Married Man, why are you here ?  

lasciviousnurse 63F
160 posts
8/16/2005 9:47 am

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Married Man, why are you here ?

This is something I always ask men with whom I am going to start a "relationship" with.
I have no problem being with a married man, for they obviously are not getting something they long for at home and since I am not looking for marriage or even a LTR, I am not only pleasing myself with someone who is not pressuring me to get underfoot, but I feel that I am doing a service for their wives, so they are not pressured for sex if they do not want to be.
There is a reason for my question, I want to know what went wrong. Perhaps one day, I will be married and I want to know what not to do that will send my man into the arms of another.
I must admit too, that it makes me feel less like a bad girl if I know there is a true reason the man is seeking sex elsewhere.
Anybody want to weight in ?? Married or not, tell me what you think and married men, why are you here ?

Ana_6973 43F

8/16/2005 4:08 pm

I feel the same way. I have been known to ask married men why they stray. In part their answer and how they answer determines if I'll even give them the time of day. I don't have time for players, be they married or single. If the story keeps changing, then I have no interest as the thing I value most is honesty with me. Don't lie to me. You're already looking to cheat, so why make up a story about it? I'm not about to go tell your wife. I have no need of that drama. I just wonder what need you are looking to fulfill and why you don't feel it is being met at home. Does that make sense?

~~"I can scream as loud as your last one, but I can't claim innocence."~~

AlbertPrince 58M

8/17/2005 7:51 am

Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.

AlbertPrince 58M

8/17/2005 7:52 am

Marriage is not a word: it is a sentence.

cuddles015 56F

8/17/2005 11:17 am

I really do appreciate the questions asked here. I met a married man who went on and on about how much he loved his wife and children and wanted a discreet relationship. I have no problem with his request since that is what I want. I am separated from a jerk and he is in another state so that is my excuse. Going into detail about me is not the question here.
This man who loves his family so much that he is so paranoid has had so many affairs and one that lasted over a period of years in which he got caught and promised to clean up his act. Well, he hasn't and he said he just wants to add a little spice to his sex life. Since I am the spice I keep wondering if what he needs is a threesome and stop all of the running around. He should just include his wife and they can all be happy. How does he know she is not doing the same thing he is? He is a great lover so I don't understand.......I would do anything to keep him at home if I were her and there are many sensual ways if that is what turns him on.

nice5272 62M
28 posts
8/19/2005 11:43 am

lasciviousnurse, you hit the nail on the head. My wife found religion and our sex life changed as a result. She is a good woman and still loves sex but there is no spice any more. Gone are the sexy teddies and toys that coused so much pleasure and as for the videos ,up in smoke. sniff sniff! Women if you want to keep your men at home, don't forget who brought you to the dance.

pita111000 45M
4 posts
8/19/2005 12:32 pm

For some of us, myself, (I have not yet strayed) the desire for a small change, or the knowledge that other people still find you attractive is the charm. The desire for oral sex (I get none, though I give)is a huge drive towards an encounter.

rm_hada79deuce 47M
1 post
8/20/2005 6:50 am

I am divorced, and did stray when I was married. I'll tell you why. I used to tell my ex daily how beautiful she was, or grab her ass every time she was near. She never responded, she was simply cold. After kids, I would still ask her to sneek away alone for the weekend, and she would find any excuse not to. Women flirt with me every day, and started to tell me my wife never knew what she had. I love the flirt, the tension, the passion simmering underneath a devilish glance. If that was part of my marriage, I never would have looked elsewhere. Marriage can work, if you keep the sex alive and fresh. Even after kids, you need to sneek into a public restroom for a quicky once in a while. I always tell a girlfiend how hot she is, what drives me crazy about her, or why she is so sexy. Passion keeps a relationship alive.

dajachrigr 58M
11 posts
8/27/2005 8:55 am

I have to agree with hada79duece pretty much to a 't'. My wife will complain that we don't have sex and something has changed about me. But she will not ask for it or do it when she complains. Yet when I get 'friendly' with her I hear "God I hope your not looking for sex now I'm to tired". When we do have sex it's me doing oral to completion (she can't suck cock to save my life even w/ direction), then me on top, then me taking care of her again. Vanilla is nice every now and again but not as the only flavor. She has no interest in doing some of the 'different' things we did while courting and even before kids. She is a very good gal, yet I would like more than what I have now. I don't want to have to cheat, but Rosie is'nt so cozy when she's your right man hand.

Funninsatiable 61M

9/6/2005 1:52 pm

lascivious this is my first visit to your blog but I can assure you it won't be my last. All the questions and almost all the comments are awesome and worthy of thought.

I have to agree with those that have sighted loss of interest and passion on the part of their wives. But I think with the increasing number of married women also looking possibly those of us on the sites may have more voracious appetites and should just be happy to find each other!

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