Wow another fuckin post...  

lenore00 33F
118 posts
6/7/2005 7:01 pm

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Wow another fuckin post...

Yeah, I feel like writing maybe its the adderoll, yeah probally is. well I guess I'll now talk to u about a kinda sad story that happend..

So, id have to say about 8 months ago, I started talking to someone on here, we didnt live far away but he had a girlfriend and I respected that and basically we would talk online, or he would call me when he was drunk or something. We talked for a good 5 months straight, knew everything about each other, I was there for him completely when his gf broke up with him out of nowhere, and still we had not met. He was soon becomeing one of my best friends, he knew more about me then anyone. And we would just bullshit all the time. Well he ended up moveing even farther away into the country, and promised me that one day he would come get me and take me there and he would watch 'fear and loathing in las vegas' (we are both huge fans of hunter thompson) And a short time after he kept his promise one night and came and got me.

We instantly started talking like we were on the phone or online, there wasnt any weirdness or nervousness, it was like we had known each other forever, I went back to his place and had a few beers and a few shots of vodka, and we watched some stuff on hunter thompson, and watched fear and loathing, and thats when I fucked up one of my own rules (the only time)

he was incrediably cute, and im not gonna blame the alchol cause that wasnt the issue, I blame nothing, it was just the thing I had to do, and I straight out asked him what he would do it if I kissed him he replied with 'i would kiss you back' so i kissed him, and well we ended up having sex. I didnt think it would be such a problem since we had been talking for awhile, knew each other, and knew that neither of us wanted a relationship, and we were content, stayed up all night and bullshited some more, well he took me home in the morning and everything seemed fine....

I didnt hear from him for over a month, which is not like him since I could predict the time he would call, and he didnt return any of my phone calls or text messages. When I did talk to him he was at a party and couldnt hear me so he hung up.

last time I talked to him he was online, and I asked him what the friggen deal was.. he said he had been busy, (which is a really shitty line to use) and I told him bullshit, and well he called me crazy and signed off..

So, lesson I guess I learned, well nothing.. I cant say he played me, since I initiated it, and we had talked for so friggen long. And I cant say that I have any regrets because life is too short for that bullshit. So the only thing on my mind is that I Lost a really good friend, and im not quite exactly sure why.. IM pretty sure I have a good understanding of maybe why, but I dont think I will ever find out. But I do have a feeling that eventually he will come around and call me and things will be fine. At least it was good! hahahahha

~amber


Outtacontrolla 39M
2 posts
6/7/2005 8:22 pm

You're kidding yourself if you think he's going to call you one day and it'll all be good.
He got what he wanted for the time being which was a brief reprieve from the woman he really loves.
His girlfriend. He used you. Move on.


keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
6/8/2005 12:50 pm

Apparantly y'all wanted different things. Maybe after meeting you he found you different than he expected. So he ended contact. Or, like so many, once the conquest has been achieved he moved on to another conquest. If that was the case, he was not much of a friend after all.


jackofspades02 37M
5 posts
6/8/2005 1:17 pm

Well, strangely enough, I experienced the exact same thing on 3 occasions. Now it's normal for women to experience that situation, as guys are the players looking for sex. But with my experiences, I'm not sure why it was that such things happened. I know it wasnt for sex or anything financial. Maybe it was because they enjoyed playing mindgames.
Well, here's what happened to me...In the first experience, I corresponded with someone I met from another site. We exchanged pics, start chatting and hit it off. We meet, have a good time, and then after a few days later, she started off by telling lies. She starts by saying that I am chatting with her father and she had passed away. And I knew it was all lies because a friend of mine went to the same college as hers and mentioned they hung out a couple of hours ago. Needless to say, i ended any correspondance with her, because she didnt want to talk anymore, and i didnt see a point in her lying, isntead of just telling me straight out, she wasnt interested anymore.
The second experience was atleast more straightforward. Met someone on AdultFriendFinder, we hit it off and we meet. She comes over, we talk, she initiates the kiss, then breaks off. I ask her whats wrong and she diverts the subject. Ok, I take it she changed her mind, so we start talking some more. Then she starts groping me, i start touching and feeling her too. We get a little intimate and then again she suddenly stops. Again, i didnt have a problem with it...this continues through the night. She leaves early in the morning, and then later in the evening, she IMs me and asks me why I was so forceful..and it really emotionally damaged her. I was like, wtf?? I didnt initiate anything, i respected her wishes when she told me to stop, and she was the one who came to MY place. If she felt uncomfortable, she should have just left my place, but she didnt. So this is the second person i dont correspond to anymore
The third one happened 2 weeks ago. Again, met someone on AdultFriendFinder, exchanged pics, found each other attractive and interesting and decided to meet. we meet in a park, and then we both sat on a rock where there is a small stream running nearby and start talking. We were cuddling throughout and became touchy feely but no sex. We both said we had a good time and meet again the next day (sunday). Same thing, we met on the rock, cuddled, talked and had a good time. Next day was monday, and we decide to meet next weekend. No problems so far, but mid week, she said something came up and she coudlnt come over. I said it's fine, and that i would be in that area next weekend, so if she was free, we could meet then, to which she agreed. We continued chatting, but then she started telling she was having problems, her grandmom passed away and she was very depressed. She kept saying she was going away for the summer, and we wouldnt be able to meet up, and a lot of other things. SO far we only chatted on yahoo. One day, my yahoo messenger was being a pain, and wouldnt log me in.So i logged onto AIM, and IMed her. I never IMed her on AIM, but we did exchange our yahoo and AIM ids when we first met. She thought i was someone else, and said, oh i never met anyone on AdultFriendFinder before, i'm not doing anything else this weekend, and that we should meet. At that time, i was a little confused, as I didnt realise she thought i was someone else, so i asked her, are you alright? Do you know who i am?> she said she was fine and yes, she knew who iw as and we didnt chat for a long time. That got me confused again, and i said, sure, we'll meet that weekend. When we did meet that weekend, she was so surprised to see that it was me, and not who she was expecting. I asked her what's wrong, and why she had to lie t me. Then she started off with her lies again, saying she was going away for the summer, and blah blah blah.
So i keep wondering to myself, why do people have to resort to lying? I mean, i can understand when we meet, there's no chemistry, or whatever the reason may be. But bottom line, just be honest. Like i said, it's obvious why men play women, because they look for one thing, but i wonder why i was played. I'm just an average looking person who wouldnt be noticed in a crowd, so it cant be the sex. Can anyone else shed some light?


lenore00 33F

6/8/2005 4:31 pm

jack,
Well look at me, why was I Played? But I dont look at it like that, but that he won. Just we are both really busy and when he would call i didnt pick up my cell, and if i called him he did the same.. strange things people do.. ohh well I have my andy, who hasnt called me yet and im really worried


jackofspades02 37M
5 posts
6/8/2005 5:06 pm

Amber,
Oh, so in your case, it was just a matter of both of you being busy and hence, couldnt coordinate schedules?
I dont know why anyone plays people. I always believed that people should just be simple and communicate what they want and dont want. Things will be so much easier that way.


lenore00 33F

6/8/2005 8:21 pm

hey jack,
me and you would just be the best of friends, wow you have no sense of humor, its a fucking joke! And befor you start placeing bullshit on me again, why not fix your own problems, cause you obviously have something goin on if you have to throw random nonsense at me and think its gonna make you ohh so much better..


jackofspades02 37M
5 posts
6/9/2005 12:50 pm

Amber,
I didnt, in anyway, was speaking bad of you. I was just sharing a similar experience I had, and i thought it was relevant. I'm sorry you thought i was pointing this at you. And i wasnt trying to justify anything I did or didnt do from trying to share my experiences.
Sorry for any misunderstanding. Once again, nothing was aimed at you. It was aimed at people who stop talking to someone without telling them why, is all.


lenore00 33F

6/9/2005 7:35 pm

wow. did someone shit in your cornflakes today buddy or what? I wasnt saying shit about your story, I was makeing a statment about you commenting that I got played!

~Amber


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