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How to respond?
How to respond?
How do you respond if someone return your e-mail or wink?
But first I guess you gotta have a cool cyber-space pick up line. If coathanger is right, then the odds are pretty stacked against the hookup in the first place. Darwinism at it's best.
So I guess if in fact you do make it pass the initial no, delete stage then it comes down to, (man this sounds too much like the 'ol sperm swimming thing too) really two ways to approach it.
One, be conservative and gentlemanly. No need to be pushy or overbearing. You don't want to scare anyone off with some freaky sex crazed stalking type rant. Women are to be respected and treated like ladies, even if we want them to be whores in bed! But I guess if you go that route you lose that AdultFriendFinder edge that some are on here for?
I guess that takes us to the other side. We're all adults and well, most of us are on here to make connections that lead to sex! We'll I can't actually speak for everyone, but myself. And my take is, this is a dating service just like all the others. We want a hook up and the bait is the possibility of having sex. Instead of putting down, my favorite color is...and long walks etc...we put down stuff like, doggy style, love oral, want to experiment, some even post graphic pictures. It's just a little insight into what a person wants to do if in fact the contacts all work out. In the end there's no guarantees. It's all about the chemistry anyway, just as it is on Match or E Harmony etc...
But what if I'm wrong? What if there's that whole other sub culture of people that are up front and in your face? What if they do exist and that nice gentlemanly response is dismissed as weak. They're probably out there but how do you, how can you tell? Hell I bet they're out there just waiting for freak factor on a reply to get them up and running. I bet a lot of people hook up that way? Or do they?
So why does it work with some on here and others no? That's the contradictions of being on AdultFriendFinder. We want the hook up, up front, but you can never tell. What to do? I guess in the end, it's all about having fun with it and just going with the flow. You'll win some and you lose some. And some, will never know.