Becoming soft  

liquid_light 43M
13 posts
3/23/2006 5:46 am

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5/1/2006 7:42 am

Becoming soft

For me, one of the most amazing things I've learned about the art of lovemaking is how to become soft. For so many years, being passionate meant being strong, so it meant having most of my muscles very tense, and breathing in short gasps. It was exhausting, and my body wasn't very responsive and sensitive.

Now I love being on bottom, and getting into a completely relaxed state. My lover can tickle, caress, kiss, and stroke, and each touch seems to melt me a little more. I actually have a more erotic experience being touched in this way than I used to have during intercourse. I also get the feedback that when I am soft I am less threatening, and let's face it, with the number of women that have a history of sexual abuse, , and domestic violence, men have an important but tough job if they are to make their partners feel safe and powerful in bed.

It's very hard for most people to even relax enough to receive a massage, so I find that's a good way to start. Once the muscles are supple, the body is awake to touch in a way it can't be when all of its defensive holdings are in place.

Of course, sometimes I still like taking control, and sometimes a partner wants a fast and furious fucking/sweating marathon, but for me, some of the most mind blowing sexual experiences are those in which we both melt into each other and become soft.

Darkpassion 57F

3/23/2006 9:57 am


sweetphd2 51F

5/1/2006 6:15 am

Amen! You said it all.

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