Dreams of a night of Intimacy  

lilbears 46F
230 posts
7/14/2006 5:28 am

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Dreams of a night of Intimacy

Why is it so hard for some men to give women a night full of intimacy? We don't need it all the time but evey once and awhile would be nice. I for one would be happy with that a couple times a month but of course it never happens.

Like for instance...when out in public, grab her hand and hold it or grab her by the waist and hold her that way when walking around someplace. Or to caress her cheek gently in public. Maybe a little nibble on the neck or ear. How about a deep passionate kiss? Staring into each others eyes with passion. If going out to dinner, why not make it romantic and sit by candlelight? If watching movies at home, try snuggling with her and just hold her close. Then there's bathtime, join her in tub with candles around it and hold her there. Is that so much to ask of someone?? Just one night like that with everything I have said here?...I guess so. Seems like a distant dream that will never be satisfied. But alas this is the real world and that is a dream.

What are your thoughts? Just curious to see what other people have to say about this.

campnhappy 46M

7/14/2006 6:53 am

Ok, so perhaps I'm a little biased, but maybe you're looking for the wrong sort of guy. Those exciting bad boys that you find attractive are the way they are precisely because they have absolutely no idea how to treat a woman.... wow! You would not believe the psychobabble I was spewing just a second ago on this reply. Consider yourself lucky that I backspaced over most of it.

rm_SammiSaysTo 43F
872 posts
7/14/2006 6:55 am

Can I get an AMEN? Lilbears, I have come to this conclusion: When you do find the one who will give you the intimacy you want..that will be the one. All bets off. You may have to kiss a lot of toads along the way to get to your prince, but when he grabs you and kisses you passionately, you will know he is the one. Don't give up, he will find you and when he does, watch out! The sparks will fly! Don't settle for less girlfriend, when you deserve the best!

Is this why you were growling last night?

If you can't laugh, what's the fucking point!

lilbears 46F
60 posts
7/14/2006 10:50 am

Don't get me wrong.....bad boys are good to have around to But like I said just a "night of intimacy every once and awhile"...NOT al the time. Thats why I have thought about "hopping the fence" and never coming to this side again.

rm_bikerjim1961 55M
356 posts
7/14/2006 10:51 am

I believe that most guys forget that a lady should be treated as a special treasure to be enjoyed and cared for. I still remember to open doors. Though some women are to quick to grab the handle themselves. The guy is out there somewhere dont know where but he is.

lilbears 46F
60 posts
7/14/2006 3:37 pm

Ok.....I guess I just need to thump men in the back of heads to make them realize all the beautiful around them. The women in their lives should be treated with love, respect & tenderness. Come on guys!

krelyd 55M

7/15/2006 11:23 am

I totally agree with you lilbear, men should show their women more respect and intimacy. Treat your partner like its your last day on earth. Some of us men do but some wont or dont know how. Ive learned from my mistakes in life not to take your partners affections and intimacy moments for granted. Just some thoughts from an middle age man. We are out there trust me.

silvereclipes2 49M

7/15/2006 12:08 pm

well lil i am that way with any lady i am with holding her hand giving he little kiss's to show i care about her and alot of other romantic things as well.thats all i know how to be and i will never change that because it is just the way i am.but there are others out there that are protecting their hearts as they have been burned by bad relationships so i understand where they are coming from too.

LicIWill 52M
402 posts
7/17/2006 3:35 pm

I don't know how to be romantic, can someone tell me?

sweetmimilove 51F  
1095 posts
7/17/2006 6:45 pm

It starts out with dating....and the sooner the sex comes, the less likely that you are going to get that tenderness. It's not impossible, but sex often gets in the way. Not having sex right away helps you to know who is in it for tenderness, and who just wants to take you for a ride. If you let a guy into the candy store too soon, they get filled up, and start to look toward other sources of candy. It all comes down to what each person wants....and many "naughty" boys just want to have a night filled with hard sex. You can't force them to want something different. But there are guys out there who are looking to cherish someone. (Lic) It is what they are seeking. On this site, I think you are not going to find many guys who want a serious relationship. Also, on this site, most guys probably don't expect to find a woman who wants to be cherished....I think that in terms of expectations, friends with benefits is probably the most sought after here.

LicIWill 52M
402 posts
7/17/2006 8:22 pm

The Queen has got it right! Though I DO believe that most(can't always include "all") at some point in their life DO want that special someone to spend their life with......those on this site being no exception, however, knowing that person during the "benefits" stage or "cherish" stage can be hit and miss.

sweetmimilove 51F  
1095 posts
7/18/2006 9:27 am

Also, Lic and I were talking....and I think that he got it right....most people on this site are looking for friends with benefits, but most on our site (omaha m&G) would be open to a relationship if it came their way...including the MEN.

concretejock 38M

7/18/2006 4:17 pm

I agree with MIMI!!!!

concretejock 38M

7/18/2006 4:19 pm

I also agree with the desire for intimacy. I want that, too.

luvstogodown6969 48M
58 posts
8/6/2006 1:06 pm

Wow you nailed them all right on the head there. Those are all the qualities I've tried to put into my relationships of the past. But in the end EVERY women I've been with wants the bad boy in the end and the guy your talking about in this blog usually doesn't have much of the bad boy in him which I guess ends up making him(me) a boring person. Good luck with finding someone who can do both(be the guy in this blog and be a bad-boy) I really don't think they excist..


alrightinindep 49M

8/10/2006 7:20 pm

hmmm...can we say 'FAG'?

rm_Leonnie4_69 31F
25 posts
8/14/2006 1:58 am

OHHHH trust me they exist...found a few...live in other states tho...oh and alrightinindep...dont be so judgemental...learn to accept urself and get to know people, before showing your ass to them...love the post lil...keep em comin..

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