liquid_light 43M
13 posts
3/31/2006 5:12 am

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5/1/2006 7:42 am


Over the years, as my partner and I have radically different sex drives (as mentioned in my profile), I've discovered that trading massage is really important for me to maintain a physical connection with her. I don't mean erotic massage, though I enjoy that, and though many people seem to think you can't have a massage that isn't. I just mean a full body massage that lasts at least an hour and leaves you feeling languid and whole. It's helped us continue to learn about each other's bodies in the absence of sex, and it lets us continue to express ourselves through the energy of touch. It's non-threatening, there are no expectations or hang ups, and it feels really good.

A lot of people feel like they're not qualified, and that's a sad testament to the state of our culture. Everyone can give a good massage. Just take your time, ask your partner questions about how things feel, and listen to their body. And when you're on the receiving end, give feedback, so the person touching you knows what works and what doesn't.

Bodywork has an amazing potential to heal at many levels, not just at the physical. It brings up a lot of emotional and spiritual pain sometimes, as we store those things in our body, and can be really cleansing.

Anyway, I wish I could get everyone to try it. I think it's one of the greatest ways to say "I love you."

Darkpassion 57F

4/11/2006 1:09 pm

The experience of massage is a way of saying to another I worship you, I cherish you, I nuture you. All of these things we need and under value. Sex is not the be all and end all.

sweetphd2 51F

5/1/2006 6:14 am

I agree with you both....touch is vital to staying being connected. And yes, dear Light, anyone can perform a massage for someone they care about...It is probably one of the most unselfish, loving, and vitally human gift you can give to each other!

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