THE BLOWTORCH QUESTION  

lily_of_hmslf_ 45F
375 posts
8/3/2006 2:00 pm

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10/18/2006 12:15 pm

THE BLOWTORCH QUESTION

Imagine, if you will, that you are a metal worker by profession. You have many years of experience, and you are well-aware of the techniques as well as the dangers. You happen upon a passer-by who has just picked up a blowtorch. This passer-by has never touched or used a blowtorch, nor has he been trained in the use of the equipment. He has, however, seen pictures of one. He read a book about metal working once, and was very intrigued. He checks over his shoulder, and - believing that no one is watching - manages to light the blowtorch. You believe that it is not your business to get involved, and turn your back to walk away.

Possible Outcome #1:
The passer-by instantly becomes a master metal worker and his work is praised and admired by many.

Possible Outcome #2:
The passer-by is startled at the lighting of the blowtorch, and frightened by the power with which it burns. He drops the blowtorch and decides that metal working is not for him.

Possible Outcome #3:
The passer-by - untrained in safety procedures when using a blowtorch - accidentally catches his shoe on fire, melting it to his own foot and sending himself to the emergency room.

Possible Outcome #4:
Just as the blowtorch lights, an innocent bystander walks around the corner, and is so frightened by what she encounters that she retains a fear of fire throughout the remainder of her life.

Possible Outcome #5:
Just as the blowtorch lights, an innocent bystander walks around the corner, and is burned by the blowtorch. She must be rushed to the hospital.

Possible Outcome #6:
Just as the blowtorch lights, an innocent bystander walks around the corner. The blowtorch lights the dress she is wearing ablaze. The man - fascinated by the flames - watches as she burns before dousing the flames and running away. He goes on about his life as if nothing has happened. She manages to call for help, but must live with her scars for the rest of her life.

Possible Outcome #7:
Just as the blowtorch lights, an innocent bystander walks around the corner. The blowtorch lights the dress she is wearing ablaze. The man watches in fascination as she burns, but does nothing to help her. Once her cries for help quiet, he loses interest, dousing the flames and dragging her into an alley. He lifts her into a dumpster and goes on about his day.

Possible Outcome #8:
After having a few days to think over outcome #7, the man realizes what a rush it gave him. He begins to look for other opportunities to feel the rush.

I HAVE NOT, I DO NOT, AND I WILL NOT TURN MY BACK WHILE SOMEONE PLAYS WITH FIRE.

what will you do?

~respectfully~

lily_of_hmslf_


rm_Shortdogg65 51M
672 posts
8/3/2006 7:19 pm

Ya play with fire, ya get burned. Maybe not right away but eventually you get burned. Trouble is the fire is very hypnotic. The way it dances and consumes. The soothing crackle. Shortdogg


Snows_ekitten 55M
36 posts
8/4/2006 3:08 am

hi lily yes ive bin involved in the metal indt here in aust for maby to manny years seen to many stuffups bye ppl who should not have even bin there when i open my mouth to say somthing i get laid off but not before ppl get hurt unfortunately


yes_its_minx 105F

8/4/2006 7:35 am

Hello Lily - excellently written - it seems no one who has responded here gets your point. i understand and have seen people jump into the lifestyle without really understanding it... having read a book here and there makes them think they are an expert on the use of a flogger, knives, or fire. It is terrifying the level of danger these novices who think they know and understand it all have. And as you wrote the results can be anything from harmless to horrific. That is why W/we as a community need to support and enlighten those who may be interested in becoming active members. It is equally important not to ostracyze or condemn some for their thoughts or feelings. But instead, try to get them to understand the dangers of recklessness, and the consequences as well. Sort of like a drunk behind a car. Thinking they know what they are doing and that they are just fine. All's fun in the game of life until somebody pokes their eye out.


safetydance123 51F
145 posts
8/4/2006 7:36 am

I truely believe in my heart that whenever someone is in possible danger and I am there - I am responsible.
Not a popular stand, often told I'm butting in, its not my place or my buisness....but down the road I have had an equal amount of people thank me for butting in, minding their buisness, ect.
We all have to wake up with ourselves each day & stand whats there.
For me that means doing what I feel is right even if the world views it as wrong.
So, I snatch the blowtorch from the novice & shut it off, and find out who left in unattended for 2 seconds - and maybe someone teaches someone something. Or, maybe they both tell me to get screwed. But I walk off knowing what & who I am. After I'm gone they are all on their own. I'd take neither credit or blame


yes_its_minx 105F

8/4/2006 7:37 am

Hello Lily - excellently written - it seems no one who has responded here gets your point. i understand and have seen people jump into the lifestyle without really understanding it... having read a book here and there makes them think they are an expert on the use of a flogger, knives, or fire. It is terrifying the level of danger these novices who think they know and understand it all have. And as you wrote the results can be anything from harmless to horrific. That is why W/we as a community need to support and enlighten those who may be interested in becoming active members. It is equally important not to ostracize or condemn some for their thoughts or feelings. But instead, try to get them to understand the dangers of recklessness, and the consequences as well. Sort of like a drunk behind a car. Thinking they know what they are doing and that they are just fine. All's fun in the game of life until somebody pokes their eye out.


rm_the_lass1000 48F
34 posts
8/4/2006 7:38 am

lily,

a very interesting piece of writing. of course it common sense, the whole scope is. much can be read by it. heres hoping O/others see what i see.

a pleasure to read a blog like this

~~lass~~

~~you give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give ~~


yes_its_minx 105F

8/4/2006 7:57 am

Hello Lily - excellently written - it seems no one who has responded here gets your point. i understand and have seen people jump into the lifestyle without really understanding it... having read a book here and there makes them think they are an expert on the use of a flogger, knives, or fire. It is terrifying the level of danger these novices who think they know and understand it all have. And as you wrote the results can be anything from harmless to horrific. That is why W/we as a community need to support and enlighten those who may be interested in becoming active members. It is equally important not to ostracyze or condemn some for their thoughts or feelings. But instead, try to get them to understand the dangers of recklessness, and the consequences as well. Sort of like a drunk behind a car. Thinking they know what they are doing and that they are just fine. All's fun in the game of life until somebody pokes their eye out.


miz_attitude 53F
150 posts
8/4/2006 10:46 am

lily i agree 100% i won't be quieted i am very vocal (or is that fontal? ) about it ...

~mizzy~


BadAssBlonde1 57F
4989 posts
8/8/2006 5:33 pm

lily,

As a Certified DM I am always aware of possible Danger. I act upon and stop it if it is in my presence or those that serve me. Caution is something that many think is a green light. That is what I stop- light it. I am glad that you brought this up.

Welcome to BlogVille. Look forward to reading you.

For all Time,
Lady Hunter


After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009


Medusa231968 48F
301 posts
8/18/2006 6:20 am

I think I as well have figured this one out was well.
Just because someone has read a book it doesn't make them a
Dom/Domme. If anything, they need to learn from a real one. Just like the metalworker who shouldn't have left the blowtorch...just one mistake can cause serious concequences. I believe that a Dom/Domme is made by what they are taught by experience, not by what reading a book can teach them

Medusa


mycin62 54F

8/21/2006 4:49 pm

I didn't understand, until I read ves_its_minx comment. Then I went back and reread it. Makes perfect sense now.

Welcome to Blogland!


mycin62 54F

8/21/2006 4:58 pm

I didn't get it until I read yes_its_minx's comment. I went back and reread it. Makes perfect sense.

Welcome to Blogland


ButteryDelight 58F

9/7/2006 11:23 am

i get it ,lily. i got it long ago. Which is why i have been interested in the life style but have not had any real time, real life experience.

when i do have that experience, i hope it is with some One who will treasure the gift of my submission.

Buttery Delight


rm_Melciber 61M
214 posts
9/9/2006 5:13 pm

I have to confess I laughed at Possible Outcome #1:
. . . even though I knew where you were headed. . .

I want to know. . .
Who left the blowtorch lying around?

IF . . . I were a professional . . . and saw a casual user pick up a piece of professional equipment - One cannot help but take the match from the child´s hand.

The point about drunk driving is appropro though. . . so many drive under the influence - and this is more like the senario in the lifestyle. Even to the point where drugs and alcohol become commonplace with so called professionals.

But back to your point lily . . . I have noticed frequent posts in the Basement for people to apply basic saftey rules. Often the first thing a newbie is presented with is a word of caution.


wickedeasy 67F  
26772 posts
9/17/2006 1:04 pm

brilliant indictment of wannabes.

and a clear warning to those who think BDSM is nothing more than kinky sex.

stands and applauds

ps - welcome to blogville lily - the neighborhood is deintely picking up - winks

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
9/17/2006 2:03 pm

Lily...welcome to the blogs. I stopped by after reading wickedeasy intro of you on her blog. I have found myself fascinated by the lifestle.....but getting burnt is exactly why I am reading about it instead of doing it. When I too came on this site, I was mistakenly under the impression that it was just a kinky form of sex. I have learned how wrong that attitude is! I hope you'll stop by my blog and say "hi" if you can.

Attention All Bloggers: "HO-SPITALITY" HOUSE! BE OUR GUEST!


MaggiesWishes 60F

9/17/2006 7:28 pm

Welcome! Hope you enjoy your stay in our fair Blogville community.
AND yes, I got here by way of our mutual friend, wickedeasy.
She's such a lovely soul.
Looking forward to your upcoming posts.
This one is "firey" and sends up some good "smoke signals" for reading.

Do drop by, when you have a moment ... leave a "Blog-footprint", is you will...
warm huggies 2ya


GoddessOfTheDawn 105F
11240 posts
9/18/2006 12:24 am


~nodz~ also came in through the side-door to wickedz place...

welcome to blogging, and what a gud post to start....


ErosArriving06 53M

9/18/2006 12:26 am

    Quoting wickedeasy:
    brilliant indictment of wannabes.

    and a clear warning to those who think BDSM is nothing more than kinky sex.

    stands and applauds

    ps - welcome to blogville lily - the neighborhood is deintely picking up - winks
This is what is wrong with "The Lifestyle" all so ready to indict anyone who doesnt understand.. all so ready to claim a more supreme form of living.... always building walls and never getting through to people.. is it really that hard to treat another like a piece of shit? Is it really so amazing to be able to hurt the ones you love out of boths misguided desires to wield or relinquish power... emotional pain manifested in hurting or being hurt...

Strong women are sexy.. submissive women are creepy... Most of us NOT in The Lifestyle are looking for EQUALS.. and EQUALITY...... Balance and HARMONY.... you wont find any of that at the end of a flogger kids.....

Just my opinion....

MY answer..... Blowtorches are only used for CUTTING metal... destroying ...... taking apart..... as opposed to Welding equipment.. which is used to fix.... correct... heal.....

I would take the Blowtorch out of their hand and give them Oxy-Acetyline welding equipment so that they might learn all about CREATING beauty rather than creating destruction.

In the past I have been savagely attacked by scores of DOMS for expressing my honest opinions... you see they have a hard time dealing with people who dont agree with them... and who they dont control..freedom of speech appears to be very rare in the D/s community... please respond freely in this forum if you would like, and spare me the empty threats.


warmandsexy52 64M
13164 posts
9/18/2006 12:44 am

Hmmmmm! I am a paraglider pilot. It is a dangerous and occasionally fatal sport. Would I stop a novice from flying? If they were totally untrained I would, although they would have some difficulty getting off the ground. If they had just left flying school I would advise strongly, although I would not attempt to stop them flying. If they were, or anyone else was in danger, I'd do my best to intervene, and if they were hurt I would do what I could to get help. Simply allowing someone to naïvely put themselves and others in harm's way makes me shudder.

The guy who services paragliders told me about a father who had bought an old competition wing (which are inherently unstable when new!) from Ebay for his 15 year old son, so he could learn to fly. He condemned the wing as a death trap there and then, and rightly so. But my worries are about whoever sold the wing, knowing what the dangers were. Takes all sorts, I guess.

Great post.

warm xx


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