Whining again...  

lickidysplit1 55M
49 posts
8/25/2006 4:14 pm

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Whining again...

So what does it take just to get a response from a woman on here? I've been on this site for a year and a half, I have met about six women. A couple have become great friends, a few were good lovers but we went or separate ways or just lost touch for one reason or another.
I have been keeping track of the notes I send out lately. I have sent hellos to about 50 women (a couple of those were repeats to girls trying to get me to look at their web site but had different pictures). I have gotten exactly two replies!! And 2 views of my profile.
What is the problem? Do I come across as a goof ball? Am I too nice? Do I seem condescending because I mention things I read in their profile? I thought this would be a way to let them know that I was paying attention...
I'm getting very frustrated! I'd rather be told to fuck off than to be ignored! I know the women on this site get a million emails every day but that have to be looking at some of them-right?
At the risk of sounding conceited, I'm a decent looking guy with a nice personality and a good sense of humor. I do what it takes to please the woman I'm with and get my pleasure from doing so. I have even had a bisexual chick fall in love with me for my cuniligual skills... I've made more than a few women scream if you know what I mean...
So what's wrong with me? Why can't I get a reply? Or is six women in 18 months fair? Am I asking too much to want more than that?
I've been told that the ones that have replied are the only ones that count anyway. That they are the only ones I should care about. But is still frustrating to try so hard and not even get a response at all...


maniacmamma 55F

8/27/2006 9:22 pm

maybe its cuz your a jerk who makes "plans" with women and doesnt follow through. You are doing exactly what you complain about. Your a game player like everyone else around here. what goes around, cums around....


lickidysplit1 55M

8/30/2006 1:23 pm

Now I know how you got the name Maniac! You remind me a little of Alex on Fatal Attraction. If I'm a jerk and a game player because I have a life outside of meeting you, so be it. My finding out at 11 pm on a night that I have my 11 year old that you wanted to go out that evening is not "plans".
The closest we came to having "plans" was that I told you before I went on vacation that I would probably be back on thursday and to save one of the weekend nights for me. Sorry to disappoint you but I didn't plan my vacation around a blind date... When I got home on friday afternoon, I told you I was sunburned and tired but I would still like to meet you. YOU SAID NO.
If you think back to the few conversations we had, you may remember that every time I gave you advanced notice of when I should have some free time, you either didn't respond or didn't have free time your self. Additionally, I gave you my phone number at least four times and you never called...


maniacmamma 55F

8/30/2006 4:47 pm

wwwwhhhhhaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


PersephoneMMIV 53F
703 posts
8/31/2006 9:47 pm

Blogs, blogs, everywhere a blog. I have to say though that I strongly, respectfully disagree with Ms. Maniacmamma. Real life hands on experience....and I do emphasize 'hands on!!' OMG does he have great hands!!!!! *yummy* I do think it is all about what you plan to accomplish or what your goal is as to how you take people on an online 'dating' site. We all do have lives, or we should have lives away from this site and our computers. Honestly the first time meeting was a bit tricky and did take a 'minute' to work out, but so well worth it. Great dinner, great company and found out there is a super nice man *with great skills* behind that mugshot picture. The sexiest eyes EVER. And, well, the bald head is a huge plus too! He has a great laugh, sense of humor, personality...just overall a great guy to know. So, I have been grateful for not jumping to conclusions and actually taking the time to work out something that fits both our lifestyles and schedules. So if my opinion counts for anything...he is not a player and truly not a jerk at all. In reality this is one of the most REAL men I have met on AdultFriendFinder. He truly is what he says he is and so far I havent seen one thing that contridicts with what he has written about himself. But....if you are preparing yourself for an overly aggressive stalking type...you wont find that with him. He is full of manners and treats a woman with respect! Again, just my opinion...but really - why would I lie?
so........there is my blog opinion. And I do want to emphasize...YUMMY SEXY MAN!!!!


maniacmamma 55F

9/1/2006 9:26 pm

very well said...we DO all have lives outside of AdultFriendFinder. When YUMMY SEXY MAN said to me that he will be back from his trip on Wed. and to leave Friday night on my schedule open I did just that...leaving work early and arranging for my children to stay with a friend...re-arranging my LIFE for a supposed date...this wasnt the first time he backed out either..SO my point of the whole response to his blog, don't whine and complain when there was a YUMMY HOT WOMAN waiting for you.
And Persephone....If you can truly believe that this man who is on a sex website is "not a player" maybe you should be re-examine the purpose of him being here. and, If honesty is really that important to you..maybe you should review the profile one more time...married? seperated? monogomous for 12 years. (yet on AdultFriendFinder for a year and a half..)..but told me married for 20? .....hmmmmmmmmm...yeh, I trust him completely..lol
2+2 does not equal 4 if you believe this is an honest man....lol


CharmBustsDived 65F

9/4/2006 5:35 pm

Hey Persephone this is the one who called while you two were in bed the other evening. I have to agree with you. He is fucking awesome. One of the best I have ever had. As to being a player...no he isn't but he does like sex. hehe I like sex allot too but I don't consider myself a player. A player, in my mind, is one who toys with another person and not in a good way. This man does anything but that. I have met quite a few people from this site and the majority of them are not for real so it is wonderful to meet someone like this special person. When I frist got his tell here, I told him not interested. hehe I am so glad I changed my mind. And Maniac your loss is our gain


rm_verriberri 79F
1849 posts
9/5/2006 7:19 pm

lmao......

that's all I can say.
You seem to be doing 'just fine'...
a fair dose of drama, and better odds than most of the men I know here.

*snickering* -v


maniacmamma 55F

9/5/2006 8:23 pm

OMG!! no need to gang bang...unless you really wanna
jeez! he has all of you and is still complaining?!! and that doesnt bother you?..maybe you arent as satisfying as you thought hee hee...okay, its my loss, and I did come on a little strong...Have fun with yummy sexy man!


PersephoneMMIV 53F
703 posts
9/6/2006 7:52 pm

Mirealind! I do so love it when others agree with me....*grin* But then again it is pretty easy to agree on this subject. I do think we have settled the "player" debate. It is all a matter of perspective and what you are looking for. Hell even Shoots and Ladders has "players" (just a matter of your own definition) Oh and breakfast was good too. LOL
Maniac! no gang bang intended, unless of course you would like that. *checking the lil black book* LOL As far as being bothered by the 'others' .... as long as it is all in fun,honest,and everyone involved is aware....then I suppose we are all having fun.
and............as far as YOU Mr. Man (lol) you better stop complaining...LOL


lickidysplit1 55M

9/8/2006 7:18 pm

Hi Persephone,
As you and Mirealind know, I'm not complainining about the girls I do know and so enjoy spending time with. My real complaint is the lack of response when I write to anybody else. I'd rather get a NO! than nothing... I guess I really shouldn't complain though, it's really all just part of the fun, right...


Orgasmavore 57M

9/14/2006 9:27 pm

Two great testimonials.. that ain't bad! Hooking up is a challenge anywhere I'd bet. But I wonder if its much harder here in Utah. Everyone is so guarded here. I was out a while back and started chatting with a woman I was attracted to. Her friends were just openly hostile. She's smiling, we're enjoying the chat and they are glaring at me. Not even a hint of covering it up. Well, pretty soon, I wasn't enjoying the chat any more! She was guarded. Literally!


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
9/15/2006 8:48 am

ok, Im so confused....what are you complaining about? It doesnt look like you are exactly hurting for company


lickidysplit1 55M

9/15/2006 10:34 pm

Hi Orgasmavore,
Great name by the way! The two girls that have left testimonials are great. I love them both in their own way (love possibly being a bad word here). Both are energetic lovers and please me a lot! My complaint is not with the women I have met at all. It is with the lack of response over all.
I'm here to "spread my wings" so to speak. To make up for lost time... I read a lot of profiles that say stuff like looks dont matter etc. but when I write a note to say I'm interested, I get no resonse at all! I would prefer a no or a fuck off or anything. But I also understand that most of the women on AdultFriendFinder are innundated with crappy emails. So I have no hard feelings really, just a little frustration. From what I'm told, I'm doing pretty well. MAN! real dating must suck! Especially in Utah!


lickidysplit1 55M

9/15/2006 10:56 pm

Hi Pleeezzzeeme2,
The company I have is not the problem. The girls I'm seeing are great! It is the lack of response that bugs me. I guess I'm being too critical. I am just complaining about the women that don't respond AT ALL.
If you're going to say looks etc don't matter, than don't blow me off! So I write a cheesy note to you, tell me you're not interested or tell me FUCK OFF! I think it is only courtesy. I don't think that is too much to ask-is it?


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
9/16/2006 11:38 am

Fuck off!


Orgasmavore 57M

9/16/2006 8:57 pm

Two testimonals and a 'Fuck off'. Things are really rolling now!


lickidysplit1 55M

9/19/2006 5:22 pm

Hi Orgasmavore,
I suppose... I don't know what I did to piss PleeezzzeeMe off? I though that honesty was a good policy... I feel a lot like Mick Jaggar though. First I can't get anyone to respond to my notes (not counting my two good friends) and then I get what I'm asking for and don't know why! I mean honestly, I don't want every woman I write to telling me to fuck off, I was just being a little sarcastic in saying that it would be better than being ignored. Just call me Rodney...


PersephoneMMIV 53F
703 posts
9/19/2006 7:34 pm

The last couple posts made me think of the first couple emails exchanges we had - tsk tsk tsk for being one of those that jumped to the wrong conclusion too quick. LOL
i think your sarcasm is being lost in the translation somewhere...to bad too, it really is pretty quick. (the sarcasm - not the ......... well....just the sarcasm.) *smile*


4R2Pleasure 55M
37 posts
10/5/2006 4:59 pm

Hello Everyone,
Well isn't this an interesting conversation?! What bothers me isn't the ladies that don't reply to your email, you can see when they've been on or off the site to know if they've read it, and then if you don't hear back in a few days you can figure out they're not interested. After all most of the ladies are to busy to write back since we know most of them are all deluged with mail. What bugs me are the ones that accept your invitation to join your network and then they never write you back. They sit there so you write them back saying something to the effect of "Thanks for joining my network, since you haven't replied I don't know if your interested or not?" And then they reply "If I was interested I would have written you back!" It's one thing to check out a persons pics but then why do people just stay there if they're not interested and not delete themselves? Is there some competition among people to have the most number of friends in their networks? Are people out there just collecting photos? Can someone out there tells me what gives? Thanks for your imput. Take care & have fun!
Ciao, Allen


PersephoneMMIV 53F
703 posts
10/7/2006 9:22 am

Many men and women are guilty of the photo preview goal - but then again if you request that they come to view them....arent they doing what they expect you want? But, on the flip side....it has been forever since i even looked to see who was in my network...thanks for the reminder.


4R2Pleasure 55M
37 posts
10/9/2006 1:02 am

I have no problems with people using the network, in fact I use it all the time to get a gage on whether people actually read my profile or not, especially since most everyone has turned off letting you know if they've looked at it or not. What I don't understand is when you write them back two or three times and they still don't reply, or if they do they act all pissed off that you're writing them again. I also don't understand people inviting you to their network and then they don't have any pics of themselves on it? Are there that many people out there that are just photo collectors? Strange!
Ciao!


lickidysplit1 55M

10/9/2006 8:06 pm

Well, I guess we all have our own approach and the those little things that frustrate us. I generally don't add people to my network unless they add me to their's. I've never met or even talked to hot_wet_honey4u. Most of the other women in my network I've only talked to. Some I have lost contact with all together.
What I'm getting at here is that the Network side of things doesn't bother me at all. Its the being ignored that bothers me. But I also understand, as you said, 4R2Pleasure, that most women are overwhelmed with email and that if they are standard members, they can only respond to 10 emails a day.
Through the assistance of a correspondent, I'm trying not to whine so much. I've moved on to more positive thoughts...
So good luck to everybody! Have fun and be careful.


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/11/2006 10:22 pm

Okay 4R2...Lets just be adults here and admit whats going on...tell me its not an ego boost to have so many "friends" on your page....its almost like a virtual notch in the belt for you men..and us women (not trying to exclude the opposite sex). Even Lick admits he has pretty much just talked to the girls on his "friends" list, and that he has lost touch with some....and after checking out his women, half of them arent even active anymore...so why does he keep them up? because it boosts his ego, makes him feel good to look at his page and see all those women "wanting" to be his "friend". (not trying to dog on you lick...just an example). So maybe just maybe the women are just trying to feel good too.....what other reason is there to have pictures of people as your "friends" that you dont even talk to ??? just for the memories? lol
and please Lick...although the women are overwhelmed with responses, we "can only respond to 10 per day "???...lol do you really think that many women on here are so desperate to respond to 10 men each day? thats 100 men in 10 days! Trust me, we have time to respond if we want to. If they dont respond, its probably because they dont want to.
we are big big girls and can take care of ourselves.

(hows that for some playful banter steve?)


4R2Pleasure 55M
37 posts
10/12/2006 8:59 am

Pleeezzze,
It's definitely nice when someone adds you to their network, but what I don't understand is why then they don't reply to your emails? I'm here to actually meet people, even if it is to just chat with some, so I use the network to share pic that aren't on my regular profile with people I'm actually "friends" with. What I also don't understand is the people that invite you to join their network and then they don't have any pics of themselves on it or their profile? As for "notches" on my belt, first I don't even have my network friends visible and second I try to keep it updated as often as possible. I'm always amazed about the people that have 100's of friends on this site. Don't they ever get out???!!! Lol!
Ciao!
P.S. And Pleeezzze I think when I wrote you before you checked out my network pics and then deleted it! Lol! So did Persephone if I recall!


PersephoneMMIV 53F
703 posts
10/12/2006 7:55 pm

Wow, what is with the catty attitude in here? Why cant there be more than one legitimate complaint, idea, or expression? Call me crazy but i am really glad i dont live in a world where everyone is the same and agrees.............but it would be nice to see people be a bit less catty and a lot more accepting that someone has a different opinion, concern, or idea. One could always take a public poll and find out what makes someone on a social site take the actions that they do, or avoid other actions....but really why??????????
Pleeez - As far as "playful banter" i am glad i have a different concept of playful!

4R2 - honestly i dont remember even accepting much less deleting...LOL, if you had asked at the time it happened i would have been more than happy to tell you why i made the decision i made...but i cant make up a reason now. LOL

Lickidy - "Through the assistance of a correspondent, I'm trying not to whine so much. I've moved on to more positive thoughts..." You should tell your 'correspondent' that she should come hang out with you for a while and see that you are really NOT a whiner at all.

As for me, i am going to keep doing what i do, being who i am, and let the 'cats' play! Take care all!!!


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/12/2006 11:00 pm

LOL....Im glad I have a different def. of "catty"
and if you were involved in the correspondence with Lick and I, you would better understand the comment. (playful banter)......but somehow I knew you wouldnt be able to help yourself and respond to these last few posts...for it seems you are one of us cats...lol


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/13/2006 12:39 pm

Hi per....well, if you were involved in a coorespondence that stephen and I had, you would better understand the sarcasm in the term "playful banter". but since you weren't, I guess you couldnt understand...thats why it was directed to him.
As for "catty" it seems that you like to slink around with the rest of us cats or you would have been able to keep yourself from making any posts...meoW! lol.. of course we all have different opinions, concerns or ideas...thats what started the whole conversation I think..hmmmm....no one aksed you to be anything other than who you are, and Im glad you can share YOUR opinion with the rest of us.....somehow, I knew you would (wink)


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/13/2006 12:45 pm

great, My firt comment didnt show up...so I re-responded...oops. sorry to repeat myself guys..


lickidysplit1 55M

10/13/2006 8:16 pm

Just like a woman! You don't even need me any more, you just come into my blog and take over... LOL


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/14/2006 12:14 am

LOL>>>> what can I say, I was bored I will hold my tongue...or should I hold yours (wink)


PersephoneMMIV 53F
703 posts
10/14/2006 10:16 am

Good luck with all the 'holding'....This 3 ring circus is way too crowded! Take care all!!


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/16/2006 5:51 pm

da da da da DA dah dah dah dah, dah dah dah dah DAH da da da da (circus theme song)


PleeezzzeeMe2 47F
12 posts
10/16/2006 5:52 pm

da da da da DA dah dah dah dah, dah dah dah dah DAH da da da da (humming circus theme song)


4R2Pleasure 55M
37 posts
10/18/2006 7:19 am

Pleeezzzee...
The circus has already been here and has left town. Maybe you can catch them...I hear they're always looking for new clowns!
Ciao!


lickidysplit1 replies on 10/21/2006 10:44 pm:
Good one 4!

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