teach, unless you reach...

    Nice blog, hon.

    (((softboobyhugs)))

    Elle
Oh I like that Elle...I don't teach, unless you reach. Thanks for the compliment

Lis


lissi888888 52F
1401 posts
8/1/2006 10:07 am

    Quoting rm_devilsgrin69:
    I brought my wife to the darker side.
    She never masturbated, never touched herself, never 69...the klist is almost endless.
    She not that great at giving, but she loves to receive and i love to give oral. Man I would love to stay down there for hours.

    I love to continue going on trying new things, but she just not into it.Oh well thank god for sites like this.

    DG69
DG69 - So you really opened her eyes eh? I never think that's a bad thing. The opening of eyes in certain areas can take lots of time. Personal experience tells me that one LOL. Things I do now and LOVE, I would NEVER have done in the past...the more we grow...the more we explore...the more we can enjoy

Lis


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