women answer the men  

lasciviousnurse 63F
160 posts
8/27/2005 7:28 pm

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women answer the men

Women, you come to this site to find a man, (okay, some come to find women - not talking to you ).
So, you spent precious time writing a sexy profile and posting your best photo, then you get hit with so many emails !
You read and read, no, this one will not do, yes, I like this one a lot, no, this one is too old, to young, to silly, doesn't make enough money, to tall, to short, to fat, to skinny.
That is okay. It is okay to be choosy and picky, I am for sure.
But those ones you want to pass on, why do you not at least write them a quick note, even if it is a thank you but no. When we do not write them back, they are left hanging, not knowing if you are on vacation, sick, working a bunch of overtime, and some men really are just interested in dating one woman and they are waiting to hear FROM YOU !!
If you are playing the pay back game of "All the men who never called me again after the first date" that is a silly and childish thing to be doing.
Try hard not to use the auto reply, but if you do at least it is at least giving them some acknowledgment.
Be kind, give a sign....whether it is a yea or nay...do not leave them hanging....it is so impolite.
Men, tell them how you feel !
Women, tell me why you would not write a man back when he took the time to write you.

Jack619 57M

8/27/2005 8:24 pm

Thank you.

That's what I've been saying for a while. Please, even a no thnaks is better than being ignored.

I appreciate that you've said it as well. <grin>

rm_Hans3h 73M

8/27/2005 8:34 pm

I expect that the fact that there are about ten times more men here looking for a lady than there are women looking for men has something to do with it. I've sent a number of messages, even more winks, and have yet to get a response. I appreciate that age and honest body description have something to do with it. Kinda puts me in the mood to change the profile, put in Brad Pitt's pic. But wait, women don't want men who play games. But what is it when someone says hello in a place where meeting someone is the reason for being here, and you don't bother to ackowledge the hello. Hmmmm?

007sexy40plus 51F  
7603 posts
8/27/2005 9:47 pm

I am a woman and we are sometimes bombarded with senseless emails. "Wanna fuck?" doesnt deserve a reply. Hello is sometimes all thats said. I had a guy to send a message that said "I hope you like chocolate cereal", what the fuck does that mean? There are even men who write emails to us women and when you take the time to write them back with a thanks but no thanks, they write back with an even nastier email. I have been here since 2001 and trust me, when you start getting the nasty emails from your turn downs, you will see why most women dont write back.

Men mask their emails and make a woman think he's all this and that, but he cant take NO and move on hes got to be mean, so I dont feel sorry for them.

When my auto reply tell them that I will not be writing back because of certain things. they already know that they will not be hearing from me if he come at me wrong in his initial email.

Even the guys who appear to have it together write nasty emails because his ego got in the way of making a connection.

The above men, I have never heard from before, but those I have heard from, only a select few got a reply from me.

Good luck to you here on the site.

I am the real deal! "Come Get Me!!!"

AtomicKisss 58M

8/27/2005 11:01 pm

Very well stated. I certainly appreciate it when a woman provides a response. Although I do not expect anyone to do so, it is especially nice when a reason is provided.

frogger1995 39F

8/27/2005 11:16 pm

I have to agree with Straightten and Mizzkitka both. When I was a standard member I only got so many replies I could send, so I replied to people I was interested in. The "qick responses" sometimes did not suit how I felt. Plus when you get silly or simple messages like Hi or Wanna fuck? I figure they are playing a numbers game and simply sending out messages like that to any female that is doable in their mind. I have about 1000 messages right now alone, I honestly don't have the time to respond to them all though I try to for those who have at least made an attempt at being original, and I certainly didn't come to this site to sit around sending messages to people that I know aren't a match for me...I would have no time left for what I really came to this site for Sorry but it is the hard honest truth I'm giving here.

Choozmi 50M

8/28/2005 10:24 pm

I never send e-mails to women on this site at all anymore unless I meet them through a discussion group. I wasted too much time composing nice introductions of myself and sending them to women with whom I thought I might be compatible and receiving no response whatsoever.

Once in a looooong while I would receive a polite "no thank you" and I never responded to those, figuring all that needed to be said was said. (I never send nasty e-mails.)

The thing is, I hear over and over women on this site complaining that they get far more e-mails than they could ever respond to, and my question is, "Why don't you take the initiative, then, and send some e-mails or winks to men that interest you? Take the initiative, do some investigating, and have some fun."

The myth that men only like women that they have pursued is not true for all men. It feels wonderful to have an attractive woman show interest in me, and it gives me confidence when I respond to her (and I always respond).

Anyhoo... I don't feel sorry for anyone who has too many people finding them attractive. There are much worse problems to have.

roll2swing 63M
59 posts
8/30/2005 4:34 am

I have experienced many unanswered mails even though I state that I accept a no as an answer but a sign would be nice. There is also the other case where they ask for facial pics. I don’t mind sending them, but even though the answer is “you look nice” or similar the conversation often ends there. Are these people just out to collect the pictures? I have decided not to send any facials anymore as I am always ready to meet everyone. We all have similar reasons to be here, don't we?

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