Making waves, moving mountains!  

lavaexp1 50M
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3/15/2006 2:02 am

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Making waves, moving mountains!

I am the Managing Director of a company, responsible for strategic direction, setting the vision, and keeping a bunch of talented individuals rowing in the same direction, and hopefully the right direction.

What has fascinated me, and still does, is how people tick. How we can all be at the same meeting, hear the same information, and derive considerably different perspectives on "what was said"!

I have learned to make up my mind, ask for input from my team, use that input to test my internal decision. Sometimes my decision is changed by something I pry out of a colleague, something that I have missed, but all the while, I hold the decision until I exhaust the possibilities.

My only worry tends to be, where we are all in accord, from the start. That is when I need to stir it up. My natural tendency is to get to the decision as quickly as possible, and generally do not want to be bothered debating. But believe me, it is a recipe for later leisurely repentance!

The other aspect in all this, is that we work EXTREMELY well, when we are under pressure. We stand at meetings, and VERY quickly make our points. I have one or two colleagues with a propensity to prolixity, being extroverted types, they tend to hold up the meeting. I have colleagues that are introverted, and only speak when called upon, but the essence is distilled, and well delivered precise form.
Under pressure, they all contribute in the same way, the Extroverts pull back, and feel the heat if they are verbose, the introverts jump in and give their tuppence worth.

When I say we have been under pressure, we have needed to fix mission critical systems, that could result in lives being lost, if we could not come up with a solution quickly!

Let me tell you, your mind is sharpened, in those situations.

I recall reading about the Cuban Missile Crisis, now while I have not faced that level of crisis, I certainly have some appreciation of the dynamics that pervade.

What I find though, in coming down from this extreme 'high' of pressure with clear objectives, and a strategy that succeeds, I just want to find a lady and find release!!

It is weird. I go for a walk out of the office, up the street, and just want to jump on the first woman I see.

Maybe there is an innate need to procreate, before the next stressful event might render me unable to!

That has gotta be it!

The energy I feel is also incredible. I do not come down for hours, and do not feel tired. It has to be the adrenilan.

Yes, I have had sex in this state, and yes, it has been extrodinary! It is just hard to co-ordinate!

Has anyone else had this experience? What about you ladies, does this happen for you?

imLadyBambi 58M/50F

3/15/2006 3:51 am

No. I tend to be the opposite. Immediately after those tense situations, I tend to look for comfort via a cuddle or verbal venting with someone close.

rm_MustangD6644 51M
1031 posts
3/15/2006 6:00 pm

Nips idea of rotating the chair of the meeting could also become a vital team building and motivational experience for all your people. It could help you to also groom a sucessor as well as reveal hidden strengths and weaknesses within the team that you may not be aware of.


frangipanigal 44F
10406 posts
3/15/2006 8:17 pm

So nice to see a new Australian Male blog who uses the English language as it is meant to be used!!

Enjoy your time here and beware, it can become very addictive (ask me I'll tell you how!).

In answer to your question, I feel that way every time there is a full moon. The one just gone (2 nights ago) was the first time I haven't had sex on a full moon for months!



lavaexp1 50M

3/16/2006 6:13 am

Thank you Nips for you insight.

I certainly do not think in terms of hierarchy, the word "subordinate" is not one I would ascribe, and I find it difficult to use. I do not like "Yes Men", it is dangerous. If all are in this mode, I seek a volunteer devil's advocate, to give a spirited riposte.
In many ways, this allows a level of role playing, that develops an inherent understanding in the group that the opinion expressed is separate to the person delivering it, and this detachment will lead to better debate.

Some people do have an inherent sense of hierarchy, it pervades their language, and the way they approach life. No one can subordinate them, they do it to themselves. As time goes on, they build the confidence that allows them to grow.

Your idea of rotating the chair, is one I adopt, and works very well. You are right, there are those that are trying to say and do what they think you want. My role, inherently, offers the mandate to make the call in the end. The art is to bring all to the agreed understanding, quickly, and the call is self evident. All participants feel that they have had a fair hearing, but all must execute on the decision.

Mustang, you are right on the motivation front, it sure does deliver.

As far as the full moon goes, Frangi, well, hmm, have not found the correlation, but I will surely keep my eyes open!

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